Since we've been online, we've received many stories from people who are living the registered life and their family and friends. These stories are sad, sometimes frightening and desperate. We want everyone to read these stories to understand the effects of the registry system. Find other stories at Ethical Treatment for All Youth here.

Hate Flyers Distributed Against S.O.s

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 06.09.2010 Link to this story: [00205]

Refer in comments to tale from the registry no. 00205, ¨Hate Flyers Distributed Against S.O.¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send this to the grandparents who are obviously much abused by the idiots who did this. alex. This morning we came from church to find a flier on our porch with our son's picture and a warning of his past crime. This happened 15 years ago. He paid for his offence and has lived an exemplary life since then. Not as much as a parking ticket in all of those years. He now is married with children. He suffers from two incurable diseases. Months are spent in the hospital, sometimes paralized, sometimes blind. His times at home are treasured by his little family. Will this hurt him, his wife and us his aging parents? Yes, but not as much as the children. Tomorrow they will face the taunts of their playmates. They were just infants whan he was gone. Those who are sending out the fliers may say that they are protecting children. What about the abuse to our grandchildren? Any suggestions?

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Called a ¨Bad Person¨ by the Law

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.09.2010 Link to this story: [00204]

Refer in comments to Tale 00204, Called a Bad Person, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this GOOD person who is called bad by bad laws! Alex ---------------------------- When I said that I'm a bad person I meant that this is the way the law has positioned me in society. My granddaughter's mother was the one who pushed for more than an act of sex with my granddaughter and turned it into a rape charge. I spent 4 1/2 years in prison and as luck would have I was grandfathered away from the residency restriction. To say it's fair is a comedy if errors. Thank you for giving me a platform to bitch my feelings

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S.O. Registry Fuels Ignorance

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.09.2010 Link to this story: [00203]

Refer in comments to Tale 00203, SO Registry Fuels Ignorance, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this very stressed and unjustly treated person on the registry. I try to edit for spelling and grammar, but can´t always do it! Sometimes, perhaps, it´s better to let the story stand as written! Good luck to this man! alex ----------------------------------------- i do appologize ahead of time if my typing is off. i´m not too good at responses, but i am intrigued by what you and your colleges have said. i am charged with disseminating obscene material to a minor,b ut that is not what i want to get at. it is true having to give out all the info about where i live and work, scares me! That is due to the fact that i always feel like i´m going to looe everything just because someone thinks i`m a threat or plain out hates me. i`m tired of feeling like that and i want to help fight back and maybe help those who are like me who just want to learn and move on with their lives. i have found being on the registry an utter joke due to the fact it does nothing at all except fuel people`s ignorance and fears. i do agree with you on giving treatment and doing a reveiw on those who have committed a severe crime against a minor, but due to the fact of financial issues, fear/ignorance, political gain, and america´s instant gratification issues it will be a long fight, but it must be an intelligent one based on fact not fear and the wanting to stop the wasted time and effort to those who are not a threat and dealing with those who are. i still think there should be punishment for smaller crimes but not as bad as they are now. we are all humans and yes we all make mistakes and sometimes we either need time to learn from them or a helping hand from someone who wants to help not just because they have to.

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Forced Terrible Plea ¨Bargains, Juries Sleep Thru Trials¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 01.09.2010 Link to this story: [00202]

Refer in comments to Tale No 202, Forced Pleas, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this very stressed but supportive mom. alex -------------- My 19 year old son was just wrongfully "Convicted" and sentenced to life in prison- of/for Sex Abuse with the child of a man he was working for after a deal they had made for him to work for the man to pay for a truck- This went very wrong- and my son threatened to file charges for theft of the Vehicle (the man refused to give him) and also threatened to tell police about the man's Meth Habits. This obviously angered the man- and so he retaliated by pressing charges against my son for sexually abusing his daughter. The man told my son immediately that he was going to press charges against him- and yet WAITED almost a Month to take the child to the Dr. and/or to file charges. There was NO Physical/Medical Evidence to support what he was accused of. My son has NO priors and never got into any kind of trouble- not even a speeding ticket- the 4 years this case dragged out. He made it Clear to his public Defender: He would NEVER take a Plea Bargain for this Crime- not even the one they offered the day before Trial- dropping it clear down to Probation. His public Defender had FOUR Years to PREPARE His DEFENSE- and did absolutely NOTHING.- Begging him to take the Plea the Day Before- even Calling ME a BAD Mother for NOT forcing my son to take the Plea. The Lawyer called me 24 hrs Before the Trial to ask ME Who OUR Witnesses were going to be! We had NONE- just ME- and my daughter. No DEFENSE! The child couldnt even point My SON- the person who Supposably Abused Her- out in the court room. She had No Idea WHO He was... and had NO Memory of Anything EVER Happening to her- or SAYING Anything Ever Happened to Her. The Jury Slept thru the Trial. They Deliberated in less than an hour- and found him GUILTY. I am NOW- in the Process of trying to RAISE the $10,000 we Need for the Retainer for the Big Law Firm I have Retained for my Son- for his Appeal. I have had to go around giving little speeches on my son's behalf- and trying to make people aware of how Easily this could happen to Them- in order to raise the money we need. So far- I have only managed to raise $2500 of the $10,000. The Law Firm says we have a good case for Appeal. So many things went very wrong. But we still have to raise the money. If you Know of any other WAY to help raise the money for my son's appeal- please let me Know. My son's Life is Dependent upon Me coming up with this money. He is Innocent- and has maintained his Innocence for the last 4 years- and even at Trial- and at his Sentencing- and is willing to Fight this all the way to the Supreme Court- and Beyond- if Necessary and/or Possible- Because he says if He doesnt stand up against the "System"- then WHO Will? We've become very aware of just How EASY it Is to Accuse Innocent People of Sex Crimes- out of Sheer anger and spitefulness- with No REAL Evidence to SUPPORT their Accusations- and how Easy it is for the prosecution to prey on the Jury's EMOTIONS- rather than present concrete Evidence- and push a guilty verdict though- with very little effort- because it's so Taboo... and just How Many Innocent people are being Bullied into taking Plea Bargains by telling them they WILL Go to Prison for 25 years- and Scaring them into taking the Pleas- not for their Client's Sakes- but for their OWN sakes- as this counts as a WIN for them- without ever having to put any work into the case. Even if/when my son is finally FREE- and He WILL BE- it wont be the END... as this is just the Beginning- This is fast becoming our CAUSE... because SOMEone Has to Point out all the Flaws of our Justice System- of the Major Epidemic that is quickly taking over our Country- Our Rights and Freedoms- are at Jeopardy... Innocent People are being FORCED to be Labeled and treated like second class citizens- because Angry Spiteful People are ALLOWED to make Accusations- without ANY PROOF! We are slowly building a "Following" of people who are ABLE to SEE the Terrible INJUSTICE that is taking place in this Country... tho- this doesnt come withOUT a great deal of Hatred and Persecution along the way... and yet- My Son REFUSED to Give in to a Corrupt System... and I REFUSE to STOP FIGHTING for my Son... and Spreading this Message.

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Trip to Library Ruined Son´s Life

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 01.09.2010 Link to this story: [00201]

Refer in comments to Tale No 201, Trip to Library, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this supportive mom. alex ---------------- My son was 18 years old when he and his friend met two girls at the library. They all went home to watch a movie together. The girls told the boys they were sixteen. Both girls had consensual sex with the boys. Who would have ever thought that a trip to the library would wind up ruining my son?s entire life. Turns out the girls were only 14. The girl that my son was with told a teacher that she had sex and that she thought she might be pregnant. My son spent nine months in maximum security prison and is five years in to ten years of probation and a registered sex offender. He has tried to commit suicide quite a few times over the past six years. Why? Because he can´t get a job, no one will rent him an apartment, he can`t go to the mall, restaurants,movies, amusement parks, any place where there might be children under the age of 18. For a long time he could not go to family functions or celebrate holidays with us because his cousins were under 18. He spends his days and nights alone and in his room playing video games because he can?t go out and make friends because he?s not allowed to go anywhere. He can`t use a computer, forget about the internet. Even after probation is over he still won`t be able to work because he is a convicted felon, an ex-convict and a sex offender. Who would hire him? His self esteem is non-existent, he feels like a leper that the whole world is judging, and he feels like a failure that will always have to live at his Mom`s house hiding in his attic room. The worst part, he finally found someone who saw through all of this and started a relationship three months ago and fell in love with her. Yesterday, she broke up with him because she is fighting for visitation rights and custody of her daughter and would have no chance of winning if they knew she was dating a registered sex offender. Last night my son attempted to take his life again by taking an overdose of pills. I don?t know what to do or where to go for help! Did I mention that during his trial and incarceration I was fighting for my life against cancer? This nightmare will never be over, and it?s all because the laws are written in black and white, a sex offender is a sex offender, whether it´s a forty year old man with a five year old, or two teenagers making out on the couch. My son had never been in trouble before this day, and hasn´t been in trouble since. This could be your son, brother, cousin, grandson.I never in a million years would have dreamed that this would be how my sons life turned out. >

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S.O. Not Treated As a Human

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 01.09.2010 Link to this story: [00200]

Refer in comments to Tale 200, Not Treated as Human, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this young man who is so unjustly isolated. Alex -------------------------- As a registered sex offender this is very important to me. I feel like I lose more every day. I´m tired of not being treated human, but more like something you cast away.

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They Are Destroying My Job, My family

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 01.09.2010 Link to this story: [00199]

Refer in comments to Tale 00199, They Are Destroying My Job, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. These laws are byzantine and arbitrary! I´ll send comments along to this very oppressed person on the registry. alex ------------------- I have been having a battle with the sex offender registry for the past 6 years, and its not looking like its going to end anytime soon. Here is my story in brief. When I was 18 years old, I made the terrible mistake of having intercourse with a 14 year old girl. I was ordered 5 years of probation. At the time I was sentenced, the state was requesting that I register as a sex offender. my attorney objected, saying I met the requirements in the state of Wisconsin to not be required to register if the judge did not feel it was needed. The Judge told me that I met the requirements not to register, but he was going to make me register at that time and said there might be a chance of me getting off the registry when I finished my probation. On April 1st 2009, 3.5 years later after having no major violations of my probation, I returned to court and asked the judge to if I could be removed from both the probation, and sex offender registry. He granted me both requests. Immediately after being removed from probation and the sex offender registry, I incorporated the business I was working on starting, and purchased a home with my wife. I also have 2 daughters. Literally the day after I closed on my house, I got a letter in the mail saying the state was appealing the judge´s decision. So I got an attorney again to fight this case. After waiting for over a year for the appeals court to make their decision, last week I just found out they sided with the state, and are going to make me register again as a sex offender. Their reason is that even though I was 18, and the victim was 14, the law said only not greater then a four year difference. We argued that reasonable people would say a 14 and 18 year old are 4 years apart, and not greater then four years apart. We also argued that in Wisconsin there is a statute that says, any time year is mentioned, and if its not clarified as anything else, it means for calender years. According to the definition of calender year I would be within 4 calender years of my victim. This coming back on the registry is going to destroy my business, and destroy the life of my wife and daughters. I am also afraid they are going to make me move, because the home I purchased is one block away from a school. Please, is there anything you can do to help me?

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Only Person Who Saw Me Was Driving 75mph!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 26.08.2010 Link to this story: [00198]

Refer in comments to tale no 198 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them to this person, who also has an interesting idea for getting funds. alex ------------------ I am suffering a conviction at bench trial of lewd conduct in public. And made to register as a sex offender even though the only person offended was driving by at 75 mph and saw me off the side of the road. I have read the Important High court rulings regarding various challenges to the constitutionality of SOR. I am appalled at how misrepresented the process of SOR is in these cases. For instance in Smith V Doe, Alaska (ASORA) Roberts, claims, and it´s utterly false, that a registrant may update his registration by male. I have to go to the police station every time I register. As a homeless person this is every 30 days. Also the courts rely far too heavily on the conviction as the source of all the problems that flow from SOR. But this cannot be so. It is only natural that with time, a person convicted of a crime will change. SOR prevents making a distincton from the person at the time of offense to the person many years later. One cannot say that an 18 year old convicted of statutory rape which carries virtually no stigma for a kid that age, is going to feel the same stigma as a 40 year old who has his current image up on a registry of sex offenders. Also, as in my case, lewd conduct in public that did not even involve indecent exposure, is going to be a conviction that rises to the level of stigma of being on a registry that labels me as a "registred sex offender." The only thing offended in my case is the puritanical notion of sex, and not a person´s rights or person or property. The ball has been dropped in these cases over and over as the true effects of SOR are simply underrepresented. Many states have civil tort in which the injury is "emotional distress", the SRO suffered a great deal of emotional distress, his life is never the same, he is never out from under the oppression of police contact that is demeaning and stigmatizing. Our scientists are learning that these stresses lead to brain damage, heart disease and even insanity. It interferes with a person ability to learn, to sleep, to make social bonds and to feel happiness. Dismissing all of these factors the courts have succeeded in declaring these laws "non punitive" while even informal probation is considered to be punitive, a booking process is treated as a "day in jail" and that is punitive, but essentially the same process during sex offender registration is not? I am trying to establish a new data base to mount an argument to overturn the ruling that SOR is non punitive. I believe we can accomplish this and have it ruled unconstitutional on multiple grounds for many offenses. Maybe not all. We have to provide information to researchers that will be able to proof with the clearest evidence that SOR is punitive in its effects despite the legislative stated intent that it is to be purely regulatory. What I read on this Tales from the registry is a good start, but we need everyone to document, and to establish a fund to pay for research performed by credible and competent researchers. I have read that there are millions of RSO's it should not be too difficult for us to fund research with these numbers. Also legal representation. Money is the only way to get things working and every RSO in the Nation needs to get involved. As I see it, if you are free, then your crime must not have been so horrible that you are beyond human compassion I also know there are a great many innocent people who have plead guilty out of fear or were wrongly convicted. We also need to fund research into the area of wrongful allegations and the ability to overcome the presumption of guilty when innocent.

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Pitfalls Place Before My Every Step!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 26.08.2010 Link to this story: [00197]

Refer in comments to Tale 197, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this man. alex --------------- I spent over twenty years in prison for my crimes and served every day of that time. I accepted may sentence but found myself being sentenced to more and more restrictions as my time went by. What the law books told me couldn't be done was being done over and over as the fear of a sex crime grow. I still can't believe so many restrictions have been added to a sentence I received in 1988. I still have nightmares as I visualize the number of pitfalls placed right in front of every step I take to help myself and others. The worst part is the restrictions aren't helping the problem - their only purpose is to punish. I've had little chance to help in the way I know I can: sharing what I know has helped me.

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Child Branded ¨Predatory¨ for Life!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.08.2010 Link to this story: [00196]

Refer in comments to Tale 196, Child Branded Predator for Life, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm I´ll send them to this terribly unjustly treated youth - this is one of the worst cases in our files. Our hearts go out to him! Alex ------------ I have the right to vote and a clean criminal record.but im registered in iowa for an offence occuring 13 or more years ago when I was between ten and twelve. With court draging out for 8 years and a deffered judgement placeing me on the registry at 18. Due to my charges being what they are the Department of criminal investigations /SOR sent me a letter stating that I will be registered for life. My AHEM victim is willing to make a statement on my behalf as she feels that playing doctor at ten does not make me an evil sexual deviant and persons from the iowa department of corrections are also willing to back me. If i cant have my freedom and liberty then I will have my freedom posthumously because the Government that I once loved and depended on has defficated on my rights.

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Statutory Rape Not Always Rape

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.08.2010 Link to this story: [00195]

Refer in comments to Tale 00195, Stat. Rape Not Always Rape, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this abused young man. alex ----------------- Statutory rape is not always rape. In fact, many times this is not the case. coersion or intimidation are most certainly not always present in a case where a victim is under the age of consent. sure, many times this is the case...just as many times it is not. My girlfriend is 15 and I am 19. her father didnt approve of our relationship and found out we had sex and reported me. (at the time, I was 18 and she was 14-we are exactly 4 years, 3 days apart. It happened about 2 months before our respective birthdays). She took my virginity! I dont go around and solicit young minors for sex; I just met her, fell in love with her, and it happened. I would never make her feel bad, or convince her to do something that she doesnt want to. We chose to do it together. I'm in love with her!!!! And now I've lost the love of my life...the girl of my dreams, and I'm being thrown into the same pot as child molesters and rapists. How is that right? statutory rape laws should exist to protect young girls from older men, but in these times it's becoming a god damn witch hunt fueld by the idea that every case is the same...it's not. There are predatory relationships that should be prosecuted...just as there are loving relationships that should not be. There should be defenses available to honest and good people who are in circumstances like mine. Manditory sentencing is also a problem. I live in the state where my 'crime' carries a manditory sentence of 9 months imprisonment. The judge cant even remove that! it takes the case out of the hands of the judge and does not allow judicial discretion so that all of the facts are taken into consideration. Young people fall in love. These laws are being twisted into a hammer and used to beat down on young 'offenders' by moral conservatives and angry, vengeful parents. The law enables them, and it's sickening. Society needs to wake up, realize whats happening here, and do something about it. If I go to prison (and probably any way if I dont), I plan on writing many letters to people in positions of authority. I hope someone listens.

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Vigilantes Set Fire to SO´s Porch

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.08.2010 Link to this story: [00194]

Refer in comments to Tale No 00194, Vigilantes Set Fire, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this unfortunate man who lives in an isolated, rural community, and needs support! WE NEED TO RESIST VIGILANTES! alex -------------------------------------------- I have a short story to tell you. Right after i got out of military prison. A teenager in our neighborhood found my name on the Sex offender registry and decided he wanted to set a fire on my front porch. We called the police and we knew who started the fire. The was a can of gasoline right next to where the teenager was hiding. The police said they could not prove who started the fire and did nothing to the teenager. One of the other things i think should happen. Is that if people want to access the registry maybe the should have to create an account and login to view the registry that way they can be tracked and if something happens to someone one the registry then there is a trail.

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Daughter Had No Criminal History

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.08.2010 Link to this story: [00193]

Please refer in comments to tale no 00193 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this wonderful mom and her unjustly treated daughter. alex ------------ My daughter had no criminal history at all. Someone she met online sent her a couple images of what appeared to be minors in sex acts. She didn't report this, didn't ask for the pictures, didn't forward the pictures to anyone. For having these pictures on her computer she received 5 years probation and is now on the registry for 20 years! Her lawyer convinced her to plead guilty to avoid jail time and also lead her to believe she wouldn't have to register. The laws desperately need to be changed! She had to register for her offense along with people who have raped children. That makes no sense at all. She lost her job because of this along with so much more. People who don't know a sex offender, don't really know what's going on. They need to know! I'm thankful to have found this website. Hopefully together we can get some changes made.

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Facing 5 Yrs´ Prison For Wanting to Stay Dry!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.08.2010 Link to this story: [00192]

Refer in comments to tale no 192, Facing 5 Yrs Prison, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this unfortunate offender´s faithful friend! alex ----------------- My friend was convicted wrongly of a sex crime against a girls that he did not know was underage. He kissed her and touched her breast after she came on to him. The district attorney had it out for him because he dated the D.A.'s daughter. He pled guilty because his 'court appointed lawyer' told him "she couldn't fight the DA on this one and it would be in his best interest to plead guilty". He is being harrassed unfoundly now that he is out of jail by the law here and none of the other sex offenders are being harrassed. He went to Flordia where he unknowingly stayed with his girl friend 5 nights (nonconsecutive) because the tent he was living in- which the state told him to live in(under a bridge) was getting wet from rain. He was arrested in Flordia for being within 1000 yards of a park. He is now looking at 5 years in prison because he just wanted to be dry. This in itself is criminal and unjust. I feel that our 'wonderful'United States is no longer a democratic nation, but one of people who are selfish, unjust and very crooked. I have seen too many people go through our system unjustly and others that do deserve more punishment are set free. we have a man who murdered his frind by gunshot in cold blood high on a crack binge let our after 2 months in jail. Where is the justice???? What has happened to our nation? Who have we become???? We NEED HELP keeping our children safe from the real predators, not ones who have been run through the system unjustly. why are we wasting Police time on 'sex offenders' that are truly not sex offenders when we have such a shortage of police help for more serious crimes?? Not everyone LABELED SEX OFFENDER is truly a sex offender. My friend was good enough for our D.A.'s daughter for 4 years, why all of a sudden is he supposed to go to prison for crimes he did not commit? He is someone´s son,,and brother and he is loved as well. His life is OVER. When he commits suicide because he can't take anymore...who is to blame? ALL of you people who can't see through the red tape - YOU are to blame!

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Every time we hear a child cry behind us....

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.08.2010 Link to this story: [00191]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 191, Every Time we hear a child crying, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this reformed offender who continues to be punished! alex NOTE: PLEASE INCLUDE YOUR EMAIL - I won´t publish it, but without an email I cannot send you comments! ------------------------------ I think that the sex offenders who keep on taking advantage of the system and the ones that are really dangeruos are not on the registry. But the ones like me who have made a life for myself and their families also take the hits from the laws. My employer knows that I'm on the registry and has gotten calls about me. But he says he has never lost a client because of me. its a form of discrimination against those who lead normal lives. The constitution protects against this. They say children do not lie, they will say almost anything to keep from getting in trouble. They also twist your words and play mind games to confuse you to slip up and say what they want to hear. Of course if you don't have enough money you get the worst deal and railroaded into jail. I remarried and I have had an influence in two minor childrens lives that are out of school and one is a freshman in college. I really don't think the system is made for people like me and others like me who are reformed. I also think that if God can forgive me for my mistakes, the american puplic can let the past stay in the past. I walk down the street every day and in many stores every week, But I still feel like i´m in JAIL. thats a bad feeling! Because, like the other reformed people, we keep looking over our shoulders EVERY TIME WE HEAR A CHILD CRY BEHIND US IN THE STORE!

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Judge Allows Appeal of Status

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 20.08.2010 Link to this story: [00190]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 190, Judge Allows Appeal, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this mother. alex ------------- My son is in prison for using lime wire and frost wire and looking for adult porn, unfortunately he clicked on a few wrong pictures and now is in prison. He is not an SO and he was 20 when this happened. He got 15 months, 1 year probation. The best of all is that the judge gave us room to appeal the status. He stated that my son was not a SO and the only reason that he has to give him that status is because the laws require anyone that does anything with sex is considered a SO. There are to many young adults getting caught up in this especially with the internet and these young adults have their life ruined. We are appealing the status because of the violation of due process and equal treatment under the law. The judge gave him plenty to work with. We are hoping that this could possibly help all the people that have the status. Once you do your time and are set free that should be it. No other crime has websites and registration. The SO status is gwtting way out of hand. THE MOM ADDED THIS INFORMATION LATER - Thank you for your response. I would love for you to put this out there. I want others to have hope. Not only is this going to help my son, if we win, but it could possibly help others that are on the registry as well. Once you do your time for any crime you commit that should be it. I understand this is the "hot-button" issue right now and I understand that there are people who hurt children but there are also many more crimes out there and we don't have a registry out there for all crimes. This judge has given my family hope that we can fight this and win. I promised my son I would fight for him while he is in prison, where he should not be. WHen can anyone make a mistake and end it there. He is into cars and girls. No one can be forgiven. I also read an article that as long as states put people on this regisrty they receive federal money. This is a bunch of BS. They are destroying lives. It reminds me of suing people when you feel you are wronged, its gotten way out of hand. All my friends and family are behind my son and would let him babysit their kids anytime. He is very open and honest. He has lost so much and I don't want him losing anymore. He is paying for being stupid and immature, but he shouldn't have to pay the rest of his life and neither should anyone else. One other thing is they found numerous videos on his computer and he didn't even see them, they were just sent through this share program. Why don't the FBI go after those making the videos and taking pictures and shut down these share programs that allow these things to go through the program. If they can do it for music, I recently heard that they did close down some programs who shared music, why not this porn. There needs to be something done. >

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Has Plenty of Work Experience, But Can´t Get Work Due to SO Status

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 19.08.2010 Link to this story: [00189]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00189, No One will give me a 2nd chance, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them on to this badly treated minister. alex ---------------- I worked for 27 years faithfully in the church as an associate pastor, yet through a failing marriage I made a very serious one time mistake with my daughter, fondled her while drinking, and it cost me my career, reputation and livelihood. I have been out of prison 1 year now and have been terminated from jobs that knew my complete background, full disclosure at application, yet they let me go because an adult female working in the same building as myself felt "uncomfortable." I would like to be employed but have only been able to find occasional part-time self-employment working home improvements. I have a lot of experience, training in my field as a music educator, but no one will give me a second chance.

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Husband Refuses to Lie

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.08.2010 Link to this story: [00188]

Refer in comments to Tale 00188, Husband Refuses to Lie, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm I´ll send them along to this frustrated wife. alex ´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´´ My husband is a so-called \"sex offender\", or so says his ex-wife. She took thei daughter to many different psychologists who finallly told her what she wanted to hear. Twenty years later, while driving a tractor trailer through CA, he was stopped due to a minor traffic accident (which was not his fault). He was immediately arrested the old incident and thrown in jail. The company he worked for left him in CA and fired hiim on the spot with no way home. We live in Kentucky. At that time CA had a law on the books that said she could drag anyone, whether or not she knew them, off the streat to say he had molested them, or someone they knew, and they would immediately arrest him again for another trial. Therefore we had to take a plea aggrement. Now mind you that the doctors paperwork said this girl was still a virgin although they were claiming that she had been raped. Three years later there was paperwork saying she was badly bruised in the same area although my husband was long gone out of the state. Yet he was still found guilty. Needlesss to say, this has cost us thousand of dollars that we didn\'t have. This was right before all of the priests were found out, also in California, and all of them got let go without a trial and NOT put in any sex offender books. We now have a lawyer in CA trying to help us. This is the fourth time she has gone to trial to help my husband. According to her, his charges are supposed to be dropped all together. The judge wants to make his charges into a misdemeaner and yet keep him on the sex offender books and make him continue to register as a sex offender. Thank God we had a great probation officer here in KY that believed in him. According to KY laws you have to go through a two year counceling session, once a week. To get out of this you must admit \'what you have done\' and show being all better and properly sorry. My husband could not do this as he didn\'t commit the crime in the first place and his probation officer somehow got him out of it. He, my husband, does not believe in lying. He was a youth minister until he was arrested. Since then he and the rest of his family have been nothing more than riff-raff and ousted from the community. Our son had to quit his senior year of high school as he could no longer stand to be called a pedofile, or hear all the crap about his mother and father and what horrible people we are. I can not begin to tell you the hell this has put us through, even to this day. We no longer judge people who\'ve been arrested, whether or not they are found innocent or guilty. There is too much that isn\'t said to believe one way or another. This has changed our lives in so many ways. This has changed my husband so horribly. He is not, and never will be again, the man I married although his son and I still love him dearly. This has got to quit. How can that judge in CA drop his case to a misdemeaner and yet still keep him on all the books, etc. It sure sounds like double jeapordy to me! His attorney goes back in front of the same judge (for the third time this time) tomorrow (Monday, August 16th). Please keep us in your prayers.

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No Forgiveness, No Redemption

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.08.2010 Link to this story: [00187]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00187 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this supportive mom! alex -------------------------------------------- My son Joey is in a VA jail. He was sentenced to do 7 years. 22 counts of sodomy, double felon, federal government waiting to pounce only because Joey´s (attorney) gave the FEDs an tidy package. So they don't have to do a thing other than give him more charges. He is supposed to be at a university where he´s been admitted to work on his PhD, but instead he´s in jail! This is a nightmare, he made a big mistake and it cost him his life. There is no forgiveness, no redemption. I need to fight this somehow, I'm out of ideas.

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Sexual Immorality Runs the Media

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 27.07.2010 Link to this story: [00186]

Refer in comments to Tale 00186, Sexual Immorality Runs the Media, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this mother. alex -------------------------- When my son was 21 he was kissing a 13 year old girl. The girls mother was relentless and wanted him locked away for life. He was in jail for 7 months, did 3 years probation and now is on lifetime supervision, which was never explained to us when we took the plea to keep him out of jail for up to 10 years. He has had 2 counselors who said that he is a very low risk of reoffending (he was never in any trouble before), many of the people in authority that he talks to agree that he is a low risk yet he is on lifetime supervision. Whenever my daughter is here with my 2 grandchildren, he cannot be at home. He is not allowed to talk to them on the phone or see pictures of them. He cannot afford to live elsewhere right now. We found out that if he makes any mistakes, it is automatically a felony charge against him, for the rest of his life. The girl has since apologized and said that it was just a kiss, it was mutual and she never meant it to go to court. No one seems to care. I see first hand that he is treated like a monster. In a country where we allow such sexual immorality to run the media, how is it that there can be such condemnation for a sexual mistake? What hypocrisy. This has consumed our lives for the last 4 years. My heart aches for the ones who have noone to help them. They have no chance at justice. Thank you for listening. I will keep your website on my computer so i can see if there is something that i can do to make people aware of the fact that these young men are never done with punishment. (in no way is this any kind of condoning of sexual crimes, it is just asking where is the justice in all of it?

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Ridiculous Restrictions Cause Recidivism

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 19.07.2010 Link to this story: [00185]

Refer in Comments to Tale No. 00185, Restrictions Cause Recidivism, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this good, supportive mother! alex -------------------------------- My son pled no contest to robbery in 1999. He received 7 years. Somewhere around 2000-2001 while in prison he was again charged and took a guilty plea (indecent exposure) for exposing himself to a female correction officer. At the time he was 19 or 20 years old locked behind bars. He was paroled in 2005 just before turning 25 years old. He later failed a drug test administered by his parole officer and was taken back to jail on a parole violation. When he was released the second time he was made to wear a GPS device which prohibited his ability to live with friends or family and caused him to become homeless. I would like to know what type of programs, if any are available to help rehabilitate him. My son told me that he does not qualify for programs he have tried to get into because of his record. I found that hard to believe but I called the 211 number to find out and was told that because the crime he committed at age 18 (he will soon be 30) is considered a violent crime and he has a sex offense that he does not qualify for any programs available. You can get into a program with one or the other not both. I was told that because of his unique combination there are no programs for him. He is not allowed to live in any homeless shelters and there are simply no programs for Violent (robbery) sex-offenders (indecent exposure). At this time he is now back in prison for failing to register and facing more prison time. I wish to point out that during his probation he was not allowed to live within something like 2000 feet of a school, park or any other place where children might congregate. He was required to wear a leg GPS device. He live mostly in his car during that time because not many places exist in San Diego or the area he was allowed to travel due to the GPS device that is not within 2000 feet of a school, park or place where children congregate. I did not believe it when I heard it but after meeting with his probation officer I found it to be true. Once he came to my home to shower and fell asleep on the couch. The next time he met with his parole officer he was told if he did it again they would lock him up. It seems like many circumstances surrounding his trying to change his life style are nearly impossible and cause for his recidivism. Someone please help.

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"My Son Was Railroaded"

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 30.05.2010 Link to this story: [00184]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00184, ¨My Son Was Railroaded¨and send to alexm60@fastmail. fm. I´ll send them to this anguished mom. NOTE: All tales and blogs posted on the rsol site are the opinions of those writing in, not the official position of RSOL, which also cannot validate the statements made. We publish these in support of free expression. Alex Marbury ---------- MY SON WAS RAILROADED BY HIS TEENAGE GIRLFRIEND´S MOTHER. MY SON WAS STILL A TEEN AT THE TIME. THE GIRL´S MOTHER ALLOWED AND ENCOURAGED THEIR ACTIVITIES AND SHE (the mother) ALSO DATED AND HAD RELATIONS WITH YOUNG BOYS AS YOUNG AS MY SON. THE MOTHER HINTED STRONGLY TOWARD HAVING RELATIONS WITH MY SON, WHEN HE DIDN´T GIVE IN, SHE FILED CHARGES AGAINST HIM. TO ADD TO IT WHEN HE WAS CLOSE TO GETTING OUT OF PRISON SHE HAD HER DAUGHTER WRITE TO HIM AND TELL HIM THAT HE COULD WRITE TO HER, THEN TOLD HER DAUGHTER SHE WANTS ANY LETTERS HE WRITES. WE ADVISED HIM NOT TO,BUT HE DID WRITE, AND AS SOON AS HE WAS OUT SHE WENT BACK TO COURT AND HAD HIM CHARGED AGAIN! THIS IS A TERRIBLE INJUSTICE AND HAS CAUSED A GREAT DEAL OF HEARTACHE TO OUR FAMILY. THE LAWS NEED TO BE CHANGED. >

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THEY SAY I HELP GROOM THE KIDS: HOW DO I FIGHT THIS?

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 23.05.2010 Link to this story: [00183]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00183 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send them to this very stressed and good mom and wife! alex ----------------------- SOCIAL SERVICES SAY I´M HELPING GROOM MY CHILDREN! HOW DO I FIGHT THIS? Social Services built a pretty hefty case against me, all circling around the fact that I am "encouraging" my children to be in a relationship with a high-risk offender, and that I must be "grooming" them for him. This is what I am fighting. I don't know if this is a legal point or not. I believe I am in need of a pro-s.o. lawyer. I don't know if they can take my children from me if I refuse to cut contact between him and them. They draw him pictures and make him art projects and occasionally, about once a month talk to him on the phone. He is a very active part in their life as co-parent with me. Keep in mind, his crime was not against anyone violently, or against prepubescent children. He never raped or molested anyone as his offense. And furthermore, my children are not related to anyone he was involved with, nor are they his "victims". I could really use some advice about this if anyone else in the RSOL has run across the matter I am dealing with. A social worker is coming over to talk to me. I think I am going to ask questions and take notes as to what their objectives are and then try to figure out how the heck I am going to afford a lawyer for this mess, or pray that I find a lawyer who is willing to do some pro-bono work. Thanks, I appreciate the input from everyone!

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No Justice in Laws That Threaten & Lure

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.05.2010 Link to this story: [00182]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00182, No Justice in Laws That Threaten and Lure, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I¨ll send them along to this rightly angry offender. Please remember, these stories and blogs we post are NOT necessarily the view of RSOL or its administrators, but are those of the writer. We publish a wide variety of views in the interest of getting those views heard. SEE COMMENT AND QUERY BELOW THIS TALE ----------------------------------------------------- As long as the law can threaten, promise, lure, there will be no justice. The law needs to be reformed. Mass hysteria has to stop. The public needs to be educated. The Sex Offender Registry is unconstitutional! What about people who commit murder? Or drunk drivers who kill innocent people? They don't have to register. THIS LAW NEEDS TO BE CHANGED: There is a difference in "PREDATOR" and "NO RISK OFFENDER". I checked my papers on my first year of registration and it said I would have to register 5 more years after probation. The next year I checked, it then said I had to register for life! That's B.S. I am a God-fearing man and I have paid my dept to society with thousands of dollars. I never failed one polygraph, or a plythsmograph which women offenders don't have to take. I'ts time for a change before everybody in the world becomes a registered offender! Its time to end registering of offenders who are not a threat or danger to children or anyone. I can't even get a job because they won´t hire felons but they will hire illegal immigrants. ---------------- QUERY - Just a curious question here. In what state does the poster refer to when he states that women do not have to take a plythshmograph? As far as i knew they do but I think the term is different.

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A Minor S.O. Now Committed for Life!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.05.2010 Link to this story: [00181]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0181, Minor S.O. Now in Lifetime Commitment, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . This mother needs help! If you have any knowledge of civil commitment laws and people challenging them in ANY state, please send them to me and I´ll send them along to her. This is a brief letter to give you background information on ourselves, our situation and our son. He was conficted of a sexual offense against a minor and sentenced to a term of three years, of which he must serve 85%. He has done so, he was due to get out in April, 2010, after serving his sentence. But NOW he has been civilly committed in New Jersey, and is subject to confinment for an indefinite period to time. Can he be helped, has anyone fought civil committment successfully and won their release? Do you have any information we might be able to use to challenge this unfair practice? At present we are using the Public Advocate as his attorney. Can you provide us with any additional information and/or help? We have a limited amount of resources as myself and my husband are both disabled. Thank you for your help and cooperation. A distraught mother of a juvenile offender, now in civil commitment

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Bipolar Son Will Have Problems with Polygraph

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 13.05.2010 Link to this story: [00180]

Refer in comments to tale no. 0180, ¨BIPOLAR¨, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this supportive mom. alex --------------------- My son is bipolar and was 19 when he had CONSENSUAL sex with two girls (each almost 14 years of age). The acts were separate. Both girls never wavered from their original police statement that the sex was consensual. The judge ruled from the bench that it was consensual. Yet he recieved 10 years probation and will be a registared SO for life. I worry if he will be able to pass a polygraph since he is bipolar and on medications. I want to help get these ridiculous laws changed. It is my belief that they are unconstitutional.

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Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.05.2010 Link to this story: [00179]

Please refer in comments to Tale No. 0179, Time Does NOT heal all wounds, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . This person sent no email, so I can´t send comments to him!!! PLEASE SEND YOUR EMAIL - WE WILL KEEP IT ANONYMOUS, BUT OTHERWISE WE CANNOT CONTACT YOU!!!!! The opinions expressed in tales and blogs are not the official opinion of RSOL or its leaders, but we print them in the interest of free expression, and exchanging information. THIS IS ANOTHER PLEA BARGAIN GONE WRONG! alex ------------------------------------ Well here is my horror story. And I can only hope that it's seen with open eyes, like all the others, by the politicains, lawmakers and media, that have created this frenzie of false fear. I, for 9 years now, have had to registar as a SO at the local police department of which I reside. Time does not "heal all wounds" in this case as no matter what I do, or where I go, I can't escape the title that has been bestowed upon me. Did I do something wrong? Many will say yes. Even I, through my brief therapy, believe that I acted inappropriately to my "victim". Of course when I went to therapy through court order, I refused to admit that I was a so called "sex offender". I was then told by my PO and therapist, that if I didn't admit to the fact that I would not sucessfully complete the class and that, in turn, would violate my probation. I had to verbally say....."I am a sex offender." Well guess what....I would not, and did not. Because in my eyes, my wifes eyes, my kids eyes, and in all the eyes of those who know and love me, I wasn't. So I violated my probation and spent the next 30 days in the county jail.....willingly. (over christmas by the way). Ironically, the judge on my case, through the help of a high paid lawyer, dismissed the actual violation charge and I went back home to my family. Because I never missed a class and was paid in full. At least ONE judge saw the light. If I'm guilty of anything, it's that of audultry. And for that I'm truley sorry. And if that is a legal crime I'll accept it and do my time. I met a woman, and I say woman as she was 33 years old, through a friend. I was sexually attracted to here as she was a very attractive woman. One day we got together and started "making out". Now this in itself is not grounds for a \"sexual offense\" I guess. Well one thing led to another and I proceeded to take things a little further. We had had a few drinks and were both feeling pretty loose. I, like most guys, including all that are politicians and lawmakers, used my "gut" feeling on what I thought should be the next move. I'm going to continue with a few details that may offend people. But these details are necassary in order to better understand how it all played out. It is in no way intended to offend anyone. So my next move was to "work my way down". The upper half created no issues. As I moved down, I still noticed no issues until I had....well, you know. This was all done with my hand. At this point, this woman totally went ballistic. I freaked out and even told her I was sorry. It's just what I "thought" she wanted. I was wrong in thinking that way. I was way out of line and given the chance would take it all back. But I can't. This woman filed charges againt me. I was livid and beside myself. I was 35 years old and had never had this kind of reaction to what I thought was a "normal" move considering the willingness of this woman. Especially knowing I was married. Foolishness....absolutletly. Sex offense? By todays standards, apparently so. I have not had the misfortune of many in that I've lost jobs as a result. I make a good living and have a great support team in my family. However, I am utterly frustrated in the problem of living. I lost my home due to this as I plea arranged a 44 month sentence. I took that as that was the ONLY way I could guarantee that I would see my kids grow. As my attorney put it...."25 years is a long time to put in the hands of a jury". Would I have won? Maybe, maybe not. It's funny how people, and I used to be one of them, say...."If you didn't do it take it to trial". When they come to you with a miniscule plea deal, most take it. Because if you dont and loose at trial your looking at the full term of the offense. If they knew you did it and had a good case against you, why would they offer a short deal? It\'s a conviction and a notch under they're belt. That's why. You see....justice isn't about justice anymore. It's about winning and loosing. No one in they're right mind, facing 25-30 years is going to turn down 44 months when offered. They know this. Yes there are some that do. And if they're innocent and win....that's great. I'm not going to take that chance, like most others. I DO NOT condone sexual offenses. It makes me sick to my stomach. But I think there needs to be categorization. For those of you who think I'm guilty of a sex offense....fine. I'm already there and have to registar. But PLEASE do not put me in the category of someone who kidnaps a child, or even an adult, simply to have there way with them sexually. Or even worse. Because that's the way society looks at me. And quite frankly....it really PISSES me off. I moved to another state to try and lessen the registration woes. But as all states are tightening up on these laws it's increasingly, almost impossible to find a place to live. When things started getting nasty where I moved, my wife of 19 years finally said..." I can't take it anymore." And you know what? I couldn\'t blame her. I brought this on to her and my family. She's an ER nurse at the local hospital and HER job has been jepordized. My daughters friends parents found out and wouldn't let them come over to our house. And she's 17 years old. So I called the officer to whom I report and asked him where I could stay until I found a place to live. He told me of a hotel that would except me. 've been here 3 months now and just last night revieced a phone call from the regional office telling me that when my 30 term was up they would appreciate it if I left. I grumbled a little and told him that I would honor his request. Now I have no idea where I'm going to go. I have a great job and nowhere to live. I have 5 days to leave. I called the above said officer and told him what happened and he had NO advise for me. So people.....WHAT DO I DO???? Where am I to go??? I pay my taxes, support my kids, and you are forcing me into homelessness!!! PLEASE Politicains, Lawmakers, and Media.....PLEASE reply!!

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All Offenders Treat as Child Molesters

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.05.2010 Link to this story: [00178]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00178, All Offenders Treated As Child Molesters, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send them along to this mis-treated offender against an adult. This person used the term ´pedophile´ wrongly - a pedophile may or may not abuse a child - the term is a scientific one, referring to a sexual desire or orientation. I have substituted everywhere the term child molester. We urge people to see our link, B4UAct. org, to understand this issue more fully. alex --------------- I'm a convicted adult sex offender in the State of Ohio. The problem is that not that I mind registering as a sex offender, it is the Ohio Sex Offender Law that angers me. Here, all sex offenders are in one category. Even though my victim is an adult, I'm treated as a child molester through public notification within the community and I cannot move into a neighborhood with parks, schools, etc., that has children. If I have to move, I have to notify the county sheriff's department to get clearance, just to move into any town, city, etc. It is a problem. I am basically a prisoner in my own house and in fear of the neighbors through the community notification process. It is Ohio's Laws on Sex Offenders, there should be 2 separate laws, one for the child molesters and one for the offenders against adults. I am in sex offender therapy because of my crime, I sought it out because I need treatment for me and I am still being punished by the law through society. I have twin one year old daughters, for whom at the time, I had to care for because of my wife's medical and mental health issues. I asked Childrens Services for their help in caring for my daughters and now, my wife's health is a lot better and I have not got my daughters at home. It is because Childrens Services knows I'm a sex offender, even though I have repeatedly explained to them, my victim is an adult. I'm seen as a child molester by Childrens Services and in my heart I've lost my daughters to them, because in my heart, they're trying to adopt them out by pressuring my wife and me, to the point of explosion, through putting my wife and me agaisnt each other in a domestic violence charge, permanently losing the daughters through the court system. I don't know what to do to change the sex offender laws and to get my daughters home with us. I love my daughters and would go to extremes to care for them. In addition, I have done everything possible to comply with Children Services, to get my daughters home and they're not here and I think it is because of my sex offender label or stigma. I need help, to get them home and it is breaking my heart.

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He Helped Me Raise by Child

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.04.2010 Link to this story: [00177]

Refer in comments to Tale 00177, He Helped Me Raise My Child,¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I will send them along to this brave fianceé. I have also included a quote from his mom! ----------------------- We have been together for almost 5 years and has helped me raise my daughter like she was his own. He is a 2nd degree offender, so is registered for life. We would like to move close to my family but are afraid to do so, because the strictness of MN offender laws. That and when we lived in TX for about one year... the city ordinance people kept sending us fine after fine... because the lawn was too long, there was trash in the yard (we lived next to a gas station and on a windy day the yard would accumulate random garbage), so on and so forth. We asked the city ordinance manager if we were to move out of state within the next 3 months, would they kindly stop fining us. The manager didn't even bat an eye and was in agreement. We had 3 months to move out. We payed more in fines in a month than electric, water, home mortgage, home and car insurance, etc combined! We just couldn't do it anymore. This was all because of the offense my fiance committed about 20 years ago...with his EX-WIFE (romeo & juliet clause - and they even got married after he served his time!). So now, as his family and with my TOTALLY CLEAN RECORD... we must endure his pain and suffering as well. Because people can search him out, and since I am with him - I must be guilty by association. My daughter is now turning 6... how will this effect her? I don't want her to think any less of her step-daddy. They love each other. ----------------- From this man´s mother: Some of these young men have had their lives taken away unjustly, and I do think that young women who are having sex with their boyfriends should have to shoulder half of the responsabilty of that relationship. A boy who simply turns 18 before his girlfriend does not a sex offender make.

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Venom Spewed at S.O. Is Appalling

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 19.04.2010 Link to this story: [00176]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00176 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send them along to the rso who sent this sad tale! SEE ALSO MORE INFORMATION BELOW THE ORIGINAL STORY - and YES, prayer helps! ALSO - ANOTHER BAD DECISION ON A PLEA ¨bargain,¨ almost never a bargain! alex ---------------------- I was convicted of Possession of Child Pornography, something I am deeply ashamed of. My conviction was as a result of viewing a website on a single occasion, as an isolated incident resulting from a longtime struggle with pornography in general. I received a 1-1/2 year sentence that was all suspended except 15 weekends in county jail and 18 months of probation. I also have to register for a period of 10 years. While I am fully willing to accept the consequences of a despicable act, I am reminded daily of my crime by being labeled as a monster. During my probation period, I was allowed to live in my home with my family- including my now 6-year-old son, but I was not allowed to be alone in the same room with him. I was not allowed to hug him or have him sit on my lap, wrestle, etc. The registration has severely hindered my career as well. I have remained employed throughout, but I am constantly on my guard in fear that someone I interact with professionally will look at the registry and "out" me publicly. The venom with which people react to any sex offender is appalling to me. It greatly damages my faith in humanity. ------------ addendum to story A unique aspect to my story is that my arrest was as a direct result of my wife installing monitoring software on my laptop. As a result of my (legal) pornography addiction and our deteriorating relationship, she had filed for divorce shortly before my arrest. During the course of providing information to her attorney, she gave screen shots of the pornography I had viewed, with the intent of gaining custody of our son. As it turned out, there were photos there of subjects deemed by the county prosecutor to be of persons under age 16. On January 31, 2008 I was arrested and charged with two counts of Child Exploitation, which is a Class C felony in the state where I live. Unfortunately, because of my fear and naivete, I essentially admitted guilt when arrested. Regardless, I accepted a plea agreement, resulting in the sentence I shared in my initial story. It is worth mentioning that I had a tremendous support system during the legal process, including my wife, whom I reconciled with as a result of our faith in God. I had family members, pastors, friends, teachers etc. all speak on behalf during the sentencing hearing and, as a result, received a \"light\" sentence. The local newspaper, which made sure to put my photo on the front page through each step in the process, had a headline the following day which read \"Judge Goes Easy in Kiddie Porn Case.\" As a condition of my probation, I attended weekly group therapy sessions 1-1/2 hours from home, my wife went to classes to be an approved supervisor for me, I could not spend any time unsupervised with my son or anyone else under age 16, I have to register for 10 years in my county of residence and my county of employment, I could not be unaccompanied after 10:00 p.m., I could not possess or consume alcohol, etc. That 18 months was humiliating, to say the least. Having to have my face, name, address, employer, car etc. on the internet for anyone to see and, potentially, use, is in no way proportionate to the crime I committed. A mistake I made during a very bad time in my life will haunt me until the day I die. Things that I took for granted are now taken from me; future job prospects, serving in many capacities in church, memberships in many organizations, friendships lost, public shaming and branding... I am grateful for the opportunity to commiserate with others in similar and worse situations is helpful- even therapeutic, but what is a realistic expectation? Are there thoughts as to what we are accomplishing? Is there pending legislation to reform the laws? Are there any in positions of influence with the will to listen to us? Politicians are notorious for riding waves of public outcry against the enemy of the moment. SO\'s are THE boogeyman currently in this country. What has to happen for this movement to make a difference? In my opinion,we all need to not only share our stories, but we also need to be willing to do our part in any way we are needed. Also, believe me when I tell you that prayer will work wonders. Without it, I am certain I would still be in jail, serving that full three years...

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Registering 4x a yr for misdemeanor: Life is sure rough!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 15.04.2010 Link to this story: [00175]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00175, "Registering 4x a Year for a Misdemanor: Life Is Sure Rough! send comments to alexm60@fastmail.fm. This comment was sent without an email, so I cannot send comments to the person who wrote - PLEASE GIVE YOUR EMAIL WHEN COMMENTING - I will NOT publish the email or your name,but that way, we can let the original person know. Please, remember that RSOL does not take responsibility for the veracity of a "tale," but we publish those we feel have merit. Alex. ---------------------------------------------------- Just got home from registering for the 15th year.......Hmmmmm life sure is rough. Attempted CSC 4th degree is the only thing I have ever had the misfortune to have on my record...EVER. It is a misdemeanor that is classified and treated as a felony! I have been married for 10 years with 3 awesome children of 8, 5, and 1 years old. I was in 4H for 6 years; won a gold medal at the MSU Cullinary Arts Festival when I was 13 years old competing against college students; I was a certified master mechanic by the age of 17; I started playing bluegrass 5-string banjo at the age of 5 and am now an accomplished musician that plays banjo, piano, drums, guitar, and violin; I became a tool and die maker and went through an apprenticeship; I mastered CNC programming and was revered as one of the best machinists around. I have lost every job I have ever had due to employers or other employees finding my name on the Registry online. Now that the internet is more wide-spread in homes and businesses, I cannot get a job to save my life. I have been able to hold on to our family home and support my family by using my multitude of skills over the years to bring in side income. I just finally lost the battle this year and have lost our home to the bank. I cannot get a job in any state due to the new nation wide registry that was recently implementad. Most companies use background check companies that exploit the registry data even know they are not to be using the information for that purpose. I have been turned down for income based apartments for my family because they ALL list criminal sexual convictions as being a disqualifying factor. I cannot go back to school because I must register as a sex offende with the school that I attend. So what did i do that landed me on the registry? I was 18 years old at a high school party and I wound up having sex with a girl I met at the party. Come to find out the girl was 13 years old. I was sick to my stomach when I found out her age because she did not look the part. Come to find out, she had a promiscuous past and I was not the first target. Obviously, a girl of 13 that is out running around at parties and such was forced to grow up too fast and had some kind of parental issues at home. The girl I slept with was bragging about it to a friend of hers and the friend's mother overheard the conversation. Like any parent, she called the girl's mother on the phone. The parents were both drug users and the inner workings of the family atmosphere was just as I imagined it to be. The mother of the girl found out that she could collect a check from what is called The Crime Rights Victims Fund if she pressed charges. So, they pressed charges and my nightmare began. When my day in court came I had a court appointed lawyer and was ready to lay it all out for the judge and let him know exactly what happened. I was prepared to tell him that she had full intentions of sleeping with me or someone else at the party that night because I have several wittnesses that will testify on my behalf that she has had sex with many people in the same manor before. BUT, the court would not allow me to use any of it as a defence at all because there is a law that prohibits me from "using or mentioning any past sexual experiences of the victim for any reason in a court". So I didnt know what else to say. I just wanted to tell the truth but I couldn't even do that! The prosecutor knew that this was looking pretty funny on the plantiff's behalf. The girl or her mother didn't ever come to court, write any letters, or anything but file charges and sit home waiting for a check to come in from the Crime Rights Victims Fund. The prosecutor pulled me aside and said he would offer me Attempted 4th degree CSC and then recommend the very minimum sentence to the judge. Well, I decided to take it and get my probation over with and use it as a life lesson for sure. Keep in mind that at time of court there was NO law at all about a registry. It had not been invented yet. So, I was on probation doing just fine and one day my PO dropped a piece of paper in front of me and told me I could not leave without signing it or I would be charged with a felony! She told me it was for a registry for sex ofenders. At the time I didnt know the extent of what it was going to develop into. I signed the paper and went on my way. I was soon discharged from probation and started to continue my usual life after high school and focus on my career goals. A few years went buy and I was making tons of money as a tool and die maker. I was flying back and forth to SC working on some BMW dies for the new Z3 Roadster. Life couldnt be better. EXCEPT, one day a police car pulled into the driveway while me and my wife and newborn baby girl were outside. The officer come up and asked me for some ID. He told me I need to get to the local Police post and register. I had no idea what he was talking about. Apprently, I was supposed to be registering 4 TIMES A YEAR FOR A MISDEMEANOR! WOW, all I knew is that I signed some paper at probation years ago. I didnt even know it was published on the internet. Well, aparantly I was not on the Online Regisrtry yet because I had not been in person to register and sign some additional forms. Soon after I registered, I noticed my face on the internet. Soon after that I lost my job. Then another job and then another.....My life fell apart and i went through some emotional times. The stress finally got the best of me when I was 26 years old and I had a massive nervous breakdown. I could not even ride in a car for 6 months. I shook constantly for about 4 months straight like I had nerve damage. It was pure hell on top of hell. I do not how I have made it but I have. I have to give all the credit to my wonderful wife and kids that thus far no one has been able to take from me.... I am going on 35 now and still unemployed. Aside from my wife and kids I look at the fundamentals of life in simple form. I cannot work, it is hard to keep food to eat, I can not go most places with my children like all of the important school functions that fufill a parents existance, my kids are getting old enough now that other children are teasing them in school, my children find it hard to even have friends come over to play. To me, the entire experience of life has been taken awayfrom life itself. That is worse that any 25 year murder sentence! To make matters more hopeless, One day 2 years ago, the girl with whom this whole thing happened approached my mother-in-law and told her the story of what had happened. The girl has grown, had kids of her own, and got some christian values. She felt obgligated to try to make things right and offered to do whatever it took to fix what her and her mother had done. I sold my truck and retained a lawyer to take care of this process for me. The girl wrote a statement in front of the prosecutor and my lawyer as to what actually happened and that I had no idea how old she was. The court agreed to let me rescind my original plea agreement but then the NEW prosecutor told me that it was his duty to retry me on the original offence and that the admission of what happened that was now documented by the girl, was still not admissable in court. I could not put my wife and kids through that and decided not to withdraw my plea...... I am not a child rapist, violent offender or anything of the nature. I am just a regular American with a good heart and good values with the best family a guy could have. God bless my family and may he punish those who have put me and my family through this life-long travesty.

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Punished for falling in love?

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.04.2010 Link to this story: [00174]

Refer in comments to tale no. 00174, Punished for falling in love?, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send it along to this very sad and courageous wife! ------------ Why are we being punished?? Because we fell in love??? i go to court tomorrow on neglect charges cause i allowed my kids after 3 years and many tears and fights later to see there dad for the 1st time. (kinda snapped. they told my 8 yr old that he could have a supervised visit at his dad's and then within 2 hours took it away) I didn't know what else to do. and now my husband is in jail i have given my mom guardianship of our daughter and my mother in law guardianship of our 2 boys. i'm scared i'm tired and the 1 person who can make this pain go away for a min i cant even touch. im losing my grip on reality fast and my hopelessness is getting worse. AND WHY? BECAUSE I CHOSE TO FALL IN LOVE AND STAND BY MY HUSBAND RIGHT OR WRONG!! we have been together for 1 years and when i said till death do us part i meant it! Not 1 time did any attorneys tell us (including his own) that he would never be allowed to see his kids again. i think when people go in on a sex crime that there should be a law that states exactly what pleading guilty means. people take plea bargains because they dont understand or, in my husbands case, he didnt want to make it any harder on the victim than he already had. he told the truth the whole time and by doing what he thought would help her he basiclly handed his own life to the system forever. nobody ever told us they said all he had to do was the time on plea bargin and supervised probation. never telling him what it ment to be a sex offender. these laws do not protect kids. they are making the next generation grow up with no hope no dad/mom they are teaching them how bad our justice system really is. the system in the long run is growing the next set of crimminals. ok im sorry i just needed to talk. i have been holding this all in for 3 years and no im ready to give up when i found your site. so thanks

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Registries Used to Attack Offenders

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 09.04.2010 Link to this story: [00173]

Refer in comments to Tale No 00173 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. This was sent without an email address, but I'll send the comments to the Illinois contact person. -------------------------------------- I am a RSO in illinois. I was forced to plead guilty to a crime i did not commit. My brothers ex wife was trying to gain full custody of the kids(2 of em) so she could move to another state with her new boyfriend and used me to get it. she made her daughter(who was 4) claim that i had touched her during a halloween party. the child was interviewed by police and a psychiatrist and she kept telling them that \'mommy says uncle (my name) did it' but it didnt matter. i was later arrested (4 months later) and spent almost a year in jail. the other factors that prove my innocence are as such: i used to have a lot of friends(now im a social outcast) that i was with on a daily basis and a steady girlfriend. they were with me every day and she was with me every night, so my whereabouts can be accounted for. during the time that the offense was supposed to have happened i was already in jail (long before and after halloween) for failure to appear on a driving charge. during the interrogation i divulged this piece of info and i watched the detective change the police report to make the offense(s) happen before and after i wwas released. the detectives also threatened me with harm if i didnt \'say what they wanted to hear\' and with a long prison sentence. i have never been an angel by any means, but never have i thought of a child in a sexual way. it was my first time in an interrogation room and never have i been in a more terrifying situation. i was molested when i was young by my step dads friend and now still to this day (25 yrs later) males in a dominant position scare the s@#t out of me and to have 3 detectives threatening and screaming at me for almost 4 hours was to much to handle. i signed the statement that the lead guy wrote (which i still dont know what was in it completely) and they let me leave. i was arrested a week later and then did my time in county. my family knows i am innocent and supported me to the fullest, but as we are not a wealthy or e ven middle class family i was stuck with a public pretender and she told me that i was going to get convicted anyway regardless of any evidence to my innocence because illinois "doesnt mess around with those types of cases." she told me to plead guilty and she would save me from prison. i accepted. i recieved 4 years probation and have to register for life. the biggest slap to the face is the guy that my bothers ex is with is a suspected child molester and cant see his own kids because it is alleged he had sex with his 3 yr old daughter before he met my bothers ex. My brothers ex has caught him watching pornographic movies with her daughter (my alleged victim)who was almost 6 at the time. he also stopped her mom from punishing her so that he could video tape her being spanked in her underwear so he could watch it later. there is also a tape he made of him ordering her and her younger brother to perform sex acts on an anotmically correct statue yet i am the one prosecuted, persecuted and labeled as a sick individual and i wasnt even around to commit that act. i have had my time watching my neices and nephews grow stolen away and a few of them i will never get to see again. i wont get the pleasure of seeing them graduate and become the people they will eventually become. the justice system is a joke and all of these fanatical religious and parent groups are making life miserable by pushing for stricter laws with ridiculous expectations. soon it will be impossible to not violate some law or another and then prisons will be full of people that dont deserve to be there. something needs to be done and it needs to be done fast. people have gotten my name off the registry and because of the registry i have been harrassed, assaulted and my life threatened and the county sherriffs told me tough luck, they were not going to do anything about it. no one should have to live in fear and the registry is the tool that is used to track down RSO's and attack them. when is enough really enough?

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The Madness Has to End

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 09.04.2010 Link to this story: [00172]

Refer in comments to Tale 0172, The Madness Has to End, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this brave offender. Alex --------- I am among those who cannot sign, but have worked hard at addressing my problems and believe strongly in what you are doing. I face losing my career and my home for an act against an adult that, while inappropriate and offensive, does not warrant taking me from my wife and children for a year beginning next month, taking me away from my job which supports them and then having me register in my community for the next 10 years for an act that was largely the result of specific circumstances and the causes of which I have worked hard on solving through years of successful therapy. I am not a danger to anyone. The madness has to end.

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Trapped in Darkest Place in the World

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 06.04.2010 Link to this story: [00171]

Refer in comments to tale No. 00171, Darkest Place in the World, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I will send them along to the parents who sent this story of their son. alex A STRONG COMMENT HAS BEEN ADDED BELOW - it was sent without an email. PLEASE give me your email address - I will keep it anonymous, but then I can send this to the person who wrote the original tale. alex ------------------------------- Our son was trapped by Virginia policeman and they sentenced him for 20 years for discussing child porno with adult "friend" without any intent to harm any children. This is in Stafford county of Virginia, darkest place in the world, where judges don't consider the sentences, but mentally sick DAs determine them. --------------- COMMENT - Witch hunt of the 21st century All DA's are looking for notches in their belt and dont care how they get them. Big Brother is not only watching but taking over all our lives. They should spend more time looking for the truly sick demented individuals who are preying on children. The DA's dont care how they prosecute as long as they get their man. The defendant gets to say nothing and the "victim" is always right. There is no more justice in this country. It is "THE WITCH HUNT" of the 21st Century! All stories are the same as far as Plea Bargains. The Lawyers get their money, the Prosecuter gets its pound of flesh. The defendent is left unemployable, homeless to become America's biggest victim. All cases are not handled on their own circumstances, it is one package for all no matter what. This nation is headed for disaster and everyone will be in PRISON and on the REGISTRY. Then what John Walsh? Everyone is paying for your son's death, everyone who lives and breathes. All are punished equally across the board. The childhood sweethearts, the guy relieving himself in the woods, the high school streaker, the parent teaching their children about the birds and bees, the parent with the photo of their child in the bath (who doesn't have one of those?), the mother breast feeding her child in public? All sex offenders ........... This is what it has come to read these stories and weep. It gets worse every day.

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An Animal Is Treated Better Than My Son!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 04.04.2010 Link to this story: [00170]

Refer in comments to Tale No.00170, Animal Treated Better than Son, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send it along to this great and supportive mom. Alex SEE STRONG COMMENT BELOW! ----------------------- My son, age 18, had consentual sex with a 14 year old, who said she was 17 years old. He was judically blackmailed by the DA to take a plea bargain. When we first refused he changed the charges to make them more severe. After a year and a half of waiting for a trail we finally agreed to a plea "deal". I wish I could go back and redo that decision. My son served 3 years in prison and has served 12 years in HELL as a registered sex offender. No job, no future, NO HOPE. My family's life or future has never been 'normal' since that day. We spend most of our efforts and money trying to 'fix' a grown man, but the restrictions placed on him as a Sex offender make him 'unfixable.' We recently relocated him to a small town and were working hard on getting his own business started (finally a job that could be secure) when the local paper published the county's list of registered sex offenders. My son was stunned to see his picture on the front page. He sat on the sofa and wept uncontrollably. A grown man, age 31, crying like a 5 year old. It just breaks my heart!! All because a 18 year old boy wanted to have sex with a girl who suggested it. And even said she suggested it. An animal in a shelter is treated better than my son. It's a disgrace that politians build their careers on the backs of these young people. The laws they pass do nothing to protect children from harm, it only provides them a fail-safe political platform. ---------- COMMENT - sent without a return email - please include an email so we can let the person who wrote this tale communicate with you. We never publish email addreses. At one time I truly believed John Walsh was an > asset to this country. While I still have a heart felt sorrow for his > loss I no longer believe he is a positive force and means well.He is > bound by bitterness and has created the American Inguisition. Judges, > prosecutors, state,county and local police, courts and correction > centers are in a feeding hysteria concerning sex offenders. Guess what > John Walsh? I believe everyone, who presently is in America, should take > a lie detector test. The test should include the question, have you ever > touched someone of the opposite sex or did you ever have sex while in > high school. If the results comes out positive. you should be locked up > immediately for a minimum of 2 years put on probation for 2 years and > have to register for the rest of your life. My suggestion is not > offending if these tests begin with Mr. Walsh. Dick Zimmer, author of > Megans law then with the members of congress, Executive, legislative and > judici > al branch. Then go to Federal and State judges and prosecutors, > Federal,State County and local police depts. across this nation. The > problem will be we couldn\'t build enough prisons and the country will > go bankrupt. Since there isn\'t a statue of limitations I believe every > male in this country should be concerned. Stop this damned insanity, not > all sex offenders belong in the most heinous category but thats where > our elected officials put them. Megans law and The Adam Walsh act > violates the our rights, and no I am not a sex offender but I believe > our country is taking away hope for these people which will lead to more > serious problems in the future.

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Putting People Where They Will Fail!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 30.03.2010 Link to this story: [00169]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00169, Putting People Where They Will Fail, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I will send the comments to the person who wrote this on behalf of his brother. alex ---------------- I am in support of this reform because my brother has served his time and we cannot find him a place to live because Ky laws say he cannot live in a home with minor children, even though we would allow him too. I dont support what he did, but I dont believe in putting these people in places where they will fail constantly. His crime, which was statutory rape, is also put into a broad category that makes him to be a monster and/or (child molester) to the rest of the public which means no job either. Something has to change and I want to be part of it. These crimes should be punishable and probation, and registry to law officials ONLY, is warranted, but if a family member agrees to allow this person to live with them to help them get on their feet, then no one should have the right to say otherwise. This alone would help so many,like my brother, who need help.

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Poster Child for S.O. Law Reform

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.03.2010 Link to this story: [00168]

Please refer in comments to Tale No. 00168 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this long-suffering accused person. Alex SEE STRONG SUPPORTIVE COMMENT BELOW, after the tale - Please send your email with your comments - we will not post them, but we would like to let you know we have posted the comment! Alex ---------------- I have been indicted on 1 count of Receipt of Child Pornography while I was using Limewire. I havent had my trial yet, but I am fighting like hell to change the laws and public perception regarding these charges, and this seems like the place to start. I want to talk to people and explain the difference, and how EASY it is to get these videos by one simple click of the mouse button. I am 34yrs old, NEVER been in trouble, have no criminal record of any sort, dont do drugs, rarely drink, have no interest in having sex with kids, and yet, the government wants to lock me up for 13yrs! They want 1/3 of my life for something I had for 2 weeks on my computer but they fail to mention the other 100 plus gigs of music, music videos, movies and legal pornography. The amount of illegal material was so small in comparison. I want to be heard, and want to talk to people who can make a difference with this serious injustice of categorizing people who rape, kidnap, molest, and abuse children in with people that have it only on their computer. I have no Facebook, Myspace, never chatted with any kids, never even had the slightest urge to. How many families have to be destroyed, how many kids have to lose their Dads, how many before someone gets some common sense and realizes that EVERYONE is different. Sign me up! I will the poster child to start the Reform. -------------------- COMMENT My boyfriend\'s son used limewire and downloaded child porn on his computer. The son downloaded the material while using his father\'s computer - we are only talking a few images, not hundreds. Like you, the illegal content came through while downloading other legal materials. The D.A. basically was going after him, no matter what. My boyfriend has led an exemplary life and there was no reason to believe he did it when you compare his record to his sons. It cost 20K just to get to a plea deal where he ended up pleading to one count - it would have cost another 20K+ to go to trial. These are the costliest of trials, because of all the computer forensics involved. His son who did the downloads is bipolar, a drug addict, and my boyfriend didn\'t want to be in the position of defending himself against his troubled son - that was his choice. My boyfriend went to jail for 4 months, is under house arrest for 6 months, but must now find a job, etc. Basically, forget about ever getting a decent job even as a Level 1. The laws are absurd and out of control. With a first non-contact offense, one should not be put on the registry and should only get a misdemeanor if there is no other history. This would go a long way at removing people who simply do not need monitoring. Good luck - I pray for your success.

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"Former Offender" Blocked at Every Turn!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.03.2010 Link to this story: [00167]

Refer in comments to tale No 00167, Blocked at Every Turn, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send this along to this very determined and committed person! alex ---------------------------------- I committed a victimless crime 10 years ago. What I did was wrong and I accept full responsibility for every decision I made and every action I took and I paid very dearly for my transgression. All I've ever wanted to do since this unfortunate episode was to go back to the productive, law-abiding, contributory life I previously led. This has been virtually outlawed. I am blocked at every turn. I've been through no less than 5 professions since, and have been forced out all five times. I cannot even VOLUNTEER to help my fellow man. I am now on my final attempt at legitimacy. I don't have the energy to start over yet again. I am not a "sex offender". "Sex Offender" is present tense. It implies that at this very moment I am committing a sex offense. I am most certainly not. I am a "former" offender. Someone who 10 years ago made a victimless mistake. Having paid my legal price to society plus personal suffering dwarfing what is legally prescribed, I deserve a chance to return to life; to give back. Murderers get second chances. I have never hurt anyone in my life. Domestic batterers get tens of chances, often ending in murder. I've never in my life committed an act of violence (including any and all forms of inappropriate touching). It is only this unique and illogically grouped class of crimes that when once committed, the longer you go without re-offending, the more dearly you are made to pay. If even the most vile among us are allowed to have our Constitutional and God given rights stripped from us for crimes others have committed or that someone mistakenly believes we may one day commit, we are all in danger. It is never wise to act in panic and/or anger, yet we rush to pass these draconian laws without considering their impact. The media scares up more sales, the politicians score political points for looking like they are doing something - but at what cost? These laws as they as written have only succeeded in making things slightly MORE dangerous for women and children. So sell your advertising, score your points, but know that you have done so at the expense of the safety of women and children. The very people you CLAIM to want to protect. In effect, YOU are also sex-offenders. Bring sanity back to our laws today.

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The Long Reach of Unjust Plea Bargains!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 13.03.2010 Link to this story: [00166]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00166 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them to this very unjustly treated offender. This long, involved and contorted case, shows once again the fact that most plea bargains are indeed the opposite of a bargain! Beware of plea bargains! alex --------------------------------------------------- I'm a registered Sex Offender. In, 1995 I was charged with Criminal Deviate Conduct , Confinement, Sexual Battery Criminal Deviate Conduct:to-wit inserted his finger in her vagina when victom was compelled by Force or the imminent threat of force in Violation of I.C. 35-42-4-2 9 months later: Deposition come forward in the case 5 people were involved in this case 3 females and 2 males all over the age of 17 the victim in this case was 19 years old In the victim's deposition, she admitted that it didn't happen. Her story from the first night's report and 9 month report were inconsistent with each other. So the charge was dropped! But I was railroaded. The Case was still going to Trial . The Public Defender in my Case said I had no chance of winning this trial and that if I would take this to trail I would be found Guilty and sentenced to the Max of 20 years in Prison. I was scared to death. I argued with him and said that the victom said that it didn't happen - what else do you need if she lied about this, she lied about everything! It did not happen Case closed, send me home! My Public Defender wanted me to take a Plea Bargin, so that they will amend the charge to Sexual Battery but i would have to plead guilty of touching her breast. He told me if i did this it would be time served and 1 year probation and i can go on with my life! His words were "No one, is going to ever know about this where you live!" I argued with him and asked him if he wanted me to lie under oath that i commited this crime. It came down to the day of trial. There were 5 people in the Court room plus myself: Judge, the State, my Public Defender , the Woman that was recording and 1 sheriff that Has gotten to know me a little in the last 9 month I pleaded Guilty to Sexual Battery ! So I admited that i put my arm around the victim's chest as i was lying next to her in bed and placed my hand on her breast (she was wearing a sweat shirt)! The judge stopped the recording and said Mr (my name) you can't say it that way you have to say it this way! For the Courts,I had to admit that I placed my hand under her sweater and was touching her breast! or he would not accept my plea. So I did! And for that im going to hell for lying. When it came down to sentencing the Judge was looking at the case and said to the state is this true that the victim said that it didn't happen and the state replied, Yes Sir . The Judge said - this changes everything! I started to get happy! But the judge continued, Mr (my name) I will be sentencing you today to the Max sentence I can by law for your Crime that you have commited. It will be 3 years in Prison and 3 years of Probation. So I left the Court room , confuased not understanding what just happened to me! As the Sheriff was taking me back to the cell block he said, that's not what you Public Defender promised you and I said, "I know, What can I do? So I did my time and when i was being released they told me that i might have to Register in the state I live in. I asked, What do you mean? He said go to the Sheriff's office and give him your address. So I was glad to go home and i went to my PO office and they told me to go down to the sheriff's office and register and i did. they took a polaroid Picture of me and i gave them my info. Throughout the 15 years I have been registering, I have seen the lawss change. at first I was registering every year. then I had to start registering where I worked. Then came the law that banned me from living near schools. I had to move several times. And it just goes on and on and every year it just get's worse On my 10th year I was going to be released. I was going to be Free of this mess and get on with my life.. Well that is what I was told so that was my Goal till the AWA Law came into affect and they classed me as a Tier III for Life. Now every 90 days I have to Register. I can't change the past. I wish I could. I would rather have gone to trial and face 20 years, than go thru what I have been thru. The funny part -sad but true - is, when AWA came out and i filed an appeal on it they told me that according to Megans Law I didn't have to register all these years, but with the new law now I do! I have been Married since 1999 and have 3 Step sonss that I have raised and my oldest son has 3 children. My grandkids will one day ask me about all this and I will tell them. But I'm scared to death that the kids in their class rooms are going to find out and judge them for all this. That's not fair for them and I hope in their hearts they will still love me. I understand what the Law is trying to do! a Rapist is a Rapist, a Child Molester is a Child Molester and so on. But why are they putting everyone in the same class? .

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No Reason Not To Believe Her!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 13.03.2010 Link to this story: [00165]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00165, No Reason Not to Believe Her, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them to this brave and good mother. alex ----------------------- They were girlfriend and boyfriend, my son was told she was 19 when they first met. No reason for him not to believe it - after all she looked it! Mother allowed her to date older guys and she had dated older men before she met my son. Also dated older men after my son was convicted!!!! Crazy huh? My son was sentenced to 10 years and has to serve 85% of that!!!! No justice in this world anymore!!!!!

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So Many Lawyers are Cowards!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.03.2010 Link to this story: [00164]

Refer in comments to tale from the registry No. 00164, "So Many Lawyers are Cowards," and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this sad, but wise offender. alex marbury SEE COMMENTS AFTER THE BLOG ---------------------- I am a Sex offender in Pennsylvania. I am new to finding that there are so many other sex offenders with the same problem(s) that i am having in the world today. I am 32 years, and I have 3 step children and one of my own. I live a very quiet life because of my past and now I think it's time that I open up and talk to other person(s) with the the same problem(s) that I have. I am currently trying to fight Megan's law in my case. It's been a roller coaster ride to say the least. I have stood alone in this the whole way because no attorney wants to represent me in any way. I tell them what I want to do and then they run like cowards. I am beliving that they are nothing but that - cowards! I know that there are people out there that are trying to do what I have been for years alone. The strength is going to be in numbers at this point - we cannot do this alone! -------------- Comment from anonymous (no email address sent with this comment) Yes, you are so right. Lawyers are only interested in "how they look". Had a lawyer say right to our faces with regard to our son, I can't go in there with 'that' I would be laughed out of court. "I have to think of my career". The whole subject is "taboo". No one will touch it. All the "feel good" laws are SAVING THE WORLD dont ya know. We all need to stand up it's true. I will admit my fear is just like the rest on this site. Just need one Congressman to listen. It's like rolling a boulder up hill. I will pray for your family. (reference to 00164)

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Boy write's dad's P.O. as School Project

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.03.2010 Link to this story: [00163]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00163, Boy Write's Dad's P.O. as School Project, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this supportive wife. alex -------------------------------------------- I am the wife of a non violent sex offender. he has been a great husband and father and they refuse to let him even see his kids yet. its been 3 years. now they have him sitting in jail again on a probable violation, saying he saw his kids and they have us both up on neglect charges. i am losing hope fast. i could really use people who know what im going through to talk to. my 9 yr old son had to write a letter in school to anybody he wanted and he chose to write it to my husband's p.o. it broke my heart. these laws are not protecting children these laws are breaking up familys and i just dont know what to do anymore? thanks for listening

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Punished for Life for Acts at Age ll

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.02.2010 Link to this story: [00162]

Refer in comments to Tale 00162, Punished for Life for Acts at Age ll, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this fine psychologist. SEE THE IMPORTANT COMMENT FROM THE MOTHER OF A SIMILAR BOY after this tale.... alex I am a Clinical Psychologist who recently had a client convicted of CSC and will now be on the registry for the rest of his life for incidents that occurred when he was 11 years old. I don\'t understand why a person under the age of 13 at the time of the incident can have the same legal consequences as an adult convicted of the same. The glitch in the law is that there was over a 3 year age difference between the 2 children. An 11 yr old could never know the futire legal consequences of curious behavior. He is now 16 and is being treated as if the incident just occurred. I think a jury should at least be advised that the registry is inevitable with a guily conviction. I think there needs to be a change related to minors with regard to the registry. ------------------- Comment: I am in a similar situation my son was 12 when he offended and is on the registry for life after he failed to register at age 24! I am wondering is there any research on how to fight and possibly overturn this requirement? He also saw a psychologist who said the same thing that he didn't understand why a child was forced to register.

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Reformed Offender with a Solid Proposal

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.02.2010 Link to this story: [00161]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00161, ¨Reformed Offender with a Solid Proposal,¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send comments along to this very thoughtul former offender. NOTE: The opinions in RSOL blogs and tales are those of the person sending in the blog or tale, and are not necessarily those of RSOL. We do not endorse this man´s proposal, but he has taken a lot of time to make a serious start! alex marbuy ---------------------- My Story with a Law Suggestion: NOTE: PC290 is the designation requiring sex offenders to register in California. Over 20 plus years ago, I was out of control with myself. I was also out of control with drugs and alcohol and had a lot of stress on me. I was very young(23 now 49), had 2 children and worked long hours trying to support them. Being so stressed and with the drugs and alcohol, I was out of touch with reality. I came home after spending the day with alcohol and drugs and inappropriately touched the young girl who was our babysitter. I was not attracted to the baby sitter, she was at the wrong place at the wrong time and I wasn’t in control. She finally had the courage to finally speak up and my life has not been the same since. At first it spiraled to the lowest a life could be. When I finally sobered up, I was devastated at what I had done, how could I? I still had to deal with the legal issues with what I had done and at the same time I had to turn my life around getting sober and dealing with the stress and issues that I had in life. To prevent giving additional stress to the young lady whom I violated, I plead guilty. I did my time, I paid for all of her counseling. I had to file bankruptcy and I lost everything that I had. The counseling costs were put into an account that I made payments to when I was released. The fees created a financial hardship on me and my family, but I stayed up to date with them until they were all paid. I have spent the last 20 plus years improving on myself, becoming a very good responsible person. Today, I am in full control of my life. I am very responsible, have high morals and have a great respect for others and myself. There should be something that is given in return. The law has decided to post all sex offenders on the internet. That posting is considered a list of people that are a danger to society, whether or not that was the intention, that is what it is. That posting is putting myself, my family, my household and my career in serious danger. On top of all of that I have been pretty much banished from society as the people and neighbors that know me find out about my past. Putting my personal information on the internet next to a repeat offender or a predatorily child molester, adds additional danger to me and my family. Society will think that I am just as a dangerous to them as they are. Many other people, as well as me, consider this to be cruel and inhumane punishment. When people think of a sex offender all they could think of is the worst of the worst shown on TV, not the offender who made one serious mistake in life and can be rehabilitated. It is being said that posting the personal information of all types of offenders on the Internet is not cruel and inhumane punishment. But the impact of this posting is great on everybody’s life. It is a huge psychological and physical punishment on those posted. The offender who spent many years trying to improve him/herself only to be banished in society. Unable to find a job, then a place to live and then becoming homeless. Some of them out of desperation become criminals by moving and not registering. These are people that are normally law abiding citizens, but they can’t take the pressure of society banishing them and not being able to live in peace. The law states that it is against the law to harass offenders from the information on the internet, however we all know that the police can not stop it and they will not spend the resources to investigate them. The assaults, badgering, names written on houses and cars will never stop. I have been informed by people that do not know that I am an offender that they use that listing to check potential employees. If they are on there, they get disqualified. In my case, I applied not for a position around children, but for an Engineering position. They just don’t want any offenders no matter what their qualification is. No, this is not a documented process and it is against the law, but not enforced. The recruiter just claims that somebody else is more qualified. That makes finding a job next to impossible for many people. States are now implementing curfews for offenders on Halloween. This is just another version of house arrest and should be reserved for the worse. In order to keep my job, I travel 65 miles each way to work adding to the commute traffic and gas consumption of our society. For what? The law went too far. If somebody at work sees me on the internet, my career is over. Since writing this originally, people at work found out about my past. They have since stopped communicating with me, making it impossible to do my job. I have transferred to another division, now it is just a matter of time before they find out also. Is this what I truly deserve for working so hard over the 20 plus years? Then there is the impact on offenders´ children at school and in the neighborhood. The harassment that they have to endure. Those children will have scars from that impact for the rest of their lives. So, I ask, are you really saving a child or demolishing many thousands of lives? The law is in place mainly for political reasons, it got the politicians votes to create a blanket sweep of all offenders, no matter what. We are people too, we make mistakes also. The law should give those who have fixed their lives and have proven so over many years the opportunity to be removed from the Internet posting. There are neighborhoods hiring attorneys trying to take legal action to get offenders out of their neighborhoods, the offender in turn has to spend money to defend him/herself. Home builders are taking legal action against offenders that purchase homes in their development. The posting was also used in at least one case where offenders were targeted and murdered! I am desperately asking you to contact your representatives to ask them to change the law: MY PROPOSALS! • Allocate resources from those that they know will not offend to track and control those that are of a real danger to society to actually protect society. • Stop destroying more lives, adults, children and families without giving society the protection that it needs. • Stop depreciating home prices. Home prices are the heart of many people’s investment and retirement. The government is endangering that very investment by going too far. • These changes will not apply to offenders that fall under the following categories: • Predators • Crimes that include multiple victims • Repeat convictions of a sexual offense • Crimes that include sale/distribution of child pornography • Crimes that include kidnap or murder PROPOSED PC290 Rehabilitation Requirements If you are approved for both steps of the certificate of rehabilitation, the offense will not be removed from your record, you will only be relieved of the requirement to register as an offender. This will be a two-step process. These steps will not take place automatically; you must petition the courts for these. Step 1: • It must be a minimum amount of years since completing incarceration and probation. • Misdemeanor offense 10 years. • Serious offender 15 years. • The following crimes do not qualify for the certificate of rehabilitation • Predators do not qualify. • Crimes that include multiple victims do not qualify. • Crimes that include the sale or distribution of child pornography do not qualify. • Crimes that include kidnap and/or murder do not qualify. • You must not have been convicted of any felony for the listed period of time. If so, you do not qualify. • Misdemeanor offense 10 years. • Serious (felony) offender 15 years. • You must obtain a record clearance from the courts. • You must pass a hair follicle test or equivalent for illegal drug use. • A court-recognized psychiatrist must evaluate you to determine your risk to society. • After being approved for step 1, you will be given the following: • Your information will be removed from the Internet. • You must still register as an offender, however instead of yearly on your birthday, it will be within 15 days when changing addresses. Step 2: • After being approved for step 1, there must be a minimum number of years since being approved. • Misdemeanor offense 5 years. • Serious felony offender 10 years. • You must not have been convicted of any felony for the listed period of time. If so, you do not qualify. You may keep the step 1 status. • After being approved for step 2 you will be relieved of the requirement to register as an offender. However the offense will stay on your record. • If you are approved for a certificate of rehabilitation and you are convicted of any sex crime afterwards, your certificate of rehabilitation will be revoked and you will never qualify for it again.

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Lonely Person Looking for Soulmate

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.02.2010 Link to this story: [00160]

Refer in comments to Tale No 000160, Lonely Person Looking for a Soulmate, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm . I´ll send them along to this good mom. alex ------------- My son was deceived by minor posting as 18 on an adult website. He did not go looking for minors. Just a lonely person looking for a soulmate. I am tired of no blame for "Lolitas" and negligent parents. Laws disregard civil liberties of these persons. It's like a "Scarlet Letter" of Puritan Days. Branding is a crime! Murderers don't have to be on registries. They do their time (with criminal intent), and then are free. Many of these \"sexual offenders" had NO CRIMINAL intent, but are branded for LIFE??? Where is the justice and civil liberties of these people???? It is a disgrace in the criminal system. Tax payers are paying to keep these young men behind bars and on registries for no good reason. I am so disappointed in our system. Where is the justice?

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Internet Sting Puts S.O. Through Hell

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.02.2010 Link to this story: [00159]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0159, Internet Sting Puts S.O. Through Hell, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this unjustly treated man. alex I am 35yr old sex offender. I was charged for chatting online to a "minor" on yahoo but the profile was an adult profile, which later the person claimed to be 15yrs old - bate and switch (state police sting). I was sentenced to 4months jail and 2yrs probation. All of which I have completed. I was never tested for drugs or alcohol which I had in my system when arrested in. I went through hell to make a good life and recover. I have a very successfull job and wonderful friends and family that knows the trueth why I socialy commited suicide. I hate that I allowed myself to become this far gone I knew I was killing myself. I would love to share my story with someone in person. I do feel I DO NOT belong on the registry. I was snow balled and forced to take a plea but thats another story.

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Star History Prof Can Never Teach Again

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.02.2010 Link to this story: [00158]

Refer in comments to tale no. 00158, ¨History Prof Can Never Teach Again,¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this faithful mom. alex ---------------- My son was convicted in CA, but he was sent to Texas to serve his time. It is much too expensive to travel there. I talk to him weekly and communicate with letters. All our funds went to the lawyer. He was advised to take a plea, and gave up all rights. I cried that day in court. This was a year ago and I am only now coming out of a deep depression. My son, 39, has never had more than a traffic ticket. He is a college history professor, with a great reputation. He went through a divorce and was depressed and got into adult porn several years ago. Two videos of child porn were on his computer. He is serving a six year sentence. That is bad enough. But when he gets out, what will he do with this label. He can not teach again. His home, where his fiance is still living may be less than 2000 feet from a school. Right now as things stand, this will follow him the rest of his life. I know he is not alone. Many people were arrested that have never harmed a child during a sweep in 2005-6. We must do something.

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Does Anyone Smell a Set-up?

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.02.2010 Link to this story: [00157]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00157 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this very helpful and concerned aunt. alex -------------------- My nephew just looked at pics online - he NEVER touched anyone - just looked! He is a quiet young man who plays games on computers and I guess looked and e-mailed a pic to a "friend" who convinced him to mail it to him. Does anyone other than me smell a setup? I think it is VERY important to weed out the false sex offenders. If the law jumps to arrest all that they ¨think¨ are offenders - the jails will be overflowing.

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Even 15-Mo. Old Son Suffers!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.02.2010 Link to this story: [00156]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00156, Even 15 Mo Old Son Suffers, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this brave veteran. alex ------------------ I am a Son, Husband, Father, Marine, and a SO. And my Family is highly affected by these unjust laws, even my 15 month old son suffers because of it. When will common sense and logic be used? Reform is not just a need but a requirement.

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Disabled Mom Wants to Help Only Son

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.02.2010 Link to this story: [00155]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00155, Disabled Mom Wants to Help Only Son, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this wondeful, loving mother. ------------ Please forgive me for this letter because I am a disabled mother of a sex offender. I felt overwhelmed attempting to understand what your site is about. My son is now 34 years old and he had consensual sex with a 15 year old girl with he was 19 years old. He has truly suffered over this situation for years and has never been arrested for this type of behavior again. He is now homeless, can't find a job and I haven't seen him in 10 years though we talk all the time on the phone. I am working on the laws in Florida. My son has been suffering with this horrid label since he was 19 years old. He is now 34. I want him to have a life. This is ridiculus.

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Living in Fear

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.02.2010 Link to this story: [00154]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00154 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to the person who wrote this. ------------- Currently sex offender laws damage the lives of children and families of nonviolent offenders. They take away basic civil liberties like safety, the ability to make a living, and the right to private lives. No one should be punished after they have completed thier sentence or probation. Additionally, this law means that all groups of offenders are classified the same way and this is simply bad policy. Our family lives in fear everyday that someone will commit acts of violence against us because our address is listed publicly. The whole process has been horific for our daughter, my husband, and myself.

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¨My Daughter Can´t Be in Girl Scouts¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 06.02.2010 Link to this story: [00153]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00153, ¨My daughter cannot be in Girl Scouts,¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this unjustly treated father. Such idiotic laws penalize the children! It has to stop! --------------------- It seems no matter how hard we try to change some of these laws we will not be able to. Once a law is made it is forever on the books and rarely ever changed. I was 19 years old and met a girl who was 14 years old at the mall. well we ended up having sex and dated for just a few weeks and than we stopped seeing each other ..Almost 2 years went by and I was called down town and asked about how I knew this girl.....Long story short - her parents found an old letter that she wrote to one of her girl friends about me and her parents read it and went down town to file a complaint. This was 2 years later. By that time, I had a fiancée and she was 4 months pregnant with our baby! I go to court for the having sex with a girl who is under age and the judge gave me five years in prison, so I missed my first daughter being born amongst other things. It is many years later now -- I am almost 40 years old am married and have a nine year old daughter and a 15 year old daughter - yet I have to register for life and cannot go to any of my daughters´ school events. My 9 year old daughter can not be in girl scouts because she has a family member who is a registerd sex offender - this is per the girl scouts rules. but no matter what when my kids graduate from high school I will be there, regardless of the rules or laws! They just keep adding onto my sentence which I completed a long time ago. Best of luck to everyone!!!!

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I JUST WANT US TO STAY TOGETHER AS A FAMILY!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.02.2010 Link to this story: [00152]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00152 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I´ll send them to this family that is trying so hard to stay together. alex ------------ I am SO UPSET with this law, it is tearing my family APART; HELP, PLEASE!!! I fell in love with a man who had done time for an offense that happened at a party when he was high school age, he is now in his 40's and NOT ANY risk to anyone but himself. Or, am I just the stupid one to have fallen in love with him?? He and I have 4, beautiful, intelligent children together and it is hard for me to move on without him, I DO NOT want to take my children from THEIR FATHER! He and I both lost our mothers when in our childhood and I do not want my children to grow up wihtout BOTH parents! We have been living in motels for SIX YEARS, because we CANNOT get into affordble housing, NO ONE will deal with us. I was doing housekeeping at this last place we have been (2 years), in December the corporate office told me that they do not want him staying here, they told me they were overstaffed and didn't need my help anymore. The general manager gave us a couple months to find something different, one month now. He was hurt at work a few too many times, not able to find work. He's hurting ALL the time; I am also looking for a different job, the economy still sucks! Yes, in the past, I thought maybe it would be better if I just had the kids, but that IS NOT fair to them, is it? Our 7th grader is a 4.0 grade point average, I am SO PROUD of him!!! His father has threatened to leave before and my 12 year old has threatened to sluff off his schoolwork, which I DO NOT want, we need to be together as a FAMILY!!! Our oldest child is a 15 year old, female and this _ _ _ _ law is causing her problems, I AM FED UP WITH IT!!! Our two younger ones are 9 and 7 years old and getting to that age that it is affecting them, also!! It is against the Constitutional for the 4 of them IF NOT mine, also!! We have been to the Nebraska State Patrol to try to get his record reduced; but, those old ladies we talked to are so set in their ways, it seems what we said was in one ear and right out the other! You can tell them that I said that, too, please do. Sorry to go off on you, I NEED to vent! He says that I will get all the assistance we need from the government when he is gone, but that IS NOT what I want, I WANT US to stay together as a FAMILY!

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A Ridiculous Crime A Lifetime Ago!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.02.2010 Link to this story: [00151]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00151 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send the comments along to this anguished and unjustly treated man. alex ---------------------- I am a FORMER convicted Sex offender... Arrested for a misdemenor charge class B for indecent exposure OVER 12 years ago....Since my arrest I have SUCCESSFULLY completed sex offender treatment as well as all requirements for two years probation. I was released from probation in 1999. For TEN YEARS after that I was required to register as a sex offender... During that time I have been blatantly discriminated against by SEVERAL apartment complexes, as well as KICKED OUT of APARTMENTS and HOTELS on more then one occasion... I have been FIRED from jobs as well as DENIED the right to work because of my PAST criminal record. I have MORE THAN paid my debt to society! After being released OFF the sex offender list in October of this past year I had anticipated being treated differently by both apartment complexes as well as prospective places of Employment... I STILL TO THIS DAY AM BEING DENIED THE RIGHT TO WORK as well as the right TO LIVE ANYWHERE as an occupant on a lease....... I have as well been called a child molester and received more than ONE threat and harassment by the fathers of the children of the single mothers I date. I am still to this day pulled over and profiled by POLICE when my license plate is run on my vehicle.....I agree my crime was wrong, but after 12 years of hardly even a speeding ticket much less ANY arrest, I am still denied my basic constitutional right to LIVE......I am fed up with this and want restitution as well as to just LIVE MY LIFE IN PEACE with out being discriminated against for a ridiculous crime a LIFETIME AGO.....it has effected me to the point that I am giving up any hope to carry on a normal life!!!!! I have sought legal representation but NO ONE will pick up a case of discrimination for criminal history... I want to bring to light my story to the public in hopes of finding a resolution to > this problem I will obviously face as long as I am alive.....

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Another Plea Bargain Gone Badly Wrong!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.02.2010 Link to this story: [00150]

Refer in comments to Tale no.00150, Another Plea Bargain, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this very good but very sad mom. -------------------- My son went to court for three years on a charge of stat rape.He was 18 when this happened. he was at a friends and a some girls pulled up he didn't know. The one driving was all over him and asked to go with him,they went to his grandparents and asked to stay the night. The girl said she was 17,he had no reason to doubt it since she pulled up driving. Needless to say they ended up sleeping together.Later on some man went to the jail and made a statement that she told him they slept together.From hearsay they took a warrant.He went to court for 3 years,during that time he was arrested for anything they could arrest him for.Example[he was at a club and sprayed himself with cologne. an officer in plain clothes that knew him walked over to him and asked what are you spraying son and he said cologne and laughed and asked you want some and sprayed it towards him like a joke. 3days later they arrested him for assaulting a government official by spraying an unknown substance.] He did do some things he should have been charged with, but none to do with any kind of sex offense.During the 3 years of court they kept putting all these other charges off never trying anything. We could not afford an attorney and had to use a court appointed one. NO ONE EVER CAME TO COURT CONCERNING THE SEX OFFENSE IN 3 YEARS! The week before he was sentenced we were told they were going to drop it. Then there was a flip. We were told if he did not accept a plea of indecent liberties with a child they were going to push and get the max on all the other charges,and if he took it they were 99.9% sure he would get no time. But he got 18 months on that and six months on another charge,then probation on 2 charges to be served consecutively. When he was released he had to register as an offender,he could not get a job and got so disheartened he turned to drugs.Now he is battling with it,he has no self esteem and a lot of anger in him ,his life is ruined! As a mother it is so hard to watch him hurt,he also lacked one point on his I.Q. being considereed retarded which makes things harder for him to understand. I think they need to go back through all these people that had to register and see if they even had any real evidence to be charged as an offender.I also believe that if girls 13 and above consent to having sex they should not be able to charge a man. Has the world forgotten that a lot of our elders were married from 12 and up and those marriages lasted. My mother was 83 when she died but she had always told me that in the older days a girl was considered a woman once she got her period,just as I also believe we become accountable of our own sin around that age. Why do we punish people now when this was considered appropriate long ago. I pay no attention to these lists,except for the harm they are doing to no telling how many innocent people. CONCERNED FOR OUR WORLD PS.If anyone wants to use this story I would be thankful and hope that it makes our lawmakers open their eyes. I talked to a ninth grader a couple years ago, and she said their might be a couple of girls in her class that had not had sex! why doesn't the law consider that and check statistics on how many kids have had sex by the age 16?

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He Used bathroom publicly on top of a mountain!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.02.2010 Link to this story: [00149]

Refer in comments to tale No. 00149 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I´ll send them along to this unfairly treated coach! Alex ------------ I m a person who was accused as a sex offender based on Colo laws that even state persons caught using the bathroom in public (at the top of a mountian) are sex offenders and have been told even though I was only going to coach a person in soccer as i have done for 10 years that I am and will always be considered a SO, and can no longer coach!

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¨A Voice - Burned by the Law¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.02.2010 Link to this story: [00148]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00148, ¨A Voice, Burned by the Law,¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. --------------------- I am a voice who wishes to speak out about the unfair side of the law, form the insiders prospective. I am one that was burned by the law, last my whole life, my job, and I can't live hardly anywhere because of schools, churches, parks, daycares, and I am the last person that would ever hurt a child. Thank you for making the petition I have been trying to figure out how to make, and thank you for fighting this. It isn't fair to the people that aren't hard core predators to be forced to live like we are. Most people on the registry are on there for having a girlfriend that was 'too young' when they were still too young themselves. And they get punished for life for that one moment. If that isn't unjust I don't know what is. Again thank you, and may we see a change.

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All S.O.s Treated Like Monsters!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 01.02.2010 Link to this story: [00147]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00147, ¨All S.O.s Treated Like Monsters,¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this unfortunate and unjustly treated man. ---------------------------------------------------- I am a Sex Offender. In 1992 I had consentual sex with a 16 year old when i was 21 but was told that she was 18. I was convicted of Carnal Knowledge of a Juvenile in 1993 and was put on probation. In 1994 people found out about it and a girl accused me of having sex with her. She was 16 at the time as well. Because of the previous conviction it was hard to prove my innocence. Fortunately, the young lady call my house and spoke to my girlfriend and my girlfriend allowed the answering machine to pick up before talking. She asked her a series of questions including Full Name, Date of Birth, and Social Security Number. The girl gave all that to her in the conversation and then said that I got smart with her and she found out that i was a sex offender. The tape could not be used in court but the DA did agree to hear it and I only got probation instead of jail time. And got released from probation early. But because I have two separate convictions on me, I now have to register for life. It has been 15 years, I have kids and have not and will not re-offend. I want to go on with my life and try to get it back together but can't due to my state´s new law. My kids are upset cause they want me to to come to their games and I can't. The governor of this state calls us "monsters"! and the State doesn't have any room for forgiveness at all. I have helped so many people in my community over the last 15 years. I have people in the City Government that would give me letters of support to petition the court to release me from registration but there are not statues on record that will give me that chance. This was 15 years ago! I´ve got a good job; famiily and supporters in the community but no way of getting it done. If there is any way you can help I would love to know. I know I´m not the only one like this. Not all sex offenders had sex with infants and murdered them! I really would like to have a normal life again.

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Curious Youth Try to Understand Sexuality

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 19.01.2010 Link to this story: [00146]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00146, Youth Try to Understand Sexuality, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send this along to this supportive mother. alex ------------------ My son is serving a 10 year sentence for having kiddy porn on his computer. He never touched a child and never had any interest in sex with kids, but I have learned that my son had some sexual interactions with other boys his age when he was in middle school. So though I don't understand it it makes it more understandable his curiousity about it on the internet. When the FBI tore his apt apart where he lived with his pregnant girl friend they found nothing but what was on the computer. I'm not shy about sharing my son's story because I know many young men are being caught up in this hysteria and fear of the internet. The internet is a real danger because of the laws for curious young people trying to understand sexuality. My son started on the internet when he was about 15, and though he was supervised he was not supervised enough. Our religious values had little impact on this thinking. After my son comes out of prison he will be marked as a sex offender the rest of his life, it makes no difference he never laid hands on any kid. His son who was born just before he went to federal prison will be about 10 years old when he comes out. ----Mom of a SO by societies standards.

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We lost our daughter - what more do they want?

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.01.2010 Link to this story: [00145]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00145, ¨We Lost Our daughter -what more do they want?¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this distraught wife. alex ------------------------ I am married to a registered sex offender whos crime had nothing to do with a minor but still lives under statutes of every person with that label on their head. We have 2 children together and cannot live together because of the laws stating he cannot live with a minor child. We Lost our daughter while he was incarcerated. What more do they want from us? - they took away his good name, his freedom after he served time. He cannot go to his children´s school or take them to the park. He was given 2 tests with the result stating he was not a dangerous person and not likely to re-commit his crime, yet the laws still state he cannot live with us. It´s been 2 years since his release and we see each other about every other day. Being married, its hard, but worth it - I guess!

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Overkill for 1st Time Offender

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.01.2010 Link to this story: [00144]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00144, OVERKILL for 1st time offender, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this young man. alex --------------------------------------------------- I was a first time offender, who ordered child pornography in a Federal sting. No previous criminal history, no attempt to contact minors, no other issues, and was being treated for sex addiction. My psychiatrist, whom I paid to come to the trail, was not even called on to speak. Rather than probation, I was given a year in Federal prison, plus three years of torture in the system with a passive-aggressive non-responsive probation officer, mandatory group therapy at my expense, and travel restrictions that prevented my from seeing my family. This is overkill, as is the Megan's Law registration requirement, since I pose no threat to the community.

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´Victim´ Married 13 Yrs. to Offender

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.01.2010 Link to this story: [00143]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00143 ¨Victim¨ married 13 yrs to offender, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this couple. alex -------------------------- My husband has a charge for being with me under age. He was charged like he molested me instead of statutory rape. I was fourteen and he was nineteen. We have been married for thirteen years and he still has to register every year and gets grouped with all the other molesters. Megan's law doesn't give the date of the offense so the older he gets, the creepier he looks because no one can tell if it happened yesterday or eighteen years ago!

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23 Yr Old Misdemeanor on S.O. Registry

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.01.2010 Link to this story: [00142]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0142 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this suffering man! ------------ I am a rso grandfathered in 2 years ago for a plea i took 23 years ago during the witch hunt days. i was told after a year probation it would go away and I could get on with my life. I did! I raised 3 children, coached little league 3 years, attended school and scout functions but because they decided to do this i have been deprived of seeing my oldest daughter graduate and will not be able to see the other two graduate. The sheriff´s office shows up and does a search of my home today. I recently lost my job of 4 years due to this because they thought i was a felon. These were not felony convictions! >

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They Want Him to Fail!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 09.01.2010 Link to this story: [00141]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00141, They Want Him to Fail, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this anguished mom in Indiana. --------------------- They WANT Him to Fail! Why are they so tough on first time offenders with no other record, not even a speeding ticket in the state of Indiana? My son is back in jail because they claim he broke parole violation by working at his employers house (he has two children) and this was all brought up in court originally and he was given permission as long as they were not in the house. Now he is sitting in jail until Wed the 13th until a "new " judge makes a decision to keep him there or let him go home and try to live his life within the strict boundaries they make for him. They want him to fail. They aren't worried about him getting the proper help. That is most important I think and they don't care. He has been punished for almost three years, and his life is pretty much ruined. We need help. He is about to lose his house, and everything else. If he could move out of state, he would. Hope someone can give me some answers. This is hurting all his family. no one cares.

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You Can´t Study or Work Without a Computer

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 05.01.2010 Link to this story: [00140]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0140, ¨You Can´t Work or Study These Days Without a Computer.¨ and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this conscientious grandmother and mother. ----------------------------------- I am sure there are many people out there who need the RSOL digests who are not allowed on the internet! Please send them the digests in print! When someone is convicted of an internet crime, in cases like my son, they are not allowed access to the internet while they are on probation. Ok now our probation department goes a little bit farther then that. My son is not allowed a computer in his home whether it is on line or not. My son is going to be taking classes here pretty soon, I have to type all of his papers up for him because he is not allowed to be on a computer period. There are so many things you can no longer do without computer access. They will not even let us get him a computer and put a filter on it or have it monitered through the courts if they feel the need. My so is really upset, he has contacted the aclu to file a complaint against a counseler at one college counsellor who told him he could not help him that find a class, because there were no classes that did not take computer (untrue). He then went to another college where they went out of their way to get him registered in classes that he will not have to use a computer. This is just one more example of how they are treated, when their offenses are minor and they have already served thier time. My son´s family wants to go back home and live with him. My son is not a danger to his kids yet his probation officer says his kind of crime is the kind that makes him to do higher crimes, which is not true according to your statistics.. My son´s family have been jumping around from one place to another, his wife has spondelosis real bad and it is hard for her to work. She is now living with her mother with her 2 kids and she hates it, the girls hate it, while my son has a place and a job and all they want to do is go home and live like a family again. The registry and these laws make that impossible. I have to go babysit for my son and his girls every Sunday. I am the court appointed supervisor, fortunetly he was allowed time with his girls which does not happen in a lot of cases. That takes time away from my own family and the grandkids I take care of. I am a grandparent and a parent, and we and have a volunteer group that meets once a month for support of grandparents and relative caregivers.

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My Children Need a Voice

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.01.2010 Link to this story: [00139]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00139, My Children Need a Voice, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send the comments to this brave and good mom! ------------------------------ LOOKING FOR SUPPORT & RESOURCES from a woman unfairly labled a sex offender! My children need a voice. I need help navigating this system, to protect my children's rights and mine. I cannot afford legal representation. With the help of friends I am looking for a pro bono attorney...hard to come by. My children were born in 1996 and 1999. In 2007 charges of sexual battery were brought against me as their father was 16 and 18 at the time of conception. I had been the sole financial provider as a single mother while I watched my children live without so much that they were deserving of. I was told by this other side of my children's family that I got 'plenty of help with the children' and 'did not deserve childsupport'. During this time not once did I discontinue the children's contact with them, visits were obtainable at their descretion, and they enjoyed our children with very little responsibility. This is a very complicated case with many confusing details. I stood up for what wrong is mine to own, sadly the 'victim' and others who were heard on this case did not take accountability for their wrong and not surprisingly, were not opposed to being untruthful! I cannot say enough that this relationship should not have occurred and I was wrong. However it should have been questioned as to why charges were brought up more than ten years after the fact when I pursued childsupport. I actually went to the system for help. I was prepared to own my wrong. What I was not prepared for was that my children would be inconsequential details. What I had intended to do was move forward so that my children had both sides of their family supporting them in all manner of responsibilities. I served the full two years of my sentance, released August 2009 and am on PRC (post release control) for five years. My children were cared for by my parents during those two years. One week before my release I was told by the Adult Parole Authority that I could not live under the same roof as my children. This forced my children out of the school system and community of which my parents have lived and been involved in for thirty years and had my children settled in and thriving. And now as they live with their father, a.k.a. my victim, I am not permitted any contact. As a condition of my parole I am required to attend sex offender 'treatment'. This facility recommends that I not even have supervised visits until I receive further treatment. This further treatment includes that I must 'take further responsibility' in that my account be more in accord with that of my victim's. My children are not my victims, this case originated out of family/domestic court, children's services has never been involved, I have numerous friends and family in poignant positions of society and their communities that have close intimate knowledge and experience of me as a mother and a person and hold me in the highest regard. Point blank, this was poor moral behavior of me fourteen years ago, I have no sexual interest in teenagers/children. I am told by the sex offender specialists that because I have done this once, I'm at risk to do it again/re-offend (I cannot be 'fixed'), and those family and friends who KNOW I am not, 'cannot appreciate that I am at risk to re-offend' therefor they cannot be parties of supervision between my children and me. I loaned $10,000 at 6-1/4% against my life insurance policy (my children are the beneficiaries) for legal fees due to this criminal case. While incarcerated my home went into foreclosure, I am filing bankruptcy. I was placed in a third tier sex offender catagory as per the AWA, though the charges of my crime occurred in May of 2007. As per parole restrictions I cannot go to a shopping mall, I cannot attend church services, unless there are no children in the building, I cannot attend any activity where children congregate (a professional basket ball game was cited as an example), I cannot be around anyone under the age of 18. Not my own family members or my friends' children. It's not just the I, I, I's in this paragraph, look deeper into the ramifications of all this for my children. The collateral damage is atleast as inexusable as the action/behavior for which I was prosecuted. I know I was wrong, I took accountability. The sex offender specialist for the Adult Parole Athority said to me in response to my frustration and grievance over the psychological impact on my children not having contact with their mother to which the APA is imposing, "...to put it bluntly they are victims of the system". ( You don't say?) And there's more, so much more. I'm just trying to keep this brief.

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Hopelessness Creeps In!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 31.12.2009 Link to this story: [00138]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00138 (be sure and specify that it´s a Tale, not a blog), and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send comments to this very hard-pressed, courageous man! Alex ---------------------- HOPELESSNESS CREEPS IN! I was convicted of molesting my daughter in 2004. I felt bad about my actions and had self-disclosed them to my wife at the time, who then turned me over to the law during our divorce. Since then, I have undergone 5 years of treatment and have successfully completed probation. Throughout it all, I have had the support and backing of my current wife, whom I married in 2007. We met online during a brief period of time between being released on my own cognizance and being inducted into the probation system, where I was then denied the ability to be online. We stayed in touch via phone conversations and she visited me on multiple occasions until we eventually married. My wife, is an immigratn and non-US native. When we put in our paperwork for immigration, the Adam Walsh Act had not been well publicized. We were shocked to learn that they wished to deny our application on the basis of MY criminal background. We've now been through two rounds of appeals. The last appeal was dismissed entirely and we have very little time to submit yet another appeal. The financial toll on us during this process is extroardinarily difficult to maintain given that the economic collapse has made a difficult situation a nearly impossible one (I am currently unemployed, very much due to the fact that I am a sex offender.) I'm not sure where to turn to for help, but this is my plea: My wife has made it possible for my life to continue in a positive direction. I learned in treatment that my ability to maintain positive, emotionally intimate relationships, is a key element in maintaining my strength of resolve in making sure I do not re-offend. My treatment provider has always been fully backing us and our relationship. It was even put to the test in that I would not have been allowed to be with her while on probation if my therapist and probation officers had not met with her, counselled us during our relationship, and found it to be a positive, helpful, and meaningful relationship. This is what makes it so hard for me to understand the Adam Walsh Act's outright denial of our ability to maintain a relationship. If I cannot petition for her as an alien relative, she will have no choice but to return home or face deportation, and we all know how impossible it would be for me to enter any other nation on Earth, especially if it is with the intent to maintain residency. So, in short, they are saying that I don't have the right to marry, or even keep a marriage alive, if it is with a foreign national. I am denied this because I commited a crime against a child. But she has no minor children and I have had a vasectomy. Children will never enter the picture in our relationship. I have thus had to prove that I cannot possibly represent a threat to her. As we know, no therapist can make a claim that a previously charged offender has zero risk to reoffend, though they have stated my risk should be evaluated as being as low as possibly assessed. This isn't enough, apparently. The department then claimed that we failed to prove I am not a threat to my wife. May I now ask, can any human being prove they do not represent a potential threat to ANY other human being? My risk is evaluated as being as low as possible... what more can I prove? My wife and I are devestated by the most recent dismissal and are feeling some hopelessness creeping in. It is a terrible feeling to know that although I have done everything I can to become a better, more trustworthy person, more morally upstanding person, not only must I now struggle to make ends meet, but I am not allowed to love, or be loved as well? Isn't the fact that love has been a struggle in the past one of he original causes for my offense in the first place? And what of my wife? How can the government justify tearing her heart out, crushing her hopes and dreams, in the name of protecting HER? I ask, how can this possibly be a way to keep our society safer? Joseph Duncan was quoted as saying, "I committed my crimes as an act of revenge against our society." He did some really terrible things. Nevertheless, I can't believe this provision of the Adam Walsh Act will not invite more such actions, not from myself, for I am resolved to be the best person I can be for the remainder of my time on Earth, but something must be done for the good of us all. We must somehow win a victory against this provision and its going to take a great deal of financial support to do it. So where can we turn?

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Turned Down, Knocked Down, Kicked Down

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 29.12.2009 Link to this story: [00137]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00137 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this very sad young man who is trying against all odds to put his life back together. I hope RSOL participants don´t become numb to these fine young people - reach out and help one near you! Alex ---------------------- TURNED DOWN, KNOCKED DOWN, KICKED DOWN - Is There Any Hope? I'm wondering how we are suppose to get work. I use to could get contract work but now I can't even get a job at Lowe's or McDonald's. EVERYONE is checking and NO one is hiring! Even though I was 19 at the time and it was over 11 years ago. Just curious if anyone had any suggestions. I'm about to have to move home with my parents at 31 years of age. I don't know what to do... I'm completely broke and lost and have no way of establishing a life. At every turn I'm turned down, kicked down, knocked down... is there any hope?

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Violation of My Right to be on This Planet!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 29.12.2009 Link to this story: [00136]

refer in comments to Tale No. 00136 (be sure to specify this so we will know how to post your comment and to whom to send it),and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send it along to this very brave and good man. alex ------------------------------------------------------ VIOLATION OF MY RIGHT TO BE ON THIS PLANET! I am a cold war veteran and a father of three beautiful children, I am not a rapest, childmolestor or kidnapper. I had been convicted of a NONVIOLENT sexual assault in the fourth degree, that now does not appear as a statute,17 years ago, and last year was told that I had to register as a sex offender for LIFE. I have already paid for this offence 17 years ago in full according to the laws of that time. Now I am being punished again for the same offence, they call it civil collateral, I call it a violation of my right to be human on this planet. according to Declaration of Human rights of the United Nations. This State is in direct violation of Artical 3, Artical 4, Artical 5, Artical 6, Artical 7, Artical 11, Artical 12, Artical 21, Artical 23 and Artical 30 of this document!

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Lie Detectors - Medieval Torture

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.12.2009 Link to this story: [00135]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00135 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send along to this extraordinary woman and her tortured son. The Tale is from an RSOL activist, and the Comment is from another RSOL activist, responding directly to her. -------------------------------------------------------------- As a few of you know, my son recently took his first polygraph as part of his probation. He passed the test because he was very honest; however there was a serious consequence to his honesty. Because he had drunk and watched adult content on Showtime (They called Showtime "Pornography"), his PO filed to have his probation removed, recommending prison for a year and GPS monitoring (in our state, the monitoring would be for life). The court-ordered therapist was very surprised at her recommendation, stating that was NOT what they had discussed. We then found out that the judge who would be hearing this is the toughest in the county with zero tolerance...the county detention overflowing with people waiting to be sent to prison, much because of his harsh sentencing. We did not have much hope. But, with much much prayer and constant and unwaivering faith, we received a miracle. My boy was sentenced to two months and did not have to have the GPS monitoring. The judge was stern and harsh but everyone was "shocked" at this "leniency" from him. My son has changed so much. I get 2 one-hour visits with him per week. He is locked up with other SOs and is attending Bible study daily. His faith is growing. Not only his faith, but his awareness of the need for change and reform. When I visited him Tuesday he told me that he had been discussing RSOL with others and they were interested and had questions and he pulled out a list and a pen from his pocket with their many questions. Yesterday when I visited again, he had more of their questions. He spoke to me of the way these people had been treated, not just the SOs but the whole general population. He said, "Mom, I know of at least FIVE constitutional rights violated. This is wrong and something HAS to be done, especially when people have paid the price for crimes and served their time." I reminded him that this was his opportunity for involvement and change was slow but started with each one of us as individuals. He told me then, "I will never say again that I don't want to hear about it or not deal with it". He has FINALLY stopped the denial and has moved to the next step. It was one thing to know that he was "victimized" but what has really made the change was seeing how common and so very wrong that the laws are and the treatment of offenders. He also told me that, although he didn't want to go to jail, much good has come out of this and he's seeing the positive of being there. He's wearing the most beautiful smile and he radiates peace. He's sharing everything...his faith, his information, contacts....even his food. I smiled when I asked if he was buying for others too, reminding him that I could barely afford to put money into his account. He told me that he knew that and wouldn't ask for extra...but yes, he did share....that too many had NObody. I know we can't save the world but if the difference is made with even one life...then we'll pray for that "domino effect". I worry when he gets out...his PO is difficult....and few succeed under her. The attorney told me that she "requests" these cases and if so many "fail" then it makes me think she has a "personal agenda" here. But, if all goes well, the probation will be complete the last of July. My son is growing....I am growing. And we're educating....those around us are becoming aware...and are starting to share and advocate. It's a start and I am most grateful --------------------- COMMENT I cannot claim to know how you feel, but it must be horrendously difficult. I agree with your son: people are jumping on the sex offender scapegoating much as they did witch burning many years ago. There are rights being breached all around us and nobody seems to care as long as its a sex offender's rights. Also, I am aware of many probation officers who do just what you are suspecting. They use their position as an excuse to set people up for prison. The best bet may be to try to relocate him to a less threatening district (or state) if at all possible. I myself was threatened by a rather difficult PO before my release and changed my release plans promptly. I managed to survive probation relatively in tact, but it was (not) easy. I still have very little faith in polygraphs. I failed my first one (or two?) and passed my next three. I have no idea what the difference was, since I was not hiding anything. I think they measure a lot more than one's veracity anyway and are very unscientific. However, most law enforcement people swear that polygraphs are 98% accurate and absolutely geared to detect dishonesy of any sort. I think they are silly, overpriced toys. In any case my thoughts and prayers are with you, your son and your family.

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"Victim" of RSO, Now His Wife, Begs for him to be removed from registry.

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.11.2009 Link to this story: [00133]

Refer in comments to Tale No 00133, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I'll send them along to this very brave and articulate wife! ------------------ My husband is on the sex offender registry in Illinois, for 15 years for having a consensual reltionship with me ,his wife,when I was 16. He is lumped in with (child molesters),rapists and the worst kind of perverts. We have three children and my husband can't keep a job (he has a P.H.D),he can't pick up our kids from school,we've been thrown out of our home twice because we live by a school and police monitor our home. Why in Gods name isnt any commom sense prevailing around this issue and start letting people off the registry who are not a public threat? This is destroying our family, our children's well being and my father in law( a decorated war veteran) has depleted his pension supporting us. We have testified before the Illinois legislature, had several favorable articles on us in the Chicago Tribune, yet they wont let my husband off the registry. He only has a misdimeanor for being with me, his devoted wife of 5 years now. We were married by the same judge who gave Mark the misdemeanor. Please, please someone help us. Neighbors stare at our home,people think a rapist lives in the home. Mark's oldest son(from a previous marriage) was assaulted in Hyde Park,defending Mark from fellow classmates calling Mark a rapist!! This is ruining my childrens welfare and I, the"victim", am begging some one to take his name off the sex offender registry!!. Please ,someone help my family from this horror. We have been pulled over by police and Mark detained(while our children scream in the car) so many times I can't count. This is profoundly unfair. We need your help immediatley,please help us!!!!! This law(Megans laws) was designed to protect children,not ransack and destroy families and put a scarlett letter around people's necks who do not deserve to be labeled sex offenders. Someone: Please,please help us!!!!

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A Good Christian Man, But Also Human!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.11.2009 Link to this story: [00132]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00132, A Good Christian Man, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I`ll send them along to this good wife! ----------------------- My husband was arrested for solicitation of a minor, a computer offense, while we were dating. This is when I discovered he had developed an addiction to internet chatting for sexual purposes in an attempt to remain celibate until marriage. He began when he was approximately 18 years of age and was 29 years old when arrested for chatting with a 14 year-old undercover cop. I do not condone what he did, but I understand how he got cauhgt up in his addiction. My husband will soon begin a 5 year prison sentence and be a registered sex offender for life. What he really needs is counseling and a chance to lead a normal life. Under the current laws this will never happen. My husband is a good Christian man who is also a human, and is not without sin. He has never denied responsiblity for his actions and is very remorsefull. I love him and will always support him.

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Society Eats These People Alive!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 20.11.2009 Link to this story: [00131]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00131 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I`ll send them along to this courageous and supportive wife. ALSO SEE COMMENT BELOW! --------------------- My husband was convicted of 2nd degree sexual assault on a child in 2007. She was the teenage daughter of our neighbors who we were very good friends with. She was very promiscuous for her age and acted in a very provocative way toward the men around her ...including her older brother and her own father. I had always sensed that there was something going on with her. Being in the social work field she had many signs that she was sexually abused in her life in some way. Our families spent many evenings together as well as weekends. My husband was the neighborhood go-to-guy. He would get out there and get the kids involved in playing sports. He fixed things for everyone. He was fun and helped the neighborhood with whatever was needed. The neighbor girl grew very fond of my husband. There was times she would hang all over him and he would nicely tell her to get away from him. She had obsessive behaviors toward him. He would tell her when she displayed appropriate behavior and of course she\'d laugh and say she was only "kidding". One time he and she and her brothers and some neighbor kids were at the local swimming spot...she was jumping on my husband and trying to wrestle him...he kept pushing her away...she grabbed him...he made the huge mistake of grabbing her back! He then became very concerned with her and avoided her. She became upset. Long story short, she filed sexual assault charges on him. Because he tried explaining what had happened during the investigation, the detectives twisted his stories and took what he was saying as confession. My husband, never being in trouble with the law, did not know what to do other then "tell the truth". Unfortunately this only went against him. The case became a "he said/she said"case. Other then his admitting grabbing her...there was no proof of anything else. Because she was a minor the court sided with her. My husband was sentenced to 4yrs in prison. When he gets out he will be registered for the rest of his life. I agree that he was wrong to have grabbed her back. Very stupid choice. but he is not a predator and he is not a "sex offender." This was one isolated incident...this was an extreme lack in judgment on his part but now he will be labeled for life. The sex offenders registry does not differentiate between the child molester/rapist and the 19yr old who had sexual contact with his 15yr old girlfriend or the the man who made a mistake and lacked in his judgment for a moment ONE day in his life. Society eats these people alive. Any chance of living a normal life and trying to move forward is almost impossible. The registry is supposed to protect the public from child molesters/rapists - but as it may help (in some case) it also puts the public in danger... ----------------- COMMENT Pure Fear! I want so badly to be an advocate for those who are being treated unfairly especially when it comes to the Registered sex Offenders. I believe strongly that a there should be a differentiation between the ONE moment of stupidity to the man who lures the 8yr old into the public bathroom and forces him/her to have oral sex on him. Definitely a difference. (tale 00131) My husbands story comes with so many circumstances as well as a very troubled teenage girl!! I hesitate to sign the list cause of pure fear! I do not want trouble for my children or my husband. I fear someone will recognize my name and the family of the girl will continue the threats they had when my husband was sentenced. Please give me more info on this list...i have read true testimonies of situations like mine and WOW did those give me true comfort...I know now that I am not the only one!!! I am going to pray to our Lord and he will put it in my heart as to what I need to do...

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College Student on Registry Needs Help w. Paper

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.11.2009 Link to this story: [00130]

Refer in comments to tale No. 00130 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I`ll send them along to this college student. ------------------ I'm currently a registered sex offender in north carolina. I know that my state isn't as bad as some with their laws, but I'm afraid that it will get worse. I've been on the r.s.o.l. since 2001 and have two years left. I was only 18 when I got convicted of indecent liberties with a minor. The girl was 14. Her parents were alright with us dating and said that they didn't care what we did as long as she didn't get pregnant. I was ill-informed that the law was as long as the age difference was less then 5 years it was legal. Well after we broke up her parents called the police. I never denided anything we did I even told the police everything we had done because I didn't know it was illegal. We never had sex because she wanted to wait but we did everything else other then vaginal intercourse. I spent 2 1/2 years in prision and 3 years probation. Went thru counseling and haven't reoffened. DO you any suggestions on what I need to do to help me come off of the registery? I`m also writing a paper for College English - any ideas are welcome.

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Can`t Even Go to a Library!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 12.11.2009 Link to this story: [00129]

Comments should be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I`ll send them on to this unfortunate sex offender who is barred from libraries in his state. ------------------------------------------- I was charged with a sex crime as a young adult back in 1996. Since that time sex offender laws kept increasing, and have gotten so ridiculous. I can't even go to a public library anymore. I have been highly dicriminated against, even though I have served my debt to society. No wonder people do not want to register. My victim forgave me years ago. Yet this unforgiving world, in my opinion will never inherit the kingdom of GOD. Only those who will inherit the kingdom are those, that have accepted Jesus. Yet one day when we give an account to GOD what is the response going to be as to why are sex offenders being ousted from community and even church. Everybody in my opinion has commited a sex crime, yet my bible says all have sinned and fallen short. There is noone who is `more righteous than thou`. All this discrimination is no better than the way blacks were treated, before the civil movement. When are people going to grow up and stop harboring resentments based on stuff that happened years ago? It's about time that this country's (hateful) attitude, fear and paranoia be done away with.

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This Keeps Noone Safe, It`s Ridiculous

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 12.11.2009 Link to this story: [00128]

I was convicted for committing a sex offense in 1990, in Nebraska, and spent 12 1/2 years in prison for it. Initially, upon release, I was required to register for 10 years. Now, under a new law going in to effect next year, I will be required to register for life, even though there is nothing to indicate I pose any more of a threat to society than I did upon my release from custody in 2003. In addition, I will be required to supply any and all internet identifiers I have, such as email addresses, will be required to sign a consent form giving authorities permission to search my home without a warrant or any sort of cause, and will be committing a felony if I access/use social networking sites and instant messaging services, even if I have no contact with minors on any of them. This is ridiculous. This is un-Constitutional. This must stop. It is over-reaching and will keep absolutely no-one safe.

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System Swallows Victim Whole

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.11.2009 Link to this story: [00127]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00127 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to the sister of this young man. ----------------------- Having to take a plea in fear of what a jury would think, my brother has had to unfairly endure the hardest two and a half years of his life. With another two and a half years to go, we have watched the system swallow another victim whole. This entire process has sucked the life out of my family. Its not fair: he is treated the same as a sexual predator. He made a bad decision, he is not harmful to society! Something has to be done!

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Disgusted with Registry in Maryland

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.11.2009 Link to this story: [00126]

Refer in comments to Tale 00126, "Disgusted," and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll forward them. ------------ I am a registered offender in the State of Maryland and I am disgusted with the way they register us within the state and the ability for one officer to change the term of you requirements by the swift marking of a pen or a moving a mouse within the system. Explanation: I went to register and on my charges and my last day in court I was to register for 10 years and was filed under the state of Maryland as a Level I Sexual Offender. I went to register recently and came out reading a piece of paper stating that I am now classified to be on the registry for lifetime instead of ten years. The system has so many loop holes and is out of control. Local, state and federal authorities are lost in their paper files and new technologies. My life was destroyed because a minor lied about his age and and I didn't know any better but I took a plea out of court out of fear to get out of jail. Then this registry happened to shame me for life! I believe in protecting our children but at what cost have we taken to do this? Let's destroy another life for the safety of the children?

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Probation Officer says, "Buy a Tent & Live Under a Bridge."

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.10.2009 Link to this story: [00125]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00125 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I'll send them to this brave mother and her terrified son. Shame on this probation officer - he should be fired! alex ----------------------------------- Probation officer says, "Buy a Tent and Live Under the Bridge." The sex offender "witchhunt" that has taken hold all over this country is ridiculous and devastating. My son, who is 19, is living this nightmare, along with the rest of his family. We have no resources to turn to. How is he supposed to recover from this? How do you move forward? Is it even possible? The girl who was 17 participated in consensual sex, but was a runaway, and to avoid charges herself, made a deal with the police. It was not rape, it was not molestation of a small child. How do we combat this and what can I do to change things? He is just a young man whose life is ruined. He feels his only option at this point is suicide. There are only a few shelters in Phoenix (which is 90 miles from here) that will accept s.o.'s and they are full. His probation officer told him to "buy a tent and go under the bridge", which made my jaw drop. One, it's 32 degrees here at night and will be snowing here soon and second, how dangerous is that, to have my young adult son just out there at night? That's just wrong, let alone inhumane. How do we change the laws about this? What can I do? We give driving licenses to 16 year olds to commit vehicular manslaughter yet they are unable to consent to sex????? It boggles my mind. I just can't wrap my brain around any of this. My son has a loving family who supports him and it's insane that there isn't ONE safe place for him to stay to move forward and become an upstanding upstanding citizen. This is just sooooo wrong. Please help us.

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Can't Have Kids Because of Husband's S.O.

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 20.10.2009 Link to this story: [00124]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00124, Can't Have Kids, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I'll send them along to this fiancee of a sex offender. ------------ I am involved with a sex offender that was a teen and had sex with a teen. He is to register for life, but yet is STILL serving time 10 years after the fact due to our state's over the top sentencing...he still has 9 more years of tedious supervision to go with an electronic bracelet attached to his ankle! Because of his probation/supervision status, we will not be able to have kids...it would always be a fight for him to have contact with his own kids and minor rule violations will send him back to prison leaving me a single mom and extending the time he has to serve on supervision out further as well due to truth in sentencing laws! As it stands now, I will be 42 when he is done with probation if no bumps occur in the road; this is too old for me to START a family! So his punishments are not limited to him! And after doing 20 years of this, we have a lifetime of a registry preventing US where we can live and how we can make a living!

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Continuing Criminalization of Mental Illness

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 20.10.2009 Link to this story: [00123]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00123, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm I'll send along to the couple who are struggling with such great injustice. Alex ------------------------- I am the wife of, now that he has been sentenced, a "sex offender". My husband of 9 years suffers from Bipolar Disorder. He has what is ackowledged by the Prosecutor as a manic episode. Despite a previous spotless record, and having served (he was active duty when this occured) 25 years in the Military, he was chaged at the Federal Level. They did this for two reasons. One, to gain publicity, and a lot of it. They used his military position to vilify him for days. Two, the ICAC has had a public dispute with the State Prosecutor, and rather than deal with him, took the path of least resistance and charged him Federally. This took his charge of Enticement of a minor over the internet from 30-90 days in jail to 46 months in a FED prison. He had to plea down to this 46 month sentence. Despite his previous perfect record, an stellar post arrest rehabilitaion effort (he voluntarily attended state sex offense treatment)took a psycho-sexual exam, got further sex inventory testing - all of which showed this was a fluke, abhorrent act. he was slammed. The judge even asked, how could being Bipolar cause you to break the law? Obvioulsy he didn't care, or take time to read the extensive testing he did concerning his mental health issues. The laws in place are absurd. 46 Months for a first time offender with documented mental health issues????? This is the continued criminalization of mental illness! HELP: What can we do?????

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ANOTHER TRAGIC DEATH CAUSED BY THESE LAWS!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.10.2009 Link to this story: [00122]

Respond in comments to Tale No. 00122, TRAGIC DEATH, and send them to alexm60@fastmail.fm - I will send them along to this sad and proud father. -------------------------------------------- ANOTHER TRAGIC DEATH CAUSED BY THESE LAWS! My son was not yet convicted of any crime, but this violation removed his "withhold of adjudication" and he now was a convicted felon. Unable to get even the most menial job because of this and all the other monumental injustice heaped on his young shoulders, he turned to prescription drugs as a way to cope. I did not know until the end he was doing this. He had no health insurance and no money. He found a local "feelgood" doctor" who we are now also pursuing for malpractice. My son was given methadone for simple pain!! Methadone is unlike all other narcotics in that it accumulates in the body for up to 72 hours while the pain relief or "buzz" lasts only 8 hours. Even taking the drug as prescribed can kill you. I should know, in that I'm a clinical pharmacist with 25 years experience. We don't have the toxicology report back yet, but it's pretty certain what it will show.(if you want a scare about methadone see the website www.harmd.org) My son was never an rso, but the prosecutor made sure he appeared that way by giving him many of the sex offender conditons. She effectively ruined his life anyway. I recently talked to her boss and reminded him of how i had begged for my son's life last March. He said "sorry for your son's poor choices"!!! THey left him no choices but bad ones. I don't blame him, I just miss my boy and sometimes want to die myself.

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Seeking Convictions, Not Protecting Children

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.10.2009 Link to this story: [00121]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00121 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send this unfortunate young man the comments. ---------------------- I recently graduated college with a B.A., and was ready to start a career. Unfortunately I was arrested for a sexual offense. Overblown charges and a state run prosecution makes it hard to prove my innocence. I am being accused of non-physical sex crimes towards a minor. Never meeting or intending to meet the person. An over reacting parent, and a detective who is looking for convictions in their community, rather than protecting (children). It's hard for me to imagine being put in a situation where my state and city are falsely accusing and looking to convict me. The more I investigate, the more I realize I'm not alone. Our country forgot to treat people as though they are innocent until proven otherwise!

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Sex Offenders Forced to Live in Woods

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.10.2009 Link to this story: [00120]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00120 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send comments to this couple who are treated so unfairly in Florida. Alex ----------------------------------------------------- I am the wife of a sex offender in Florida. He was charged with a Sex Charge when he was 19 because his girlfriend was under age. We have been married for 4 years he was in prison for an unrelated charge. When he was released he was placed on CRD (conditional release date), and given a probation officer for three months. He was told he could not live in our home due to the additional restrictions that the CRD places on sex offenders. The Probation Officers told him he would have to live in the woods and be homeless. He goes to our home during the day, and that´s okay. he just can not sleep there. He is not a guy that goes around hunting kids with candy. We are married and have a daughter. We are not sure what do. This not right! People don't treat there animals like this. Please point us in the right direction. The Florida Department of Corrections should be held accountable. There are 6 men living in this marsh

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Played Dr. As a Child - Now a Monster Forever

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.09.2009 Link to this story: [00119]

My boyfriend was a minor and is a sex offender for playing doctor nurse as a child. No clothing was removed and there was no sexual contact. He is now 28 years old and still being treated like a monster. When does this stop!? Refer in comments to Tale No. 00119 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this anguished wife. alex ------------------------------------ My first exhusband was able to have an emergency custody granted, and my daughter is now allowed to be around my boyfriend but lives with her father. I raised her for 14 years before this incident, however because of the man I date I was treated like an unfit mother and a monster! I have a pending case in October with my second exhusband who is attempting to have joint custody but with the stipulation that my boyfriend has no contact with my son. How is this legal!? We also tried to expunge his record and because he had a DUI and a few traffic violations and other situations they are refusing to remove this from his record. Mind you he has no repeat offenses in regards to the sex offender laws...How is this fair?? he went away for about a year and a half to a counseling facility for something that should have never been. His fmaily had no money for legal help, and he was railroaded. But with so many years passed and now they wont even allow him to remove it!? It makes me sick to my stomach and the fact that my exhusbands can play games with my life because of this. What has become of the legal system?!!

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ICE AGENTS DO LIE!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.09.2009 Link to this story: [00118]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00118, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send to this brave mother and wife - they and their inlaws are scared to death that there will be retribution if they tell their story - yet they want people to know and beware when officers come to the house - they often lie! Alex SEE COMMENT BELOW! ---------------------- We have children, and my husband was a high school teacher. ICE Agents came to our house and basically led my husband to believe he was under arrest. They left our house with our computers, family videos, video camera and other media. Eight months later my husband was indicted, the ICE agent lied and said my husband downloaded child porn for 17 years (how long has the internet been around?) and said the conversation was voluntary so no Miranda Rights were given to him. We have proof the agent lied but the prosecutor and judge overlooked it. My husband is now serving a mandatory minimum of 5 year in prison almost 500 miles from our home. ----------------------- Comment posted Nov. 12, 2009 My heart aches for you because reading you comment from 9/2009 makes me relive my own life. My husband is currently serving a 5 year sentence for "5 questionable" photos but the agents insisted that there were probably more photos but it had appeared that the computer had been recently rebooted so they could not recover any more. The information the investigators (ICE Agents) gave to the press, further aggrivating the situation, and made us outcasts in our own community. Infomation in the presentencing report was inaccurate and misleading as well. He is also 500 miles away from us and in the first 11 months of his sentence we have been able to see him just once. The system stinks and there are so many problems with it that it makes me angry and like you I am afraid of further retribution in my community so I have been silent, but I feel the need to do something without affecting my children and family. I started my own blog in hopes of connecting with others but was very vague about his charges, again to protect me and my family. I even use a different name and e-mail, but the link to the blog is http://spouseofaninmate.blogspot.com/ I would love to be able to talk with you. My biggest difficultly is not being able to share my feelings with someone who has walked in my shoes. Counselors, family and what few friends I have left are great but they can not truly appreciate the feelings that I experience on a daily basis. >

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Legal Abuse System Snares Innocent Man

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.09.2009 Link to this story: [00117]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00117 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send it to this Best Friend of a falsely accused man in Nevada. ------------------- LEGAL ABUSE SYSTEM SNARES MY BEST FRIEND - PANDEMIC OF INJUSTICE How many times, in the past years, have you heard of a person being criminally charged, prosecuted, and jailed for a crime that eventually they were found not to have committed. Even if you answered 1, that 1 person is just too many. It happens more than you can imagine. It is a pandemic. I know what I speak of, since for the last 9 plus years, my nearest and dearest friend, Steven, was and still is a victim of being an innocent man being rail-roaded, incarcerated, because of the vindictive, retaliatory, drug using, drug dealing, drug selling, drug trafficking of his neighbor. All because of the fact that Steven would not baby-sit her kids for free. The neighbor filed false charges against him, claiming that Steven had sexually assaulted her daughter. There was never any evidence, just hearsay, and even that had so many lies. This woman has a history of making these types of accusations, both in Nevada and California. I have seen the proof that financially challenged (poor) Steven is innocent and read the transcripts for his Clark County District Court Case 00-C-166673-C and Steven’s Writ of Habeas Corpus (U. S. District Court – District of Nevada Case # 2:09-CV-01099-RLH-PAL) that definitely proves his innocence. I will show, and name names of the government officials from the offices of the Clark County District Attorney, Clark County Deputy District Attorney, Clark County Public Defender, Las Vegas Police Department, Nevada Attorney General, Nevada Parole and Probation, Clark County District Court Judges, United States District Court Judges, Therapists, Attorneys, etc, who to this day, refuse to admit that they were wrong. They are just as guilty as the neighbor is of making these false allegations. The emotional turmoil, the Legal Abuse Syndrome, Steven, to this day, suffer from and the horrific memories of being in jail are even painful to hear about. Please help me, help my best friend Steven, for once and for all have his name and reputation cleared.

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JOSH´S SAD STORY: Caged Like an Animal

By Dr. David Shields <dashieldsmd@hughes.net> Posted on 23.09.2009 Link to this story: [00116]

Refer in comments to Josh´s Story, Tale No. 00116, send them to Dr. Shields, Josh´s great dad, dashieldsmd@huges.net, and send a copy to alexm60@fastmail.fm. THIS WILL ALSO BE PUBLISHED IN THE RSOL SEPTEMBER DIGEST AND E-MAGAZINE, as taken from Inquisition21, by Brian Rothery. I will send comments to this young man´s courageous father. UPDATE FROM DR SHIELDS IS AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS TALE - PLEASE READ. --------------------------------------- (Josh´s story was taken down first by his father, and has been edited by Brian Rothery for Inquisition21 and for the Sept. RSOL Digest.) JOSH´S SAD STORY - To Be Caged Like an Animal! Joshua was born to his US citizen parents January 12, 1987 on the island of Guadeloupe in the French West Indies. He spent the first few months of his life on the nearby island of Montserrat in the British West Indies where his father, a physician, was associated with the island’s medical school. The next few years of his young life were spent in London, England where his father was undertaking additional clinical training. Finally in 1994 he settled in North Carolina. He grew-up a gentle, happy, curious, very bright child. He loves animals and always had a home overfilled with pets. An avid swimmer, he was by age 11 a certified scuba diver and pursued the sport with great enthusiasm. Joshua shares his parent’s passion for travel. By age 17 he had literally been around the world and visited well over twenty nations on six continents. His deep desire to learn about the peoples and cultures he has visited is remarkable as is his compassion for those he saw and came to know less fortunate than he. Joshua truly has the mindset of a global citizen. He is a child of the computer age having first been introduced to them at age 2 and by age 3 had his first computer. As each new generation of computer was released he received one. He had virtually unlimited computer and later internet access throughout his childhood and adolescence. Near totally oblivious to the tremendous risks this new technology presented, his parents provided little computer supervision and even fewer computer safeguards. The stage for disaster was set. At age 10 Joshua stumbled across internet pornography and sadly he joined the rapidly growing ranks of countless other internet pornography viewing child victims. By his early teens he began viewing peer pornography that is viewing adolescents of his own age. In doing so he was progressively sucked deeper into the cesspool of what is to mature adults, child pornography. (Editor. As the parents are over-critical of what they perceive to be their own failure to prevent Joshua from accessing pornography, I have removed some sentences here and will expand on the reason below.) As much or all of the obscene internet material made available to Joshua was in violation of federal statues, so too did federal law enforcement agencies very grossly fail in their sworn duty to protect him from these illegal materials. In June, 2005, having completed his entire primary and secondary education without ever so much as a trip to the principle’s office, Joshua graduated from high school. In spite of his dyslexia he graduated with honors as a member of both the National Honor Society and National Technical Honor Society. Having been accepted at Appalachian State University a very bright, productive future was immediately before him. Shockingly, later, the week of his graduation, federal and state law enforcement agents arrived at Joshua’s home to execute a search warrant. The entire evidence basis for that warrant was solely an event which occurred while Joshua was still a juvenile yet law enforcement waited until after he had turned age 18 to act on it. Following execution of the search warrant Joshua and his family remained in a hellish limbo for nearly 1 ½ years. During this time the US Department of Justice analyzed his computers, found they did in fact contain contraband materials and apparently groped for a decision as to whether the matter did or did not merit prosecution. During this period on the recommendation of legal counsel, Joshua entered one of the world’s leading centers for the evaluation and treatment of sexual addictions and compulsivity. At age 18 he was the youngest person ever to enter that facility. Following a six week stay he was discharged with a primary diagnosis of depression, no surprise given the uncertainly he was facing at the hands of the US Department of Justice. During his stay there a diagnosis of pedophilia was clearly excluded. Following his discharge he commenced his studies at Appalachian State University where he remained until his imprisonment. While pursing a triple major he maintained a grade point average above 3.0 while again facing the uncertainly of his future. Finally the 1 ½ year limbo came to an end when the US Department of Justice announced its’ intent to prosecute Joshua. His world and that of his family came crashing down. The case was assigned to a rather callous Assistant US Attorney (AUSA) who pursued Joshua without conscience or mercy. The Assistant US Attorney refused to directly meet with Joshua and his parents along with their legal counsel having no apparent interest whatsoever in hearing their side of the matter. Numerous letters were submitted on Joshua’s behalf. Amongst those writing was his pastor with who of his own incentive Joshua had commenced regular, on-going counseling sessions even before the search warrant was originally executed. His highly qualified Clinical Psychologist with whom Joshua had regular therapy sessions since his treatment facility discharge. That letter again clearly excluded the diagnosis of pedophilia. Other letters from outstanding civic and community leaders who knew both Joshua and his family well were submitted in his support. All were meaningless, the mindless prosecution progressed. Finally nearly 3 ½ years after the original search warrant was executed Joshua finally appeared before the Court. During that interval his conduct and behavior had been stellar as he vigorously pursued his education, was fully compliant with all therapy recommendations and also restrictions on him previously placed by the US Department of Justice. From the outset it appeared the appointed for life Federal District Judge hearing the matter was at best disinterested. The Assistant US Attorney recommended the Court sentence Joshua to 10 years in Federal Prison. Joshua’s defense team and the witnesses they called presented an extraordinarily compelling argument for Joshua to be granted probation and not compelled to serve time in prison. Joshua’s testifying witnesses were; 1. Both of his parents who made an impassioned plea for his freedom and future. 2. Rev. John Padgett who affirmed Joshua’s active, committed participation in nearly 4 years of Pastoral Counseling along with his belief in Joshua’s desire and ability to function as a caring, useful person in society. 3. Dr. Ron Hood, Joshua’s Clinical Psychologist. Dr. Hood testified to Joshua’s complete compliance with nearly 3 ½ years of regular out-patient therapy. He further testified to the exclusion of pedophilia as a diagnosis, the very low probability of Joshua ever again engaging in such inappropriate behavior and the fact that imprisonment was totally inappropriate in this matter. 4. Dr. Craig Ausmus, a family friend who has known Joshua since birth. Dr. Ausmus testified to Joshua’s good character. Further, as a former Medical Officer for the Federal Bureau of Prisons he testified to the tremendous risk of physical, emotional and psychological injury this young man who never once in this life had raised his hand in anger to another human being would likely be subjected to if imprisoned. 5. Col. Sharon Cooper, MD, USA (Ret) presented the most scholarly, eloquent and compelling testimony. A forensic pediatrician, Dr. Cooper is a faculty member at the University of North Carolina College of Medicine at Chapel Hill and an instructor at the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. She is recognized as one of the world’s leading experts on internet sexual exploitation of children and author of the definitive textbook on sexual exploitation of children. Her involvement in Joshua’s case marked the very first instance in which she testified as a defense witness in a “sex offender” case having on numerous previous occasions testified for the prosecution and as an expert witness before the US Congress regarding internet child sexual victimization legislation. Dr. Cooper testified to the growing prevalence of children and adolescences viewing adult internet pornography and progressing to internet child pornography. She described such actions as child or adolescent sexual exploration as opposed to the sexual exploitation which occurs when mature adults view such materials. She went on to describe the excellent psychological care Joshua had received prior to coming before the Court and the low probability of him ever engaging in such inappropriate behavior in the future. She closed in strongly recommending against Joshua’s imprisonment and described his potential usefulness in the free world educating other children and parents on the dangers of internet pornography. Following Dr. Cooper’s testimony, closing arguments were presented. It appeared that at some point in the proceeding the Assistant US Attorney had a moment of enlightenment and recognition of the injustice she was attempting to impose on Joshua. In closing she altered her opening recommendation of 10 years imprisonment to a closing recommendation of only 24 months imprisonment. Unfortunately for Joshua and all those who know and love him her enlightenment occurred too late. It seemed the judge either heard not or cared not about her revised sentencing recommendation and defense testimony immediately sentencing Joshua to 8 years imprisonment. An obscene perversion of justice had been completed. The same federal justice system that had so grossly failed in their sworn duty to protect him when as a child and adolescence he had access to these illegal internet materials had now succeeded in his destruction. Since Joshua’s sentencing, a search of similar cases across the US reveals that numerous individuals, all but one of them grown, mature, adult men have recently faced the exact same charge as Joshua. Each and every one was sentenced to some form of probation and none to imprisonment. Additionally a 65 year NASA scientist was arrested for accessing child pornography on a NASA computer. This Physics PhD was allowed to plea guilty to the simple charge of misusing a government computer and given probation. Insult added to injustice. Joshua reported to federal prison on July 1, 2009. A lamb led to slaughter to be locked away for the next 8 years of his young life in a cage like an animal with real animals. -------------------------------------------- FURTHER UPDATE FROM DR. SHIELDS I just finished another weekend visit with Josh. Once again my heart broke, my gut cried out in pain. Anyone that may doubt he is anything other than a naïve kid need only witness the continued faith he has in “the system” to recognize the gross injustice they have imposed on him and to correct it. He has 100% faith, I have 0% faith this will occur. Never in my worst nightmare did I imagine that one day my son could be the “poster child” for the dangers of internet pornography and the evil of the US “justice” system and I the spokesperson but that is the sad reality. He is of course the perfect poster child; affluent upbringing, past record clean as a whistle, honor student, brilliant future awaiting him, a gross perversion of justice imposed on him, no future risk to society except in the twisted mind of self-righteous, hysterical, paranoid morons, etc and I the perfect spokesman; very articulate, passionate motivation, “respected physician”, “outstanding member of the community” etc. Hence to save Josh and other future kids I am ready to assume that role. If you are now or may in the future be aware of any persons, groups, civic organizations, especially media outlets that may have interest in better understanding and/or supporting our cause I am at all times available to be that “upfront spokesperson”. Please feel free to put them in contact with me via e-mail, phone, etc.

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Sick, Elderly Man Still Forced to Register

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 05.09.2009 Link to this story: [00115]

Please refer in comments to TALE no. 00115 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send them to this desparate, dying man. ----------------- After having sex in my home (1979) with my friend she demanded money from me, to purchase drugs. When I refused, she cried rape. My attorney informed me if I prefer a trial and lost, I was looking at 3 to 5 years in state prison. If i pleaded guilty the court would sentenced me to 8 months home confinement or working as a janitor(no pay) at the local Police Dept. I opted for the no pay job. Moreover I would no longer have to register in 7 more years. The girl friend moved to out of state where she was found guilty of killing her drug dealer in a hotel room. At that time I never had more than traffic ticket at the age of 39 in 1979 when this happened. In 1998, I was shocked when police arrested me for not registering as SO. I was sentenced to 1 year in county jail for not registering. I lost everything - my wife divorced me, my job etc. My home state lists me on their registry as Level 1, and my picture appears on their site. This situation is embarrassing and distressing for me. My ex-family and ex-friends treat me as a leper. My predicament illustrates how destructive our current views on\"sex offense" really are. Now I am almost 70 years old - dying of prostate cancer. Therefore I urge someone too help me get my name removed from registry before I die. SOMEBODY HELP ME PLEASE

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Child Persecuted at School because father is s.o.

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 05.09.2009 Link to this story: [00114]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00114, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm This person left no email, so I cannot send comments to her! PLEASE LEAVE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS - we´ll post the tale or blog anonymously and send you the comments. Also, the person says it refers to blog 07, but that is not right. Please be exact in referring to a ¨tale¨, a ¨blog¨ an ¨action item,¨ or a ¨news item,¨ and give the full no. - as in this case, TALE NO. 00114. ----------------------------- I am a 72 yr old mother of a grown son who was falsely accused by his step-daughter, when her mother wanted a divorce. My daughter-in- law would call me up and demand money, several thousand dollars, and she would say, "If I don't get it, I'll have (my daughter) accuse of "so and so" (and it would be worse accusations than the girl had already made.) I told the law, but they didn't believe me. Nobody believed my son, or me, or his son. My son's son now lives with me. I support him and myself on my social security. He is persecuted at school by some of the kids and some of the teachers. He suffers depression and is in mental health treatment. He recently changed schools. I have to drive him 20 miles to school, which comes to 40 miles a day. I wish there were some way to end this hysteria, but, then a case comes along like the Dugard case, and off go all the news stations, telling exaggerated and false statements to an ignorant public.

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LAWEYR TRICKS CLIENT TO BAD PLEA!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 04.09.2009 Link to this story: [00113]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00113 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm I think almost ALL plea bargains are bad advice! Alex. -------------------------------------------------------- ANOTHER LAWYER TRICKS A CLIENT TO PLEA BARGAIN! NO BARGAIN AT ALL: ¨I´m as much a prisoner now as ever.¨ I am 31 years old, and have been living for the past 8 years with this "sex offender" title over my head. In 2000 I was a manager (22 yr old) at a fast food restaurant in a small town in TN. I was new to the town and was not well liked. I was brought there to rebuild this restaurant as it had basically fallen apart. My efforts were commended by most everyone as the place got cleaned up and business picked up. Everything was going great, until one day, a Friday night, I had two no call no shows( two 17 year old male students) not show up for work. Well this was the third time. They were close friends and were always together. Well when employees saw them come thru via the drive thru, I decided to call their parents and inform them that their kids were not at work where they were supposed to be and instead told an employee thru the drive thru that they were going out and then going to a movie. I was called after closing that night by one of the teen's fathers, saying that the reason they said they didn't show up for work is because I was pushing myself on them sexually. So I immediately called my boss, and informed her of the situation. The next day I went to the sheriff's office to answer questions, where I found out that they were saying I was trying to perform oral sex on them, and participating in the local teen game with sexual overtones. I never did any of the sort, and regardless of what I had to say, after 2 hours of intense questioning and interogation , I was arrested. My parents bailed me out and got a lawyer. I took a lie detector test which came back inconclusive, and then the video surveillance tapes showed nothing of their accusations to be true. Then the dates that they accused me of doing these things were starting to change as the scheduling of the days they worked were not matching up with the dates they said these things happened. My lawyer strongly felt that these were two 17 year olds who got caught not showing up for work, and conjured up this story to get their way out of trouble. After 5 months of back and forth to a psyciatrist and passing the lie detector test, and them changing their dates up, and then they added that I was trying to get them to smoke marijuana, we found out via my attorney that the reason the attorney we originally wanted to obtain for my case couldn't represent me was that 3 days after I was arrested for these alleged crimes, he was obtained by the teens parents for a civil suit against the restaurant. Ah, small town America. I will advance my story to almost a year later, and many offers for a plea bargin from the D.A. The first day of trial arrives. Before we leave the house my attorney called me and said that the D.A. called her that morning with a final plea bargin offer.8 years @ 30% for all 21counts ( yes they claimed I did this to them on 21 dif occasions).Would they have stayed working there for that long? I told her no I will not admit to something I didn't do, and she said we would talk more at the court house. Well, we arrived at the court house and she sat me and my mom down, and said look, your new to this town, its a small town, no one knows you, everyone knows them, they are stars on the county football team(only high school in this town) and you would be sitting there facing 21 charges that you could get up to 60 years for, and the jury is more than likely going to side with them, because they are members of the community, and gossip had been flying around left and right. She advised me to take the plea bargin of 8 years, and she would push for probation. Well me, never having a run in with the law, other than a speeding ticket, and being deathly affraid of going to prison, and thinking about what she said about the jury basically presuming I was guilty before I even walked into the court room. My mom and I discussed it and felt that since there was a chance that I could not have to go to prison to go ahead and take it. Well I sat there and admitted to something I did not do, and ended up serving 6 and one-half years incarcerated in the TN penal system (which was horrible enough). Here it is 3 years later, and I cant get a job, I am being ridiculed by the community like I have the scarlett letter on my shirt. I need help. I would like to know if there is anyone who can help me find a job, or find a way to get my life back on track, and become a productive member of society. My life has been ruined by this, and after making it back home out of prison, I have become just as much a prisoner in my own world, depressed and shut out. Please help me !!

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Son Tells Therapist: Don´t Underestimate My Mom!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.08.2009 Link to this story: [00112]

Comments should refer to Tale 00112, ¨Son Tells Therapist: Don´t Underestimate My Mom!¨and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along so this courageous mom and her fine son can read them. Alex ------------------------------------------------------------------ My son has now been on probation 4 weeks. His emotions are up and down, as would be expected with any and all charged with these crimes and then completely losing their privacy. To further complicate, he also suffers from bi-polar disorder so I worry alot about him, having dealt with multiple suicide attempts since he was eleven. He's also a self injurer and has often felt that he *needs* to die. The years have been hard and it's taken a lot of work and support to have him stabilized and then, his world, our world, came crashing down with this conviction. But, even with distance between us and family and friends, he has a strong support network which is helping and giving him some time to heal. When I told him about getting involved with RSOL, at first he was elated. And then he began to worry, not wanting any exposure or attention drawn to him, fearing for personal vendettas from those in the community. The mood swings and paranoia associated with his illness doesn't help matters. But he goes to group therapy every Thursday and it's been enlightening for him. He'll tell me, "Mom, everyone seems to be so hopeless. Some really do need help, there are repeat offenders, and there are those like me, made a mistake as a kid, but we're all the same. And without hope". So he tells me that he goes in there with a good attitude and he's smiling and participating, telling me that he wants others to feel hope. And I think this is wonderful, however I did remind him that not everyone is as fortunate as he is, in that there are those that believe in him, support and love him. Some of these men (at this time there are no females in the group) have no one to support them, no one to lift them up, no one to advocate for them. And that hit him. When he came out of group tonight he told me that he had told the therapist that I was going to become involved in helping to lead the effort in SC for the reform of sex offender laws. (It's my understanding that SC is one of the most strict states in the country. The sex offender list is for life and there is little to no concern for how the convicted are punished). He told me that the therapist told him that was going to be a hard job. My son told him that he knew that. The therapist then said. "This will be an uphill battle if she takes this on". Again, my son stated, "I know". He said that the surprise of the therapist was obvious, as well of those in the group. We discussed this and he smiled, saying he knew this wasn't going to be easy but not only wasn't his mom to be underestimated, God definitely should not be". I laughed, I was so proud of him. We made a pact between us. We may be victims in a sense but we will not sit back and continue being victimized without putting up a fight. And those that have no one, those without hope, we will do all that we can to inspire and innovate. I worry alot, I'm often fearful. But I look at this boy of mine and my heart is so full and I'm so inspired by him. He is my hero. So, as his dad tells me..."Onward and upward". The way we see it, the only way we can go at this point is up. My thoughts are with each of you and your families. Thank you, for all that you're doing.

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Once a Law Is Made, It Seems to Be Forever!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 27.08.2009 Link to this story: [00111]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00111 - but we can´t send comments to the person who wrote this, since he left us no email address! PLEASE, when you send a tale or blog - send us an email, even if you want it anonymous, so we can send YOU the comments. -------------------------- It seems no matter how hard we try to change some of these laws we will not be able to. Once a law is made it is forever on the books and rarely ever changed. I was 19 years old and met a girl who was 14 years old at the mall. well we ended up having sex and dated for just a few weeks and than we stopped seeing each other ..Almost 2 years went by and I was called down town and asked about how I knew this girl.....Long story short - her parents found an old letter that she wrote to one of her girl friends about me and her parents read it and went down town to file a complaint. This was 2 years later. By that time, I have a fiance and she is 4 months pregnant with our baby! I go to court for the having sex with a girl who is under age and the judge gave me five years in prison, so I missed my first daughter being born amongst other things. It is many years later now -- I am almost 40 years old am married and have a nine year old daughter and a 15 year old daughter - yet I have to register for life and cannot go to any of my daughters´ school events. My 9 year old daughter can not be in girl scouts because she has a family member who is a registerd sex offender - this is per the girl scouts rules. but no matter what when my kids graduate from high school I will be there, regardless of the rules or laws! They just keep adding onto my sentence which I completed a long time ago. Best of luck to everyone!!!! JAY

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Mentally Ill Man, Falsely Accused, Now in Exile

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.08.2009 Link to this story: [00110]

Comments should be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send comments to this young man´s strong and supportive mother! ALEX´Comment - Beware of ´celebrity attorneys,´ and the ´old boy network,´ who ususall throw s.o.s to the dogs, and above all, beware of taking pleas, including the Alfred Plea. ---------------------------------- Mentally-Ill Man in Maryland is falsely accused, pressured to take an Alford Plea, later becomes the victim of neighbors in a well-to-do neighborhood in Baltimore of more false accusations and now lives in exile. False accusations exist more than most people would believe. I am the mother/guardian of my son, Ken, who served a 3 yr. sentence in a Maryland prison for the misdemeanor of being days late in registering a change of address as a sex offender and then while he was out on parole after serving about 1 1/2 yrs. going to a snowball stand, staying too long and being recognized as on the registry. Baltimore City Paper did the only objective story on this called "The Boogieman of Roland Park" 8/07. His attorney said Ken was put in prison for a “thought crime”, not for something he actually did, because he did nothing wrong. But the hysteria in the Baltimore media and the sex offender laws ensured he would return to prison. My son was 36 yrs old when he was falsely accused of the original charges in 1986 but he took an Alford Plea because he had terrible legal representation. His lawyer, a type of "celebrity attorney" in Baltimore had two meetings with us, one at the beginning where he said that my son's prior attorneys "did nothing for you" and then a fifteen minute meeting weeks before the case was to go to trial. At this meeting he was 45 minutes late. He never said this plea was an admission of guilt (my son had continuously been saying he was innocent). He never told us it was a felony, although I asked this outright. He dodged answering this by reciting the information about the Alford plea being neither an admission of guilt or innocence. I did not understand what this meant (and know that my mentally-ill son understood none of it). But when the Big Famous Lawyer behaved the way he did when I suggested that maybe we should think about it, there seemed to be no choice at all. When I asked this question, ¨maybe we should think about it...", the lawyer got up from his seat very angrily and said in a belligerent way "well, alright then, we'll go to trial". This was, believe me, very frightening. He also never told my son or me that it was the same as being guilty in the eyes of the community. I asked him if it didn't matter if someone was innocent and he shrugged. I wrote letters with questions ,made many calls to Mr.Brown and prior attorneys and rarely received a response. I have copies of most of these letters. Mr. Brown did, in recent years, sign an affidavit saying he never told my son about the need to register as a sex offender and there was a corum nobis hearing on 7/26/07 but the judge, who became angry at my son’s professions of innocence, ruled against him. Maryland's highest court just made a ruling about these corum nobis cases that seemed to work against Ken's case, in spite of his long history of mental illness. My son never had more than a traffic ticket at the age of 36 in 1986 when this happened. The child who accused Ken came from a horrific family in one of Baltimore’s worst neighborhoods. I hired an ex commander of PG County’s Homicide Div., now a voice-testing expert to do interviews with her, that she voluntarily did. (She thought the interviewer was for a newspaper story on her).In these interviews the girl, now an adult, has been in and out of prison on drug, prostitution and assault charges, contradicted much of what she originally reported about my son. She bragged on tape that she used to lie all the time when she was a child and even believed her own lies. At the end of one of the early tapes she said, almost incidentally, that my son raped her "but he didn't hurt me". And then after hesitating, she said "but I don't like to talk about it". This, plus her remark about “lying all the time,¨ was what made me knew she might eventually tell the truth. Ken’s case evidentally became part of a political fight within the Md.Parole Commission . There has been political infighting within the Md.Parole Commission between Republicans and Democrats and between people poorly qualified to sit on the commission and those with some background in the law and/or criminal justice. Ken's case became something that was used by a few people against others. Most people assume if someone takes a plea, they are guilty. And that is especially true about a case like this. Before the corum nobis case, there was a chance that our attorney might be called in for testimony. I wanted this our new attorney told me angrily that if I "got into a pissing contest with the celebrity lawyer, (I) would lose". I asked him if that lawyer would lie on the witness stand and he said, "off the record, YES," or "he would present what he did in the most favorable light and you and your son in the worst and you would lose". Our new lawyer decided not to call the celebrity guy, and this was against my wishes. The new lawyer was very adversarial after he made this decision. In spite of Ken being a 100% disabled vet, despite of my son’s psychiatrist´s supportive statements, the Baltimore V.A. was extremely antagonistic to my son took a position that resulted in holding up funds Ken had in a guardianship account for over a year. Only the intervention of public officials made the V.A. back off. This hurt my son receiving timely additional legal help. The Md. Disability Law Center also ignored my request for help and refused to help Ken. Today, Ken lives in a self-imposed exile. He does not want any additional funds spent on attorneys because he feels they have failed him. And this is mostly true, though at least one did try very hard to get Ken exonerated. The strong deposition given by the girl who recanted appeared to be the evidence needed to begin to overturn his plea. But the appeal was denied. Ken, innocent and mentally ill, is still on the Maryland registry.

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I Cried for the Pain of My Son!

By Renate <gvr123@aol.com> Posted on 23.08.2009 Link to this story: [00109]

Please refer in comments to TALE No. 00109 and send to Renate, gvr123@aol.com, with a copy to alexm60@fastmail.fm Renate is one of the most important RSOL activists, and she is a wonderful, caring mom, who is so terribly pained by these laws and her son´s own pain. I hope others will send her your supportive comments. Alex ------------------------------- my son went to register for college today and of course, he had to go to the security office. now they have real cops there and he told them, he is a registered s.o. They asked him, what was the offense? He told them, he had asked some girls, if they needed a ride, that's all, he never got out of the car, never touched or promised anything. So he got sentenced for ¨luring of a minor. " The cops at the college looked at each other and said they have never heard of anything like that and this should never have been an offense to register. "I bet there was something going on within the courthouse or ¨a hidden issue," and, you know, that's exactly how it was. Sometimes i wish my son had actually done something with a minor girl, that seems to me easier to fight! My son came to my job and to see in his face, all the pain of the last 8 years, the frustration and the health issues due to all this crapp, i cried all the way home! I´m 55 years old and I cried for the pain of my son! So in the afternoon I had a few minutes with him, and he told me, that he is so scared, that i would get in trouble dealing with all those issues I am involved in through this site, that his name will go out. i assured him that i have a few years ahead of him in experience and that his name will not get out, confidentiality is the first and foremost "law" what we all obey. But i will not give up! I will spread the word and I will stay as active as I can be, at the same time protecting my son and his family. I also said, doing something to a child is the most heinous thing anybody can do and of course I do not am not by all support this. On the other hand, once somebody has been punished, served their time, it should be possible to go and have a life without all this retroactive stuff following. It should not be possible, that any lawmaker can put laws in place(like the wonderful Governor Quinn in Ill.). Citizens have no clue of their existence, no body has a word to say and they do whatever they want. That is not right and i will not have it! My son has had shingles (at 21years of age), has intestinal ulcers(a physician has stated that they are most likley from stress), has depressions(also stated by the physician due to stress), is on pills for depression and is just now 28 years old. I will not stop! I will go and pass out what ever information I can and as soon as my co-organizer in Illinois has her stress with her sad story behind her, i will have my son's story on the website, without his name, statement from psychiatrist and all. This is so unfair! i will not roll over, have never done it for anybody before and i am not starting now!

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Embarassed & Distressed by S.O. Requirements

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 20.08.2009 Link to this story: [00108]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00108 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll forward comments to this anguished young man. ---------------------------------------------------------------- I was convicted in several years ago on 3 counts of possession of child pornography. Sentenced to 3 months home confinement, I opted for jail time instead. In the state where I was convicted, I am registered as a Level 1 offender and will no longer have to register in 7 more years. I live within several blocks of a school, live on the same block as a Level 3 offender, and contact the local authorities every 6 months to keep them informed as to where I live. I am definitely not a risk to reoffend. My home state lists me on their registry as a predator, and my picture appears on their site. I am unable to go home. I could not live with my parents who's home is a few blocks from an elementary school. This situation is embarrassing and distressing for my family and friends. My predicament illustrates how destructive our current views on "sex offense" really are.

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Falsely Accused Prominent Psychologist

By posted by Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.08.2009 Link to this story: [00107]

Please refer in comments to Tale No. 00107 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I´ll send it along to this well-known psychologist ------------------------- Prominent Psychiatrist Falsely Accused Falsely accused by a woman with an incredible history of falsely accusing other doctors and wrongfully convicetd by a judge who felt her background of previous false claims of assault, felony convictioins, psychiatric hospitalizations, and prostitution were irrelevant. I have done more than 60 professional presentations, and am willing to help.

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Seriously Ill Man, Languishes in Jail after decades

By posted by Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.08.2009 Link to this story: [00106]

Comments to this tale should reference Tale No. 00106 and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. With apologies: This tale was made in February, and is being posted very late -------------------- My Husband and I are victims of the Commonwealth. At the age of 15-16 he was accused of rape by a classmate whose family filed charges but never followed through in court. The case was dropped due failure to appear by plaintiff . This followed him approximately 2 yrs later when another offense was committed in our area. He was immediately arrested. A young, single mother of 3 boys, with no legal or moral support at the time was coerced by detectives in hopes of affording her middle son a chance in court. Needless to say, he was charged, convicted and sentence to 37 yrs. Seven years to be served, 10 yrs suspended, 20 yrs. probation. With my lack of full understanding of the law it would stand to reason that the Grandfather Law would be applicable to his recent circumstance. he was subject to sentencing guidelines before 1995. My husband was released 1992 to serve 20 yrs probation. There-after on supervised probation, this before Meagan’s law which in and of it self mimics double jeopardy. In light of the Grandfather Law, the fact that there are no details of the 1985 trial on record due to the City of Hampton Courts´ data warehouse do not house documents longer than 10 yrs. Especially before the computer era, the archives for the City of Hampton Courts, Juvenile, Criminal, Domestic or otherwise no longer exist for recordds prior to 1989. Granting there are no details about my husband´s past, yet this sufficates our future. My husband and I are scrutinized for events that no longer have or had supporting evidence. We are now being victimized yet again through an office designated to supervise my husband, the City of Hampton Parole/Probation Office, Probation Officer RDF. With no preexisting or existing evidence regarding the 1985 case, what drives him in pursuit of my husband is a mystery. Officer RDF could not have been much more than a boy himself at the time of my husband´s conviction. If no court record exists, and Juvenile records are sealed, what does Mr. F think he knows about my husband that makes him so adamant about our demise? It appears as though this person has taken a negative, personal, non-professional campaign against my husband. In Dec. 2008, Mr. F violated my husband on a failure to report contact with and Officer due to a vehicle malfunction violation ticket. That Tuesday, as every Tuesday since May 2007 my husband reported to Mr. F, but on this Tuesday he took my husband into custody for failure to communicate. Long story short, my husband is still detained, in ill-health due to lack of proper diet in the Hampton City Jail, and he has a cold and is genetically predisposed to diabetes. We have to acquiesce, because of the lack of proper representation from the Commonwealth Public Defenders officers, with whom I have communicated my concerns on more than one occasion. We have no financial means to support our cause leaving us to the Commonwealth’s mercies. This issue is much deeper than it may appear. We are in a better ¨later than never¨ situation as we have been patiently waiting for the proper attention from the Public Defenders Office to follow through and properly prepare for this case

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Teacher No Longer Believes in US Justice

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.08.2009 Link to this story: [00105]

Comments to this tale should refer to Tale No. 00105 and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this brave and battered female school teacher. Alex SEE COMMENT BELOW --------------- WOMAN SCHOOL TEACHER NO LONGER BELIEVES IN THE U.S. JUSTICE SYSTEM I read your article online. Please let me tell you my story and see if you can help me in any way. Please keep my story confidential. I was a high school teacher. In April of 2008, a ¨friend¨ told a story about me that was false. However, because the boy who was named and his friend told a story, although different from hers, saying something happened, I was accused. I never told my side to anyone. The whole town believed in me though. They still do, even though at the advice of my lawyer, I took a plea deal. That lawyer claimed teachers have no chance against juries anymore and so I took probation and having to register as a sex offende. I did this, because I have 3 kids that mean the world to me. I felt they were more important than taking a chance on being sent to prison. Let me give you a little background. I told the friend that the boy hit on me, she agreed I should keep quiet. So I did, and 4 months later she told her story. I never told anyone what the boy really did. I was and am ashamed and feel totally like I am to blame. He did force me to perform an act on him, saying if I didn't he would say that we had a relationship. I would never have jeopardized a career I worked so hard for! I know I should have gotten help but I supressed it and acted like it didn't happen, I can't even stand thinking about it - it makes me sick. I didn't even admit to my boyfriend what happened until I took the plea deal. He says I lied to him, I know I did, but I couldn't accept that it had actually happened. I wanted to believe some kid couldn´t have made me do such a thing. I feel too stupid! Now a 17 year old kid has ruined my life and I am a sex offender. I can't get a job of any kind to support my children. I have to live again with my parents. I used to believe all people who were convicted or something were guilty but I now believe in everyone´s likely innnocence. I used to believe in our legal system, but now I don't. I don't agree with the sex offender thing, but murderers don't carry a label. they can be next door and you have no idea, but people who get the label I have are labeled for life. Please tell me there are others out there like me. Am I a liar or do people suppress and deny things that happen that way, the way I did? Are there support groups or counseling for my situation? ------------------- Comment Well your first mistake was to take the plea deal, if you were innocent ,it is well noted that some lawyers just want your money and in some cases do not care about their client. But that part is over and you must move on and work with what you have. As for your third paragraph, some issues you must address , how can a 17 year old boy ruin your life? Did he hold a weapon to your head, if not you were a willing part of the problem, and you do need to seek help on this issue. I am not attacking you on this, The sex-offender laws I understand, as a mentor that works with families that have been affected by them, If I were not around people who life’s were affected by the laws it would be very hard to understand how they feel. So I know your pain and what you are up against, it is very important not to get too frustrated or angry with the situation you are in, all offenders and their families feel this, so try and think of the positive to keep your mind off the negative. As for as suppressing or denying the actual event only you in time will know the truth! There are a lot of support groups around , depending on which state you are from. Please try and take advantage of them in a positive aspect if you can, It will make a big change in your life! I believe that there is a fundamental constitutional right to distinguish between first time non-violent sex offenders with no recidivist criminal history and those sex offenders convicted of violent and serious crimes, or have been convicted as sexual violent predators. Get your family involved with helping to change the laws, so when you pay your debt to society every one should have a second chance to rebuild their life’s without being shamed for the rest of it. Keep your head up and do not be afraid to ask for help, you are are not alone in this struggle!

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NOTHING WE CAN DO (Another Bad Plea!)

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 27.07.2009 Link to this story: [00104]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00104 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send the comments to this very brave woman and her seriously harmed husband and family. COMMENT AFTER THE TALE BELOW ---------------------------------------- NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT! Back in 1995, before my husband turned 18 years old, he was accused of first degree sexual abuse by 3 girls. These girls were all friends, all of which did not like me and the fact that I was dating him at the time. One of the girls' mothers was actually my then boyfriend's boss, and had recently fired him from his job and the other two were actually his cousin's children and were very mad at their father. I still remember the acting officer coming to my mom's house and saying, "I'm sorry, Joey, I know you haven't done anything wrong, but I have to take you to jail for the night." Numerous charges (25 to be exact) on top of the other charges he had. He was a troubled teen and into drugs, and I guess I thought that I could save him from himself. I never left his side. Even through the two years that he was in prison, I knew he couldn't have done those things. Day after day in court, my husband maintained his innocence. He was taking it to trial because we all knew he hadn't done anything. Then, his own lawyer got to him. "You can take this plea agreement. We will drop ALL other charges (which included grand theft, attempted murder, escape in the first degree, larceny, and unarmed robbery) if you will just take this plea agreement. All of your other charges will be gone, we will amend these down to 16 counts, give you good time for the 6 months you have already served and it will be over. If you do not take the plea agreement, we will take this to court and you will get up to 25 years." His own lawyer had already made an agreement with the other attorney and had my husband convicted. He (my husband) was scared and he didn't want to spend any more time away from his family than he had to, so he took the agreement. He was told the day that he was released, which was November 12, 1997, that all he had to do was contact the local probation and parole office and that was it. We contacted him and he told my husband (still boyfriend at the time) that he had served his time out. There was nothing else he was required to do and he could live his life just like anyone else. The horror was over, or so we thought. In April of 2005, 8 years later and a 5 year old son, a family member had some real trouble and we got caught up in the situation and social services was called on us. They brought a search warrant, the whole police force it seemed, and the drug task force, and went through every little thing in my home. To their dismay, they found nothing. Even the detective said that they had no reason to be there. There was nothing I could do. But, a few days later, we get a call that my husband, now my husband by this time, was to report again to the local probation and parole office and register as a sex offender. We both were mortified, but we were also informed that failure to do so within 10 days would result in him going back to jail for failure to comply. So, he went and registered. Our life has been a living nightmare ever since. My family has been ridiculed. My husband has been refused jobs. We were made to leave my son\'s school during a fall festival they were having with my son in tow screaming and crying because he didn\'t want to leave. I got a membership for our family to the YMCA and after 3 months was told that our membership, including my children's, had been terminated due to the fact of him being on the registry although he never, ever utilized the membership himself. We were recently informed that he can no longer go to the school and pick our son up for any reason unless it is first sent in writing and then must be approved, which is crazy because what if, for example, my son gets hurt and I cannot get there? I would have to send a non-family member to get him because his OWN FATHER cannnot go? Our son is fixing to turn 9 and his teacher's, once they find out who is father is, I believe they treat us and my son differently because of his father being on the registry. We have a 3 year old daughter and you wouldn't believe the way people look at and talk about us when they see him carrying our daughter out in public. I recently, back in November of 2008, went to the courthouse and got copies of all the cases so we could look through them ourselves and see what they actually said. It states in, all the paperwork, that there were never any tests conducted on my husband, nor the girls who told this against my husband. The only thing they have in their, besides the girls´ claims, is a statement made by one of the girls to a counselor here, but doesn't define or state what was said. I was at every court date and hearing, but none of the girls, nor their parents were. The girls see him in public and don't make a point to stay away from him, they will even say hello in passing. What is the saddest part in all of this, to me, is the fact that from the time I myself was 15 until the day I left home, for good at 18, I was repeatedly sexually abused my mom's ex-husband and he has yet to spend more than 24 hours behind bars. I was forced to sign a petition stating that I was lying and this man is walking free to this day. A man who I KNOW is guilty and have to face because he still lives in the same small town that we do, yet, my husband who never done anything, is classified as a monster and we have to live with this for the rest of his life just because of something that was said, not proven. I have tried and tried to find someone to help us, but no one will. They all say that they would have to take his case back to court and he would just get more time. The places they said it happened, like his own mother's home, they have yet to this day step foot in that house. Once we were done with the copies of his court documents, we then had to give them to the preacher of our church because people in the congregation were talking and didn't want us there. He uses the papers as proof for the people of the church. We have to prove ourselves to CHRISTIAN people! My husband is a good man, a wonderful father, a preacher, and it doing the best that he can to provide what life he can for me and his children. But, this has put a real strain on our marriage as well. He feels like a failure to me and our children. We have seperater before, we have argued, we stay at home and keep our children at home unless they go to a very close family member's home. I won't allow them to stay with friend's because it scares me to think of what might happen if the other child's parent was to find out about my husband. We don't go out much. I am trying to go back to school and work on my Bachelor's degree and only have maybe 2 close friend's because I am afraid of what people will say or think if they find out our situation. This has went way beyond affecting just my husband. Our whole family is affected, yet we cannot do anything. I wish the laws were different. I wish we had some kind of an option to get this overturned, but we have nothing. We must continue to live our lives of solitude because all we have is each other and God. Sometimes it's enough, but sometimes we long for more. But, what can we do? There is nothing we can do. -------------------------- COMMENT Well you could help by recruiting members for some of the Sex-offender groups, if our voices are heard enough and the ones that can vote will do it, change is possible, we have to unite or there will never be a chance. I know I am preaching to the choir ,but action is the only way it is going to work! Knowledge for the public will also help, but keeping yourself isolated is not the answer either, finish school. Love your children and if need be get on a anti-depressant , Speak with other Offenders family’s, join a local support group and if you do not have one, start it. You are not alone! Every one on this registry at some point in time feels the same pain you do. Hang in there and tell your husband to be strong.

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13 Year Old Can Never Go Home Again!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 27.07.2009 Link to this story: [00103]

Refer in your comment to Tale No. 00103 and send to me, alex marbury, alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send the comment to this very sad and brave mother. ------------------------ I am the mother of a juvenile sex offender. My son was 13 when he was convicted and he spent 2 1/2 years in DOC. He is now in treatment which is part of his parole. Treatment will be for 1 year. He will be on parole until the age of 21. He has to register as a sex offender for life and is never allowed to return home because his siblings are minors. This is my nightmare that I have been living with, already for three years, and evidently for all our lives.

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S.O. with his own website

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 06.07.2009 Link to this story: [00102]

Comments to this tale, refer to Tale No. 00102, and also go to the website mentioned in the blog below. Also email comments to alexm60@fastmail.fm ------- MY son is another victim of severe unethical, illegal, prosecutorial and judicial misconduct and is presently incarcerated. As his father, I repectfully appeal to you to link his website in an effort to call this to attention of others to fight such corruption in the judicial system. His website is: www.TWOMINUTEVERDICT.ORG. MY son is aware of your excellent organization having called this to my attention.You have our permsiion to also respond directly to the site in the GUEST/COMMENTS section.

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Blind Offender Must Jump Thru Legal Hoops

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 05.07.2009 Link to this story: [00101]

Refer in comments to tale no. 00101 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm ----------------- From the sister and caretaker of a blind offender: It is way past time to reform sex offender laws. This was a political issue that has gone wrong. It is totally wrong to deprive these people of every a chance at a decent life. We can live by a terrorist or any other kind of criminal in the US and have no right to know but a sex offender has to let every one know and jump through all kinds of legal hoops. It is definitely wrong and descrimination in my book.

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One Night of Heavy Drinking Ruined My Life

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 05.07.2009 Link to this story: [00100]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 00100 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. Note: We do not assert that all 'tales' are true - we know there are people who deny the facts in their cases, and we do NOT support real abuse. However, we have seen that MANY, many people have been unfairly charged, and then are unfairly placed on registries, so we post these tales to help spread their stories of unjust treatment. Eventually, we hope to publish a book of these 'tales.' Alex Marbury -------------------- on oct 5th, 2004 i recieved a call from my boss asking me to come in and help out because they were behind. i was a 23 year old college student, working at a local pizzaria, and living in my parents basement. i'd already worked a shift earlier that day, and had just gotten home from a four hour class. i was an active alcoholic, and had been struggling with alcohol and drugs for the majority of my life. i pondered my boss's request and told him that i had a really long day, and had already began drinking. he told me that that was fine, in fact i could bring alcohol up to work with me, and that he had a case of beer already up there. i couldnt say no to my boss, and free beer. i had no drivers license due to prior dui's, so my boss had to come and pick me up. by the time my boss came to pick me up i had already been drinking for several hours. in fact, i dont even remember being at my work....total blackout. from what i was told my boss drove me back to what he thought was my house. i stumbled around my neighborhood at around three in the morning. i approached a house which in my drunken state thought was my own and entered through the back sliding glass door. i had a half empty fifth of crown royal that i sat down on the kitchen table and preceded to walk through the house. i came to a room and opened the door, and inside were to 11 year old girls that happened to be twins. court documents stated that the girls were already awake when i entered, and had thought i was a friend of the family waking them up for school. i think in my inebriated state i thought that maybe these girls were my little sister who was 13 at the time, and one of her friends. i was told that i patted one of the girls on the head, kissed one of the girls on the hand, and pulled one of my arms out of my t- shirt to show the new tattoo i had just gotten days prior. upon doing all this in a complete blackout i had awoken these girls father. you can imagine the reaction this man had towards me when he found me in his house disturbing his children in the middle of the night. during the preliminary exam the father took the stand and said he found me in his hallway knocking on the bathroom door. when he saw me he recognized me from the neighborhood and asked me what i was doing in his home, i replied that "i wasn't in your home." he then reached for my hand and i pushed him away. He through me to the ground and hit me in the face four times. stating "i hit him four times to the face, knocking him unconscious after the first punch." i lay beaten on the neighbors floor, unconscious, and waiting for the police to come. court records showed that i had a b.a.c. of .36.... more than quadruple the legal limit. i had suffered broken orbital sockets to both of my eyes (in which i had to have reconstructive surgery to fix) i awoke that afternoon in jail with no recollection of how i got there. i was on every major news channel in the state, given a million dollar cash bond, and was originally charged with home invasion 1st degree, but they added solicition of a minor a month later. after a month in county jail i posted a 50,000 dollar bond and was ordered to be on a GPS tether($16 a day) drug tested and breathalized EVERYDAY ($12 a day). i stayed out on bond for just over a year. i was given several plea bargains that i refused. i wasn't putting my life in the hands of twelve of my peers only because A)i couldn't take the stand because i don't remember any of it, and B) alcohol wasn't a defense to any crime in the state. i was told that if i didn't take any of the pleas i was going to prison for up to 20 years. i was scared into taking a plea that involved me doing 1 year in the county jail, 5 years probation, registering as a sex offender, and paying 10,000 dollars in restitution. i felt i had no choice. i did my county time, and am currently still on probation. i have had to move 7 times this past year and just got done spending another 7,000 dollars on a lawyer because my home was raided and the police and prosecutor werent satisfied with the amount of personal items i had at my residence. they charged me with falsely registering a residence and ordered me 6 months of tether and 1200 dollars in fines.... it never ends. ive been beaten, incarcerated, humiliated, and fined. im recently married and have started a family of my own, i have two young boys. i've been sober since that day - oct 5th 2004. i work extremely hard for my family but always feel i am a burden due to my circumstances. one night of excessive drinking has caused me all this heartache and pain. i really hope there is change impending. we cant live in society the way some of us have had to.

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Life Sentence for Something He Didn't Do

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 04.07.2009 Link to this story: [0099]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0099 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send them to this distraught mother. ------------------------------ My son was wrongfully accused and forced to accept a plea bargain. It is now been over 10 years and he has not broken one law, not even a traffic ticket, pays child support for children he never gets to see and is serving a life sentence with his face, name, address plastered on the internet for all to see. His circumstances are of existing is to go to work everyday and living in a dump. He has no life and continues to do the right thing. His biggest crime at the time of the conviction was being addicted to drugs and young. He didn't stand a chance with the weak court system and poorly appointed public defender. He had no rights then and still doesn't. It is interesting that he never received his day in court but instead was threatened and terrorized by the court that if he did not sign the plea bargain he would go to prison for 25 years. When all is said and done he has a life sentence for something he didn't do. There was never a physical examination of the allegedly victim and no witnesses, just hearsay from his ex girlfriend who lied repeatedly. My son passed a lie detector test but still was convicted. To this day we still have no clue as to what happened. I was going through cancer treatment at the time and was unable to attend the preliminary arraignments but was informed by the Public Defender that he had no choice but to sign the Plea bargain or come up with at the minimum of $25,000 to have a decent defense and investigation. So here we are 10 plus years later with my son daily tortured by the horrendous unproven lie. The plea bargain was for probation with a misdemeanor, the New York state laws did not require a lifetime registry for level 2's at that time. It is all so insane. I am a school teacher and I cannot bring my son's name up at any time for fear someone will look him up on the internet sex offender list. Please keep me informed as to any changes in the laws and if there is any hope for my son to return to a normal life someday.

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Youthful offender can't find work

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 04.07.2009 Link to this story: [0098]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0098 and send them to alexm60fastmail.fm. I will send them to this young man. --------------------------------------- I am 22 and I am a registered sex offender. I was accused 2 years ago of sexual misconduct with a 16 year old. He falsey accused me and knows it but did it because of his mother. Now, I cannot find a job. I was just wondering what kinds of places I could get a job. I am not looking for a huge job either, I am simply looking for restaurants or retail stores. My conviction was only a misdemeanor but I do have to register still. I don't know what to do or how to get a job because everyone asks about any convictions besides minor traffic violations or does a background check.

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A Corpse Without a Grave

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.06.2009 Link to this story: [0097]

Please refer in comments to Tale No. 0097 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and i'll send them to this very stressed man. --------------------------- This comforting of my grandchild (2 yrs old)after he fell out of bed, while I was in the bathroom, landed me a sex offender for life (sexual assualt of a minor). I lost my house, my job, my family (wife was fired three times from jobs because she was still married to me for 23 years - all gone)my dignity. I simple hug to stop him from crying and him being sexually assualted by a peer during day care, caused social services to blame me for actions i did not do. My grandson bumped into me while I was standing up - I pushed him away immediately and told him you dont do that. He turned and walked away. 11 years later, no work, no job, no means to feed myself, turned away from shelters and housing in Wisconsin. All from a simple incidental/accidental touch. I took the responsibility to protect my grandson from social services' dirty filty minds, and I'll pay for that for the rest of my life - A corpse witout a grave.

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Lonely Young Man on a Computer

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.06.2009 Link to this story: [0096]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0096 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. We will send them to the mother of this unfortunate young man. NOTE - Another mother feels the same pain and asks to be in touch. See COMMENT at the end of this tale. And a second comment - there are a lot of lonely young men out there with this problem! --------------- My son was convicted and is serving 15 years in federal confinement because he was a lonely young man on a computer. He NEVER touched a child. He never took the pictures on his computer nor was he accused of doing so. But because of "federal guidelines," X number of photographs (each FRAME of a video counting as a photograph)equated to 15 years in prison. Many of these pictures he'd never seen, some were in the deleted part of the computer...didn't matter that he'd never been in any trouble, worked hard, and was a good citizen. The other young man arrested in the same "sting" had posted sexual pictures of himself to a 13 year old girl across statelines with the intent of luring her to Texas...he only got 5 years. And my son will be a registered sex offender for the rest of his life. ----------------- Comment: I was reading some of the comments on the Tales From the Registry blog and I came across comment 0096 where a mother wrote of her son serving 15 years for being caught with child pornography and she sounds so much like myself and my son. What caught my attention was the statement she made about her son being lonely young man on a computer - she could have been describing MY son. Is there anyway I can get in contact with her? I would really like to correspond with someone who knows exactly what I am going through and what my thoughts are. -------------------------- Another Comment I\'m also a mom of a son who is now serving a 10 year federal sentence for the same thing (child pornography)and he too was basically a very lonely person. He moved from our home in Illinois out to Denver Colorado where he didn\'t know anyone other then his live in girlfriend and her mom who lived with them. As a teenager he really didn\'t have any friends that you could truly call a friend and this was true all through college. I really didn\'t want him to move to Denver but he was determined to do so - my heart just broke but what could I do. That\'s where he got heavily into the child pornography so bad that he landed having to sign his parential rights away which meant we lost our only grandchild. You sound so much like me when you made the statement "he never touched a child" for I have said the same thing many times over. What my son and I both agree on is that the law needs to change whereas no all sex offences land in the same category and the penalty is the same fo r all along with the registry. Granted there is a so called \"level\" but that level is not the same as category. Your son and mine did not touch a child nor did they tell a child to pose for these photos the photos were downloaded to view and nothing more than that so the sentence should reflect that and instead of a huge amount of time on the registry it should be cut down to maybe two or three to make sure that they don\'t go down that road again which will also allow them to refocus back on their life. I very much would like to make contact with you if at all possible. Stay strong.

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Revolving Door for People Falsely Accused

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 19.06.2009 Link to this story: [0095]

Comments to this should refer to Tale No. 0095, and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I will send them along to this mother. Her comment has also been posted as a comment to tale no. 0077. ----------------- My son also was taken at the young age of 18, and is now 27yrs old. It has been a nightmare and has been a repeating cycle of in and out of prison for the smallest violations. This nightmare began in 2002 in which he was sentenced to a year county time for lewd conduct with a minor. He had been living with this family in which the mother had picked up my son to go and live with her and her two daughters the mother lied to my son about her daughters age and introduced him to meth this was a party house and my son had been up for four days and one evening when he was laying on the sofa the mother approached him sexualy when he refused she stated that he had made the biggest mistake of his life and would pay for rejecting her, this is when she called the local police and made the report stating that my son was sleeping with her 14yr old daughter when the investigator spoke with my son they interrogated him for hours and he had never been in trouble with the law and was intimited by them and was not in his right state of mind because of the drugs this woman had given him. He did admit to the daughter being his girlfriend and this is all they needed to convict him of this crime. He pleaded no contest and took the offer and did one year in the county jail, when he was released he went into a sober living home and while there he worked in the kitchen and had a confortation with another live in worker so they were both kicked out and this became a violation his PO took him in and he was sentenced to six months in state prison then when he was released he was out for about six months and then picked up another violation for under the influence and went back to prison. This whole thing really became a hurendence nightmare for us when prop.83 was passed, he was released in 2006 from prison and was not told that he would not be able to live with me and was not told that he would now have to wear this GPS device and so as of today he is back in prison for not abiding to the residency restriction . He was released on March 4 2009 and at the time his PO came out to our home and measured the distance from our home to the nearest school and in fact she measured twice and stated that he could live with me then on March 24 2009, she calls him stating that she made a mistake that he could not reside with me after all , I could not understand why because it is over the 2000ft guideline, she stated that there was a new order that came out that had been faxed over to her for only our city, changing the distance, which I never heard or seen a copy of this paperwork. So when he was told that there is no where in our city for him to reside that he was to go and sleep in the river bottom you can imagine how upset I was and I even told her off because this was her mistake and No son of mine was going to sleep out there!! I took him with all camping gear and while he was out there his GPS device had some kind of malfunction it needed to be charged so his parole officer stated. The next day she calls him to come into her office and violates him once again and today he is currently in prison this time he was sentenced to six months, but this is going to happen once again because where is he to live or work ? The law is made out to just send them right back its a revolving door and he was convicted of a crime he did not commit. I am so angry with our system and here in California I dont hear of anything being done or anyone trying to do anything about this. The so called victim has stated that nothing ever happened between them and even wrote a written statment and had it notorized stating this. I have called so many attorneys to see if we could reopen his case and they all want 10,000 to start or they just laugh. I just dont know what to do anymore I would love to start some group here in my city because I am sure that I am not the only mother going through this here. Dont give up and lets stick together and pray that changes are made quickly, thank you so much for hearing me out.

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My Son Is No Rapist, and Never Will Be!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.06.2009 Link to this story: [0094]

Please refer in comments to Tale No. 0094 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm -------------------------------- My son was falsely convicted of attempted sexual assult. He didn\'t rape anyone and he spent three and a half years in prison. My best friend is in the process of speaking with the so called victim and demanding she tell the truth of what really happened. My son has been out of prison since 2003 and up till now hasn't been in trouble. His new crime is he moved and failed to register his new address and now has been arrested twice for the same offense! My son isn't a rapist and never will be. The state wants to send him back to prison for failing to register his new address. How could anyone call this justice which is what our judicial system is about??? I think not!

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No-one Can Take My Dignity!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.06.2009 Link to this story: [0093]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0093, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm I`ll send them along to this person. ----------------- As a registered sex offender, my life is constantly torn. Ripped and thrown out of jobs, accused of speaking wrong, thrown from living space after living space. The public presumes that one mistake is a mistake that will repeat itself over and over again. Despite all of the negative impact, I maintain involvement with volunteering, belong to book clubs, and more importantly keep in mind: no one can take my digenity, and who I am today.

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Viewing Child Porn Equated with Child Rape

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.06.2009 Link to this story: [0092]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0092 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. PLEASE, PEOPLE: Understand that the law in many states DOES equate viewing child pornography online with actual abuse of a child! That may not be fair, but it`s the law, and we need to let people - especially young people - know to beware! Comments will be sent to this young man. SEE EXCELLENT COMMENT BELOW!¨Telling Stories is good but not enough!¨ ---------------------------------- I am a registered offender, I have never touched a child in any way. My crime was all computer related. This was a mistake I'll regret for the rest of my life. I have done my time and all, yet I am still required to register twice a year and pay $150.00 each year. I think that I should not be classified the same as those who have done something with a child. I feel I have been punished long enough and want to know what can be done to change the laws. ------------------- Comment - Telling Stories is Good, but Not Enough! (Anonymous - no email, so we can´t contact him! Please send your email along with your comments!) Being in the same situation as the person in this "tale," I know the feeling. What I did want to comment about is the $150 the person said they are "required" to pay. I am in a state that also requires the registrant to pay a $150 "registration fee" each year, although I have never done so. The text of the provision states that failure to pay the fee will result in the person being declared unregistered, which would ultimately result in that persons arrest for failing to register. Based on my knowledge of Ex Post Facto legislation, this type of addition to the law would be unconstitutional under both the states and U.S. constitutions because it is penal in nature [i.e arrest for failure to pay the fee]. I would suggest this person contact an attorney. Penal Law definition - Statute enacted to proscribe a certain offense against the public at large or against another person; imposing a penalty for violation of same. There are many cases that set precedence, such as Weaver v. Graham ["For a criminal or penal law to be ex post facto, it must be retrospective, that is, it must apply to events occurring before its enactment, and it must disadvantage the offender affected by it\"], Calder v. Bull ["Because it seeks only to ensnare and punish those persons who would otherwise be beyond prosecution, it is penal and cannot be seen as ameliorative. It is an ex post facto law, which within the Calder definitions violates the Constitution of the United States."] to name a couple. Now is the time for a Call to Action. Relating stories is great but IMHO, it has done little to effect the unconstitutional requirements placed upon as as Americans.

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A Very Sad Story, Which America Should Know!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.06.2009 Link to this story: [0091]

Please refer in comments to tale no. 0091 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I`ll send it to this young man who is in incredible anguish for many reasons. There is so much pain out there, for people with multiple problems - they need HELP, not HUMILIATION and PUNISHMENT! -------------- My story I've grown up being isolated, away from everyone: basically close to automatism. People at school making fun of my weight, my mother and father, just rejecting me all through to the end of my schooling in the public system. I've locked myself up alone in my own room, turned to the internet for friends, for relationships, for fun. My means of communication with people who didn't make me feel like crap. Using sites like myspace.com, I met my first relationship with a girl around 16 on these sites, but I never to this date ever had a real relationship in person, Never had a in person girl friend or friends. I have Body dimorphic disorder, I make myself throw up, I also have severe clinical depression, anxiety, and Social Phobia. I used to be suicidal, cutting myself non stop, always passing out from blood loss. I had friends on the internet, via xbox , pc, whom I would talk to, who would make me feel wanted, and liked. I played hours of video games to forget about my life, to be in a new world in my head in the form of games. I met a girl who (said she) was 14 when I was 19 years old at the time. we started talking and had simular intrests music, games, art. We talked, and were friends for a while. She wanted to go out and I said yes. Over this time she started discussing the "topic" we joked around with this subject via chat and just acted like close friends. Her mother found out, and I got arrested. They claimed I was "Enticing her" to come to washington dc even tho the line from her to me was "My Parents are planning to go to washington over spring break maybe we can hang out" claiming I was the one to get her to come to DC and that it was for sexual purposes which was wrong. They charged and convicted me on "soilitation of a minor via internet" where in VA could be a mesdeameanor on certain events, but in the state wehre I live, it is a Felony 3 up to 5 years prison, manditory registration for life if you stay in the state. I'm currently on the same basis as people who raped little kids, in Yet, I have mental health issues and cannot even leave the house without my parents. I have 3 years sex Offender Probation, and live in a one judge town with the prosecutors getting whatever they want. In treatment, my provider quoted to me and my parents "He`s not clinically a sex offender in our eyes, but should have treatment for this topic and his server phobias." But yet, I have to be labeled and not judged for a crime which was not voilent, nor did it even involve physical contact. They wouldn`t take into consideration my mental health, saying that was no excuse for what I did. The cops who questioned me yelled at me , and talked me into signing over computers, and pictures and confessions to say I've done it. They did it illegally , they did not allow me a lawyer, nor did they read me my rights the night they took me to jail. How did I get justice? I did not. This girl could have shot me and she would get to live, but since this is a matter of a sexual nature, shes only a minor who doesnt know what she was doing. Even all my family, friends, and people who dont know me say that this was a bullshit charge, that it shouldnt have gone as far as it did. Now I need $2,500 for a lawyer just to get started on my case to try and get me off the s.o. registry list, so I can have a better future! Thats my story, a story which Amercia should know.

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Silent for 15 years - wants to speak out!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.06.2009 Link to this story: [0090]

Refer in comments to TALE No. 0090 and send to me, alexm60@fastmail.fm. Your comments will be sent to this courageous woman! RSOL Activists - please respond and let her know that speaking out is NOT harmful! Alex COMMENTS ARE AFTER THIS STORY, BELOW. ---------------------------------- I am the wife of a registered sex offender in (a southern state). My husband's offense occurred 25 years ago when he was 18 in another with a 15 year old minor. His offense is not even illegal in this state due to age of consent as defined under this state`s laws; yet he is required to register as a lifetime registrant in our state, the classification reserved for the most serious offenders. Of course, we have endured very many negative consequences over the years due to the registry. We lost our home of over 10 years due to residency restrictions and now our state has passed a sweeping law that prohibits registered sex offenders from being on schools grounds. We have two school age children. For over 15 years, we have silently endured the humiliation and consequences of these sweeping laws; now our days of silence are over. I came across your website and I'm interested in knowing more about how I can be involved to impact the laws and public perception in my state. Admittedly, I am nervous about taking action, but I know it is necessary. Your advice would be greatly appreciated. -------------- COMMENTS dear silent for 15 years! get involved! my son was convicted as "lure of a minor" he asked a girl if she needed a ride. even though the psychologist said, no criminal intend was found, they made him a registered sexoffender. this is now almost 9 years ago. he suffers a great deal under depression and by now it has gotten so bad, that i don't know how to help him. his dad is trying to get him couseling, i don't know if he will take it. he just had a bad accident with his company truck(it burned up)i think it is due to proofe that he can work and he is not concentrating. needless to say, all this mess with with this distructive law is ruining our society, please, i am not good in letterwriting, but i am very good in doing "footwork" i pass out flyers, stick them in shopping cards, behind windshields, even in the courthouse parking house,talk to people, anyone who wants to hear it or not. By the way: you can print out fyers from www.love-is-not-a-crime you will find on other websites plenty of other sugestions on how to get involved. what do you realy have to lose?? i am passing this on to alex of www.reformsexoffenderlaws.org. i hope he will have a chance to forward my letter to you. help us in this fight, there are many others out there,who have to suffer, because their constitutions are taken away. help us change this law! thanks for listening and good luck to you and your family, renate, illinois rsol

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Even Police Have No Idea What the Laws Are!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 09.06.2009 Link to this story: [0089]

Refer in comments to tale no. 0089 and I`ll send this to the angry mother who wrote it! Send comments to alexm60@fastmail.fm ------------------ EVEN POLICE HAVE NO IDEAS WHAT THE `ACTUAL` LAWS ARE! It just amazes me how the registry laws are in effect, yet even the police have no idea what the "actual" laws are. Here’s what has taken place . . . when my son was first put on the sex offender registry, he went to the police department and told them where he was working (his manager kept his job for the 3 months he was in jail). The police told him that he could not work there because there was a school across the street and it fell within the 500 feet restriction. His manager then transferred him to another store in another city and again, the police told him he had to quit because it was across the street from a high school. They actually went into the store and told the manager that he could not work there - imagine the embarrassment of that one. Well, during the last month or so I’ve been writing and writing my state representatives, senators, governor, etc. explaining how terrible these laws are and the fact that my son cant even get a job anymore (among several other issues). Well, apparently, the Governor forwarded one of my letters to the Illinois State Police and they responded - I received the attached letter on Saturday stating that the restrictions of 500 feet DID NOT include employment, only residency and loitering. So of course, I go up to the police department this morning and showed them the letter. They are even more confused than I am. The police officer I spoke with this morning told me that he never thought there was a restriction for employment and he wasn’t sure who told us there was. I explained to him that 3 police officers in "this" department told us that and 2 detectives in the other city said the same thing. He went to talk to his Sergeant and came back out and told me that no where in his copy of the law did it state that my son couldn’t work within 500 feet of a school and that it only applied to residency and loitering. He told me to call the State Police for clarification. I held up the letter and said, "You would think a letter from Director of the Illinois State Police would be clarification." He agreed, but gave me a number to call. He also said that he didn’t believe my son should even be on the registry in the first place. How can 2 separate police departments in 2 different cities not know what the laws are that they are "supposed" to be enforcing? Or, could it be possible that the actual "Director" of the state police, who runs the registries, doesn’t know? I’ll find out today. Plus, to top things off, when I called another police department in a totally different city to find out how to get my son’s property back they took when they arrested him (including a $300 camera which he needs back to re-enroll in school), they don’t have a clue where it is. I was transferred 3 times before I was disconnected. And, you might remember a couple months ago when my son got a letter from the Secretary of State saying that they were cancelling his license until he was compliant with the sex offender registry - which he was - and when we took this information to the DMV, we were told that the license had to expire "before" he could renew it. He waited 3 days before they were open again to renew it just to find out that the lady at the DMV who told us this didn’t know what she was talking about. He sat in his apartment for 3 days afraid to drive and it was a lie. I guess I’m just venting here, but it really amazes me how these terrible laws are in effect in the first place and then to find out that nobody even knows what the laws are or how to enforce them.

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Suffered Abuse, The Abused, Now Abused by Laws

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 09.06.2009 Link to this story: [0088]

Refer in comments to TALE NO. 0088 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I `ll send them along to the person who wrote this. I think this shows the very difficult time society has dealing with child abuse of any kind, sex particularly, and how those who are abused themselves, often become abusers without knowing who - and later are abused by the laws! ------------------------- Suffered Abuse, Then Abused, Now Abused Again by Laws I was 4 when I remember being abused sexually by my stepfather. That went on with him off and on until I told him to stop at age 14. He let his friend (my uncle), take me to his house to stay. He also abused me at for many years off and on. I suspect now that my stepfather was paid for this. I was taken to a friend of my "uncles" house where no abuse happened but the attempt was made. I had to endure a naked disgusting man. I was once tied up by the neighbor`s boy down the street naked and left there until a man from a business untied me. I was then at the age of 14 raped by my sister`s girlfriend who was 19 . My stepfather had gotten in trouble by my older brother who turned him in, and we were removed from the home. I had been put in a foster home with my brother who had also been abused at the age of 11. Then we were let go to live with our mother for about 3 months. She put us on a bus soon after and I ended back up at my stepfather`s who had abused me. Even after being taken away from him and my mother, for some reason I was allowed to go back into the abusive home. My stepfather was even allowed to get money from the state to support us, ie food stamps and cash. Not only was I abused by several people that I loved, I had to watch my siblings get abused. I was on top of all this, I WAS ABUSED BY THE CITY, THE COUNTY AND THE STATE. I was getting beaten up from the start. I had slowly gotten into smoking pot and drinking at about 15, and by the time I was 17 had dropped out of school half way through my senior year. I had many girlfriends and met this one who was all wrong. She had a child that was 2 years old. We were not getting along very well, and one night she went to school at the college, and I was left to watch the girl. I was not happy to have to watch her. I remember being angry that she would not stay in bed, and would not stop crying. That made me even angrier. I spanked her once, then spanked her bare butted. (Then he sexually abused her - explicit details omitted) . I was arrested and since I had no money and no one to help me, I was on my own My court appointed lawyer told me to plea and not to go to trial. So I did. I was convicted of Statutory Rape 1. A class A felony. When I registered in the new state to which I moved, they labeled me as a level I offender. The lowest level. Meaning I was not a threat in their eyes. I think I lost my mind. I am responsible for what I did. I went through 4 years of counseling court ordered, and instead of leaving after my court ordered counseling stopped, I continued to finish my therapy. It was just a few months more, but I finished. I learned more than I could have possibly imagined. I was in a one on one session for about 6 months and then went to a man's group therapy session once a week for the remainder of the time. I cannot begin to tell all of you what a horrible nasty disgusting person I was for doing that. I will never forget but have forgiven myself. I have always said and will always say that I did it because of anger, and anger alone. I remember only wanting to cause her pain and hear her cry. I absolutely had no sexual feelings whatsoever. Since that day 23 years ago, I have never even once touched or hurt anyone, man woman or child. I was married in 2001 and had a beautiful baby girl at that time. She is 9 now and extremely smart. I read her ABC'S to her in her mother`s womb to help her get a head start. I was proud, happy and in a very good place. Finally. She is now in her 4th year of piano, surpassing all the other students that started before her. She gets good grades and is in the 3rd grade. She is very happy, always sings and loves, loves, loves to read books. I am the happiest father in the world. I love her more than life itself. She IS my world. She plays baseball for the coach pitch little league here, and loves it. She is getting good. I started to assist the head coach at third base and cheered on all the other girls on the team. My daughter stands at shortstop and sings and whistles. Everyone loves her and adores her. We raised her right. The coach was approached by the little league director, and told that if I want to help I have to put in an application, with a copy of my drivers license. I can't do that. I am a registered sex offender and that is for life. I am now being persecuted as a sex offender for an offense that happened over 20 years ago. My face is plastered on the website in my state. Not to mention the federal database. All it says it what I am convicted of and my information. It doesn't even say when I was convicted. Everyone that sees it assumes it just happened. I can go to court to petition to have the obligation to register removed since it has been 20 years. I still am registered with the state but I would not have to register on a regular basis. My face is on my current states registry in one state but never was and never will be in the state where I am now living, another injustice. So now I am soon to be 41 and started out being abused by my peers thrown around by the state and put back into an abusive environment abused some more, then am told I am a piece of crud and don't deserve to be normal. I don't deserve my privacy, or to be given equal treatment under the law. But I do have to pay my taxes. Tell me, what am I paying for? I will tell you. MY OWN PERSECUTION. I am literally paying the people that beat me down. I don't feel like an American. I love this country but I am not proud of these injustices. What I did was wrong. I have been a law abiding tax paying hard working person who contributes to his family, his country,and his society. No one was there to defend me when I was a child and youth. Now I have to watch as my child suffers for my wrongdoings. I will carry on to be with my daughter and live my life with her. She is the only reason I live. Period....

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I am Not an Animal!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 09.06.2009 Link to this story: [0087]

Refer in comments to TALE NO. 0087, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I`ll send them along to this sex offender. ---------------- I AM NOT AN ANIMAL I've been an S.O. since 1996. I was caught with child pornography on the internet in Florida and since then my life has been more than miserable. I was 31 years old, and this was my first felony. I received a 24 month sentence along with 120 months probation. I've never laid hands on any child, nor have I ever attempted to do so. I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I am an addict (clean and sober for over 21 years now) and had picked a new habit. I've heard all the arguments that having looked at such material that I'm an accident waiting to happen as far as me going out and actually committing an offense against a child. I know myself better than that, and I could never do that. I've struggled over the last 13 years, with homelessness, thoughts of suicide and lack of work (even worse now for me than it ever was). I've been to prison a total of 3 times and have been falsely arrested as well. I can never seem to find anything on any legal challenges to these dastardly laws. I am not some animal, I am not a danger to society, I want to live in peace and find some happiness.

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May Not See My Son Grow Up!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 07.06.2009 Link to this story: [0086]

Comments should refer to tale no. 0086 and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. Unfortunately, this person did not send an email so we cannot let them see the comments. PLEASE SEND AN EMAIL WITH YOUR COMMENT! ---------------------- A million thank yous. I finally found a group working to change things. After a failed suicide attempt by my son due to his registry for something he did when he was a little boy, I pray every day he will not try it again. He is the sweetest, funniest and least harmful person ever, but he feels hopeless and now lives day to day in fear of losing his job, not having a place to live and being taunted. Change needs to happen soon or I fear I won't get to see my son grow up.

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Easier in Prison than on Registry

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 30.05.2009 Link to this story: [0085]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0085 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I`ll send it along to this man who is feeling incredible isolation and pain. SEE COMMENT BELOW - FIGHT LIKE HELL, BECAUSE WE WILL WIN! ----------------- I'm a registerd sex offender. The registry has made my life hell. My frends don't want any thing to do with me becouse they don't want to be seen with any one on the list. It makes it hard to find a job or a place to live. How are we supposed to be a part of this world when the world doesn't want us? It has turned into a life sentence for me. Some times I think it would be easer to spend the time in a prison. --------------- comment FIGHT LIKE HELL, BECAUSE WE WILL WIN! I don't believe that the world doesn't want you. I make it a point to read every article in the papers that deals with "sex offenders" Much to my surprise, I find that people are contributing supportive comments, and are expressing concern at what they perceive to be "Nazi" tactics by our law makers. It is possible that these people are S.O.s or relatives, but still, no negative comments. Pull up your socks and contact the U.S.Dept. of Justice, tell your story, fight like hell because we WILL win.

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A Kid on the Street Because of a Plea

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.05.2009 Link to this story: [0084]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0084, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send this along to the person who sent it. -------------------------------- A Kid Who Made a Mistake is On the Street Because of a Plea Bargain! I know of a child, who at one time, made a mistake: exposing himself. The law waited for the child to turn 17 before taking it to court. His family had no money so he went with the system (and plea bargained). Now he can no longer live anywhere but on the streets of Ft. Worth. I am so sorry for him. He will never have a chance in life. He was a kid at the time an now has no where to go. NOT FAIR!

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Navy Man Faces S.O. Nightmare

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 25.05.2009 Link to this story: [0083]

Please refer in comments to Tale No. 0083 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to the good mother who is supporting her son. SEE END OF THIS TALE FOR A COMMENT! ------------------------------------- Navy Man Faces Sex Offender Nightmare We are living a nightmare. My son served in the Navy from 1994 until 2004. He was due to finish his tour in 1999. One month before he was due for discharge, we went to a pary on base, given by an enlisted Navy female. There was drinking at the party. During the evening he recieved oral sex from the female host of the party. Three days later she accused 3 different men at the party of sexual assault. Be cause of the amount of alchol consummed, the Nzvy investigated. My son admited he had a sexual encounter with the girl, but the other men denied it. In the Military sodomy is a crime along with adultry. The girl was married but no one knew that. Her husband was stationed somewhere else. To make a long story short my son was convicted of sodomy and because of the alcohol it was considered non-consensual. He was sentenced to 10 months in the brig. But after review by the appeals committe, it was determined that the punishment was too harsh, and he was given time served and got out of the brig after 8 months. During the time he was in the brig he was awarded the Good Conduct Medal! He was not told or required to register as a sex offender, nor was it discussed. He came home in 2000. He was home 2 weeks, and a neighbor told the local sheriffs dept that my son had gotten in trouble in the navy, and they called him to the station for questioning. When he told them what happened, they put him on the sex offender registry as a tier 1 offender, based on nothing more than his statement. There was no paperwork or files to confirm his crime. For the next 8 years he was on the registry as a tier 1 offender. During that time he was given custody of his 3 year old son. In 2008 he was notified that he was now a tier III offender. We tried to get an attorney to help us but in our small town no attorney would touch the case because it envolved the local sheriff dept, we were told, "We have to work with them on a daily basis, " so I cannot take your case. I asked to see what information the sheriff dept based their reclassifcation on. I found a paper in my son's file from the militay dated sept. 2001 that stated he was released from yhr brig after 8 months for rape of a minor. The social security number on the paper was not my son's! The paper was an error due to a computer error on the part of the military. The military admits this was a mistake but says due to my son's privacy they won't speak to local law enforcement. The problem I have is why did the sheriff not show this paper to my son in 2001 when they recieved it? He told them he was guilty of sodomy, that´s a lot different from rape of a minor. After all this time has gone by it has by it has been difficult to get this corrected. My son was still in the military until 2004. The error could have been corrected in 2001 if we knew about it. My son has never appeared in any court other tham military court. He has never been classified or ordered to register by any judge, not even a military judge. How can this happen? I do have an attorney now but,I'm not sure if he was the right choice. We were so desperate to find some one to help us I took what we could get. My son has been told he has to move again this is the sixth time. He also may loose custody of his son, now that he is a tier III offender. This is a nightmare. My son has never been in any trouble either before or after the military. He had a stellar career in the military, recieving several commendations and awards. Its ironic that he spent 5 years defending our freedom only to come home and have his stripped from him and given a life sentence. I don't know where to turn for help or support. What do we do? Our attorney says if the military will send a correction of charges, there may be a chance for my son. What I can't get anyone to see is, if the military had not made an error, this information would not have been released. How can you put someone on the sex offender registry based on nothing more than questioning, no trial, no evidence, nothing; no judge, no jury just your answers to questions asked by a deputy sheriff. What happened in the military would have remained cofidential and would never have been known to the public. The local sheriff has tried to get information from the military, and was told it was confidential and was not to be released, and refused to give them any information. What are my son,s rights? What do we do? Who do we talk to? I am desperated for help. Can I get in trouble with my attorney for e-mailing you? I guess I am also desperate for someone to talk too there are not a lot of support groups for sex offenders or their families. My son is a good person and a great father. This is so unbelieveable. I need help. Any help you can offer will be greatly appreciated. --------------- COMMENT From an Indiana Mother: I am so sorry to hear of your son`s plight. That is why this is such a great website, I would suggest your son also makes a complaint to the ACLU. The ACLU is taking up this cause also. My son is in almost the same situation. He was on the internet and was lured into a chat room by what he thought was a 15 year old girl. To make a long story short, it was a cop and he exposed himself on the web cam. There seems to no justice anymore, I was actually raped when I was 16 and the police and my mom talked me out of testifying because I would be made to look like it was my fault. Not anymore! Someone can go in and claim rape just because they dislike someone, no proof, no dna, nothing and they can be charged. This is so wrong. it violates the constitution, the bill of rights and our human rights. I blame a lot of this on allen walsh and the politicians that are afraid to take a stand. Thank God for Obama - he looks at this differently. All of us from every state need to bomb that guy and our congressmen and legislators with email and phone calls om this, I counted: there are more then half of the states wanting these laws changed. Although I was not for the wars bush started, I have always supported the men out there defending my freedom. Please give your son a big salute for defending my freedom and my right to free speech and my right to post this comment. This man is a true hero, and I thank and salute him!

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¨God Forgives, but People Take the Place of God¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.05.2009 Link to this story: [0082]

Comments should refer to Tale. No. 0082 and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them to this pastor who is supporting his son! -------------------------- My son committed an offense when a teen with a consenting teen and was "pointed out" by a girl who wanted him as a boy friend. Now 21, he cannot find a job to support his own child. He had two jobs at which he was good but lost them to society's judgement(by the employer as 'unfit' to work for them). AND they got "rid of him for reasons other than his work"! Amazing, God forgives, but people feel justified for taking the place of God! I am on social security and do what I can to help, but...Let's get JUST LAWS passed for all people stigmatized by the state...

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¨Sick and Tired of Living¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.05.2009 Link to this story: [0081]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0081 and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. SEE SUPPORTIVE COMMENT BELOW! ---------------------- I am sick and tired of living a Government admitted lie. My appeals statement reads as follows, ¨Although defendant presented evidence to contradict the tesimony of (accusers), upon a motion to dismiss, such discrepancies must be resolved in favor of the state.¨ And thus ended my life! And they call this justice? I have no intrest in living or calling myself an American any longer. What's the point in it? The government will only do what gets them votes and keeps them stealing our taxes for themselves. ----------------- COMMENT Do not give up. You have great numbers of people here for you and history shows that change always happens. I believe that this might not even be far away as there are signals from the Obama administration about a major overhaul of our current criminal justice system. I recently read an article in the National Law Review that there are ongoing investigations into prosecutorial misconduct complaints and other civil rights violations. This probe has been stepped up since Sen.Steven\'s case was overturned, so write to the US Dept.of Justice and make a complaint.

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US Immigration Keeps S.0. Child (a citizen) from Coming to US

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.05.2009 Link to this story: [0080]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0080 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I¨ll send them to this angry, hurt sex offender who cannot see his own legal child! AWA keeps families apart!!! COMMENT is attached below. ----------------- I am a convicted sex offender convicted of 2 counts of child enticement in 1993. I gave cocaine to a minor and played strip poker with her - a crime i am not proud of. But since then I have come a long way in spite of everything i have had to struggle against. Now I find myself once again about to wage a war for no other reason then to further a career of some politicians and i have no how idea how i am going to do it. You see I fell in love and married a 44 year old woman and as a result of the love we share , we now have a great little boy. You maybe thinking great! Well its not so great - you see this Adam Walsh Act has put a wall up that i am so afraid i will not be able to overcome. My wife lives in the Philippines with our son ( who is a U.S.Citizen ) and we have filed 2 separate petitions for visas for them to come and live with me here. We just received a letter from immigrations that they intend on denying our visa based upon the Adam Walsh Act that states a sex offender is not allowed to file a family petition for a visa. They went on to explain that they do not need to take into account the beneficiary's age in the petition and that they need to look at any children she may be bring subject to protection. Our son is a U.S. Citizen, with a U.S. Birth certificate, U.S. Passport, Social security card and all. They can not classify him as a derivative beneficiary of her petition, and certainly a 44 year old woman who has known me for 12 years. She has known my criminal history from day one. She should know better than the immigration officials if I pose a threat to her. Plus I spend 3 to 4 months a year living over there with them. I own a business here and I have other children here from my first marriage and can't abandon then to move there. Do you know of any one else having this problem? Do you know of any source of help dealing with this. My Federal Senator was helping with this till I told him why they intend to deny our visa- then he could not help: It was the law and nothing he could do! Do you know if any one has ever beat this? They say that the head of homeland security has final and total decision making on this and his or her decision is unreviewable. Meaning I have no where else to take this. ------------- COMMENT The same thing has happened to me, only my wife is here now and our daughter is stuck in China, I have been back to vist her, but have been denied a visa for her on the same grounds. Hold your head up and I would like to know the outcome of your case. I feel your pain!

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¨This is the Country I´m Supposed to Love?¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.05.2009 Link to this story: [0079]

Comments should refer to Tale 0079 and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm. I´ll send them along to this courageous ¨sex offender.¨ --------------------------- I appreciate you guys keeping everyone informed.Hopefully things get better. Its funny to me see americans grovel about not being able to find jobs,how mad they get over there personal info getting out to public.Being forced to wait in line ALL day to get fingerprinted while everyone else is in and out in 10 minutes.If your registering as a s/o,you get a big pink piece of paper that distinguishes you from our upstanding members of society.thats for fingerprints alone.I called a caseworker here in my state to ask if i could have a different mailing address so i wouldn´t get kicked out of "another" place when I recieved my annual SEX OFFENDER and CRIMES AGAINST CHILDREN verification. So i asked her politely if we could just keep it on the downlow from my rv park, it´s not a school or YMCA,just an adult trailer park. My home! A week later an officer from the SEX OFFENDER UNIT shows up at our park office, with an 8x7 pic of little old me on the front. He was there to check up on me. My wife says,"You guys make it really hard for him.¨ His reply: "you should have thought of that when you got with him". Please bear in mind that I did 3 hard years in prison, damn lucky i didnt get killed in there - most inmates do not like sos no matter what they did. I ALSO signed a paper stating that i was eligible for removal from the registry in 15 years. I guess that was also a LIE Now they decided its 25 years,maybe never! There are now many more "add ons" to include a new license every year,which is 35 dollars and another day waiting in line. It also pretty much tells anyone who is looking at your license that your an so by the annual expiration date. At least I dont live in florida. If you are a convicted s.o, they will not let you in a hurricane shelter... It is my belief that they want us all to move under a bridge and hang ourselves...WOW...and this is the country I´m supposed to love and adore? whatever! PS. Oh yeah, my crime was indecent exposure. I exposed myself to some hotel maids,I know it was wrong, but ???!!

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S.O. Going for PhD: Never Quit if You Know You´re Right

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.05.2009 Link to this story: [0078]

Greetings to all fighting the good fight, Send comments to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I´ll send them to this courageous ¨sex offender¨ who doesn´t quit! Refer to Tale No. 0078. ----------------------------- I am now 36 years old. I am a few months away from earning my Ph.d. I had sex with a 15 year old (plus ten months) when I was 21. She told me she was 19. This was in 1994. Since then, I have been stripped searched, denied employment, and have enjoyed the police knocking at my door. I have dedicated the last five years of learning, reading and research to designing a tornado rating system that could possibly save hundreds of lives in the US, and thousands worldwide. My mother told me once to "Never quit if you know you are right". Does this sound like a SEX OFFENDER to you? Again, I thank you for all you do, and I am glad to join the fight, because a fight is what it is becoming. I look forward to hearing from all of you.

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Modern Day Lynching

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 04.05.2009 Link to this story: [0077]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0077, and be sent to alexm60@fastmail.fm, and I will send them to the mother who wrote this. SEE STRONG, supportive COMMENTS BELOW THIS ONE. -------------------- I need support. I dont know what to expect. My son was taken from me at 17 in the form of a modern day lynching. It felt that way! I am yet grieving. What is next when he is released from prison? a Grieving mother in Arkansas -------------- I share your grief and can only share with you what has happened with us. My son also was taken at the young age of 18, and is now 27yrs old. It has been a nightmare and has been a repeating cycle of in and out of prison for the smallest violations. This nightmare began in 2002 in which he was sentenced to a year county time for lewd conduct with a minor. He had been living with this family in which the mother had picked up my son to go and live with her and her two daughters the mother lied to my son about her daughters age and introduced him to meth this was a party house and my son had been up for four days and one evening when he was laying on the sofa the mother approached him sexualy when he refused she stated that he had made the biggest mistake of his life and would pay for rejecting her, this is when she called the local police and made the report stating that my son was sleeping with her 14yr old daughter when the investigator spoke with my son they interrogated him for hours and he had never been in trouble with the law and was intimited by them and was not in his right state of mind because of the drugs this woman had given him. He did admit to the daughter being his girlfriend and this is all they needed to convict him of this crime. He pleaded no contest and took the offer and did one year in the county jail, when he was released he went into a sober living home and while there he worked in the kitchen and had a confortation with another live in worker so they were both kicked out and this became a violation his PO took him in and he was sentenced to six months in state prison then when he was released he was out for about six months and then picked up another violation for under the influence and went back to prison. This whole thing really became a hurendence nightmare for us when prop.83 was passed, he was released in 2006 from prison and was not told that he would not be able to live with me and was not told that he would now have to wear this GPS device and so as of today he is back in prison for not abiding to the residency restriction . He was released on March 4 2009 and at the time his PO came out to our home and measured the distance from our home to the nearest school and in fact she measured twice and stated that he could live with me then on March 24 2009, she calls him stating that she made a mistake that he could not reside with me after all , I could not understand why because it is over the 2000ft guideline, she stated that there was a new order that came out that had been faxed over to her for only our city, changing the distance, which I never heard or seen a copy of this paperwork. So when he was told that there is no where in our city for him to reside that he was to go and sleep in the river bottom you can imagine how upset I was and I even told her off because this was her mistake and No son of mine was going to sleep out there!! I took him with all camping gear and while he was out there his GPS device had some kind of malfunction it needed to be charged so his parole officer stated. The next day she calls him to come into her office and violates him once again and today he is currently in prison this time he was sentenced to six months, but this is going to happen once again because where is he to live or work ? The law is made out to just send them right back its a revolving door and he was convicted of a crime he did not commit. I am so angry with our system and here in California I dont hear of anything being done or anyone trying to do anything about this. The so called victim has stated that nothing ever happened between them and even wrote a written statment and had it notorized stating this. I have called so many attorneys to see if we could reopen his case and they all want 10,000 to start or they just laugh. I just dont know what to do anymore I would love to start some group here in my city because I am sure that I am not the only mother going through this here. Dont give up and lets stick together and pray that changes are made quickly, thank you so much for hearing me out. ------------------------ (received July 27, 2009) My son, too, was taken away at the age of 13 and just like you, it felt like a lynching to me as well. He was in prison for 2 1/2 years, then was paroled and made to reside at a treatment center. He will receive treatment for a year and then be placed in an independent residential home. He\'ll be on parole until the age of 21 and he has to register for the rest of his life. So, when will my son ever be allowed to come home? The registry will prevent him from coming home for the next 14 years because he has younger siblings who are only 4 and 5 years old. My son will be 30 years old before he will be able to reunite with his family. And they call this our American Justice...I call it cruel and unusual punishment.

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S.O. Laws Kill Without Taking Physical Life

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.04.2009 Link to this story: [0076]

I am not sick nor do I believe that I commited a crime, (yet) I now walk on eggshells and avoid contact with most people. I am very bitter and angry but my faith in Christ keeps me going. Some days are harder than others. I had a court appointed attorney when I was still very young. She scared the life out of me. I agreed to whatever she said. Now my life is over. I try not to spread the negativity, but it's a daily struggle. Some days I feel like I am going to snap. I AM IN SHOCK OVER THE FACT THAT YOU CAN NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT A LIFE SENTENCE LABELED AS A PERVERT!!! YOU CAN KILL SOMEBODY AND DO LESS TIME!!! ( I'm just venting ) My supposed crime: My girlfriend´s 15 year old sister jumped off a countertop in the kitchen and I caught her. She told her dad that I grabbed her butt when I caught her. He called the police, my life came to a tragic end. My record besides that is immaculate. I take care of my parents and love my siblings and their kids. I've had a series of failed relationships because I can't bring myself to tell the women that I date that I am a criminal. How do you tell somebody that you're a criminal when you know you're not?! I've probably commited a crime not disclosing my record, but at least the women I date don't have kids. I try not to get to close in relationships because I ultimately know that if they stay with me, they will also pay for MY crime. Any avenue I take seems to have negative consequences. THIS SEX OFFENDER LAW IS VERY SUCCESSFUL IN KILLING SOMEBODY WITHOUT TAKING THEIR PHYSICAL LIFE. I THINK SATAN HELPED DEVELOP THIS ONE!!!

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Oregon is Not Forgiving: S.O. Keeps going for his son.

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.04.2009 Link to this story: [0075]

Refer comments to Tale No. 0075 and send to me (Alex) at the above email - I´ll send them along to the ¨sex offender¨ who wrote this, and who is in need of strong support. A comment is attached below. -------------------- Thank you for your site and a chance to post my comments. I live in Oregon. I turned myself in in 1989 because i wanted help to stop being a SO. Little did i know what the outcome of that would be and if i had the same decision to make today...i would never have done it! I picked up the phone and called CSD and said i wanted help. 5 months later i was convicted of 3 felonies,5 years probation,complete the SO program in the OSH, which i spent 34 months there(and really needed it). During that time Megan's law was enacted and even though i pled guilty in 1990 and have put my heart and soul into never offending again and so far have been successfully recovering... well sort of, even though i have not acted out i still have to endure the ramifications of society. my wife left me a few months ago because she could not understand the toll of the constant stress and dreadful fear that i had of someone finding out who i was and victimizing our family,my job etc. Even though i have not had a blemish on my record for 19 years i am still looked at by officials when i go to register like the scum of the earth and feel like a lot. i went to a doctor and got prescriptions for antidepressants and valium just to cope with my depreciating mental state. i was recently unemployed and evicted from my apt. so currently i am living in a motel and wondering if i will ever get another job, place to live, or find people who will accept me for who i am today, not what is in my past. the answer is most likely NO!... most days i would just as soon someone would just put a gun to my head and pull the trigger and get me out of my, and everyone elses misery. why don't i do this? because i have an 11 year old son that knows of my past and wouldn't understand his dad killing himself. so i exist another day.... Oregon is not a forgiving state, i will be required to report, be suspected of anything that happens close to where i live. C.S. Lewis said, "if a man can restrain himself from doing an act that he was trained to do, he may have more grace in the eyes of God than someone who has never committed any wrongs" something to that effect... this is what gives me strength the keep trudging along. i have hope that eventually the witch hunt will cease and there will be justice and forgiveness for people who try to do the right thing everday! ------------ COMMENT Dear Sir, most offenders feel the same way you do, please hold your head high, The way things are going I do believe change is in sight. Try to join a support group in your state and write letters to your reps, do not sit in the shadows any longer. I volunteer for 3 groups a week in my state that keeps us all very busy and we are lucky to have a advocate group here also. Please do not give up, if we all band together we will one day be able to change these insane laws and get our lives back. Take care and I hope this finds you well?

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Another Plea ¨Bargain¨ Gone Wrong!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 15.04.2009 Link to this story: [0074]

Comments should refer to tale No. 0074 and be sent to me - I´ll send them on to the mother who sent this. Alex -------------------- MY SON´S CASE WAS 10 YEARS AGO. IT WAS CONSENSUAL..HIS COURT APPOINTED LAWYER TOLD HIM TO PLEAD GUILTY SO HE WOULD SERVE NO TIME. AND HE DIDN´T UNDERSTAND WHAT THE CONSEQUECE WAS. PROBATION WAS NO PROBLEM, BUT TO GET FINGER PRINTED EVERY THREE MONTHS WAS A PROBLEM. HE WAS ARRESTED IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO BECAUSE OF THE NEW LAWS.HE HAS TRIED TO JOIN THE FIRE DEPT, HE CAN´T. HE WANTS TO DEER HUNT WITH HIS SON, AND CAN´T. HE CAN´T WORK ON SCHOOL PROPERTY OR WORK ON GOVERNMENT JOBS. THIS PUTS OUR SMALL FAMILY BUSINESS IN A BIND.

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NOT KNOWING IF HE´S DEAD OR ALIVE!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.04.2009 Link to this story: [0073]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0073, and send to the above email address. I will forward it to the writer. PLEASE LET THIS MOM KNOW YOUR SUPPORT, and let´s all pray for A. Alex See also a sad and stirring anonymous comment at the end of this tale. ---------------------------------- Not Knowing If He´s Dead or Alive! For those of you who aren't aware, our son, A., went missing three months ago now. He was serving a five-year probationary plea and didn't even make it through the first year, today, in fact, being one year since his release from jail. We've had no word of his whereabouts and have mixed emotions, as I'm sure you can understand. Do we try to find him and bring him back to this mess? Or, and we have no choice but to do the latter, do we just pray for his safety and the chance at some sort of life for him elsewhere? His picture was in the paper here (in our small community, so it spread like wildfire) Saturday, under Most Wanted - nice, smiling picture of our beautiful, clean-cut son, and the caption reading ¨Sex Abuse II - two new counts¨. I went to the courthouse today and accessed the Judicial Information Network computer to see if I could find out what the "two new counts" were. Nothing new, just a motion to show cause and an order to show cause why he's not reporting to probation. These are not considered new counts. The clerk confirmed these were not new counts and told me to check with the DA's office, which I did. Same thing, no, no new counts. I then went to the newspaper and asked them where they got their information. The guy who looked at it said, "Oh, that poor kid," and I told him, ¨yeah, passed polygraphs, tons of information proving his innocence and here we are.¨ They couldn't believe it. They said they get their information directly from the probation office, but I will not call them. If they're thinking they've got charges and they don't, let them think that. They will eventually when he doesn't respond to the order to show cause, but they made it look like he had two new sex abuse counts, and we're sure this was no accident. Their egos are bruised because they can't find him. No regard for how sick we're feeling not knowing whether he's dead or alive. Just wanted to pass this on. Could use your prayers, still and always. ----------------------- This is in response to Tale No. 0073 Please see that this mother gets this. Thank you. My heart goes out to you after reading about your son disappearing. I know in part how you are feeling. My husband left over 5 months ago and I haven't seen him since. He did contact me about 5 weeks after he left and we've been talking on the phone ever since. Currently I'm only able to hear from him about once a week but at least I know he's o.k. I do not know where he is and I would not know how to contact him in case of an emergency. He had all the harassment he could take and convinced himself I would be better off after hearing rumors that "we were going to be burned out". I would like to be able to tell you that it gets better with time but I truly can't. I will say though, that finding the RSOL website was truly an answer to prayer. And yes, the authorities like to make everything sound as bad as possible. So by someone leaving, they try to make it sound like a new sex offense charge. And I know all about a local newspaper broadcasting bad news on their front page. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope your son will soon let you know that he is o.k.

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Acquaintances turn into Hateful Strangers

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 06.04.2009 Link to this story: [0072]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0072 and be sent to the above email address. I´ll send them along to the writer. ---------------------- In 2002, almost 7 years ago I was railroaded into taking a plea of possession of child pornography "30 years to life if I fought or 9 months for a plea" --- what would you risk? Had I known at the time that I would be required to register as sex offender for the rest of my life I would have never taken the plea. After I served a short stay in a federal prison I returned home to find that employment opportunities had all but dissapeared. I was also told that I could no longer take residence in most areas of my home town as they were too close to a church or a park or a school, etc. After my face was plastered in the local paper along with all the other "predators", I discovered how people can quickly turn from a friendly aquaintance to a hateful stranger. Now with the introduction of a new bill called International Megans Law 2009 it appears I may face the same predjudice, exclusion and descrimination in every country as I do in this country. Thanks to the polititians supported by the media who promote an unhealthy fear of everyone labled and often mislabled "Sex Offender" I may never know again how it feels to be normal. One fact to bear in mind is that Sex Offenders only account for 10% of all new sex crimes. Not surprising since almost half a million have been labled as such already. The sad fact is that as long as an injustice doesnt affect us or someone we love directly, we tend not to care.

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Offender Forbidden Contact with Brother

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 05.04.2009 Link to this story: [0071]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0071 and be sent to me, alex, at the above email. I will send them along to this man, who is in great need of support! On top of everything, he is forced to have a counsellor with religious views that are different from his own. -------------------- SUICIDAL YOUNG OFFENDER FORBIDDEN TO CONTACT BROTHER I am currently awaiting sentencing for possessing child pornography. I suffer from clinical depression and Borderline Personality Disorder. The possession was due to a tendency for Borderline patients to act impulsively and in self harming ways. They also have a tendency to feel unjustly evil, and in my case, I attempted to find a reason for such feelings. I've become suicidal numerous times since the onset of the investigation against me, once being hospitalized on a 72 hour mental health hold. I've been in therapy, both individual and in group for over a year, and have sought help from friends and professionals alike. Ironically, my sentencing relies on a psychological evaluation conducted by a man whose degree is from an overtly religious conservative Evangelical Christian seminary school. As ignorant as I was before I had gotten myself into the mess I'm currently in, I still find it hard to comprehend the severity of the punishment that awaits me. I've been told that I may be unable to have any contact with any minor, including my fifteen year old brother who is also my dearest friend. I sincerely wish to help in any way possible.

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AWA Prevents Immigration of Family

By posted by Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.04.2009 Link to this story: [0070]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0070 and send to the above email address. I´ll send the comments along to the writer. Alex ------------------------------------------- Maybe you folks can get something done about the Adam Walsh act that prevents me from bringing my family to america to live. I was falsely accused 20 years ago by my 14 year old step daughter of molesting her, but it was lies on me out of revenge because I told her mother about catching her in a three way orgy, and her mother slapped her in her mouth busting her lip. Like a fool I was advised to take a plea bargain because I had a prior felony for writing a forged check when I was about 22. I was threatened long prison if I went before a jury and they found me quilty. The DA and court appointed lawyer said they would probably agree with the girl because of my prior felony. I am now 59 years old, and re-married to a nice Russian lady, and we have a new daughter together who is two years old. Me and my wife got married in america in 2006 and we had a daughter born in Russia in 2007. My daughter has dual citizenship. My wife and I had planned to move to america, but our I-130 was denied because of the Adam Walsh act. I wish there was some way that that Adam Walsh act could be amended as far as that, because I need to move my family to America. I am not a child molester, and I am getting sick and tired of being treated like dirt by these self righteous hypocrital politicians. I wish that the laws on sexual offenders could get turned over, but I am afraid they never will, and will only get worse.... There is a difference between a ¨sexual predator,¨ and a ¨sex offender,¨ but they all are classified the same. Good luck to you folks, and I wish you the best in dealing with these people. Thanks for all you are doing to help change this situation,

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Son Needs His Father!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.03.2009 Link to this story: [0069]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0069 and be sent to me at the above email, and I´ll forward them to this understandably distraught woman in New Orleans! Alex. ------------------ My son's father was convicted of a sexual misconduct with a minor (he was found quilty of groping a 14 year old girl), and served his entire five year sentence. He is unable to find permanent housing in post-Katrina New Orleans and is now facing incarceration again for failing to register as a sex offender. Reform these draconian laws now! My son needs his father.

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Until It Happens to You!!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.03.2009 Link to this story: [0068]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0068, and send to Alex Marbury at the above email address, and I´ll send it on to the very stressed person who wrote this. We wish her well! Alex ------------------------------------ I am ready to go to war for these poor people. No one knows the facts and people are filled with media-induced fear until it happens to their child, husband, brother or even daughters and sisters, mothers and aunts! My son was barely 19, drinking of course. He was forcefully pulled into a laundry room and a fifteen year old girl proceeded to attempt oral sex on him. The act was never finished, as someone walked in and he snapped to. She cried rape, afraid of her boyfriend finding out, who happened to be 21 at the time. Her parents allowed her to attend all-night unsupervised parties, go to gay bars in a nearby big city, and basically act as an adult. Later that evening the girl recanted and told the truth but one of the kids there hated my son. My son was only 8 days past his eighteenth birthday! The girl continued to spend the rest of the evening at this party with my so called rapist son, and even allowed him to be with her in a car the next morning when a group dropped her home. Now I was molested my whole life and ran away from home at 13 never to return, I was violently raped and beaten a few times, once by my ex husband and I will tell you that I got out and away ASAP. I did not hang out til the next day. A major problem in these cases is that the public defense is inadequate and unconstitutionally mis-representing the poor and indigent. Without proper representation these kids are pleading out (plea bargaining) since no one will take the time to even try to get to the truth. In some states, an average public defense attorney makes less than $2.00 a case. If he where to bring expert witnesses etc he would have to pay for those, also has a case load that is far, and I mean far, over the legal limit, despite a lawsuit from the ACLU to correct this. And yet the government is spending our tax dollars on prosecution, and giving minimum case loads to the DAs, allowing them to bury these poor individuals. My son, a brilliant, creative, gentle and respectable child of nineteen, has his life that is now destroyed, I cannot bring him home, I can not afford to live where the laws require for distance because of the distances. I cannot help him! He lived at home until he was arrested and he is also in the mental health system and was refused his medication for six months. He was actually persuaded to plead to a more serious charge by his idiot lawyer. His original charge was "sex with a minor in the third degree" which did not carry a strike on his record. Yet in his state, two sex strikes and you are out for life. He was told to plea to "rape in the third degree" and told it was better. This was all done in a five minutes! The attorney told him, ¨I have no time for you.¨ This was a kid who was scared and confused. He was told sign or get prison for five years, which was not true. He may have actually had 12-14 months compared to 6-12 months. This is still ridiculous since the girl recanted her false statement which she originally said was a violent attack and then went in and told the truth! False police statements are a felony, yet she is unpunished. Her father who allows her to be unsupervised, is guilty in my book of neglect and is more responsible than my son. I fear for my son´s future. He is taking it well as for he is young and thinks this will not effect the rest of his life, but it will! He was released to the freezing streets of a town in the US northwest, thousands of mile from his home, where he had only been one night his life - a place with no friends, family or support, to be homeless, cold and alone. Ostracized and afraid. This is banishment, it is unconstitutional! He is not a violent nor deviant person in any form. The mandatory statutory law has made a good person evil and unable to exist. The lack of fair due process, representation and even the hance to have his case reviewed on an individual basis which would have clearly proven he was the one technically raped is not even an option. Oh, and here is a note: the jails system in this town is owned and run by the local judges - talk about conflict of interest! My fear is if one little girl who wants to play big league and have sex with any boy she finds cute, or one crazy rejected girlfriend ever cries rape, a young man becomes a lifer! My son is terrified of any public contact. He was told he could not masturbate regularly or he would be considered deviant and put back in prison. He is a young man, he needs sexual release as we all do! He is not allowed to go on the internet putting the burden on me to find him a home, six months, 12 hours a day. To find cheap free furniture. He is a writer and cannot even go to the library and research. He must take polygraphs and pay insane restitution, take and pay for sex classes, drug and alcohol classes, and with what? No one will hire him because he is a ¨sex offender!¨ I could not find one apartment complex or mobile home park that would even consider him. I cannot bring him home. This is all the most outrageous and unconstitutional thing I have ever seen. How do we fight this? Do i get online for each state and look up the registered offenders, contact them and their families and we all go to Washington? That should give us a few million people. I am sure our legislators and their children have broken these insane statutory consensual laws as most boys and girls have, but with money you don't have to deal with this, it just goes away. HELP ME!!!

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S.O´s Daughter Raised in Motel Since Age 4

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.03.2009 Link to this story: [0067]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0067 and send to comments to me, alex marbury at the above address. I´ll forward them to this very strong but sad father. -------------- i have emailed you in the past about being on the registry. i received my yearly paper work and sent in back to the state patrol. my face does not show up on the state web site. there are reasons that is doesn't: #1 i challenged the posting and the states use of the tier system. still have not heard anything from the state on this. there is supposed to be a hearing on this issue according to state law but nothing has happened. it has been over a year since i filled the appeal paperwork. i am unemployed and still living in the motel that i have been in since 1-1-08. i have 4 kids with my wife of 15 years. my daughter has been raised in motel since she was 4 years old. she was born in 94 before all these illegal laws were passed in the country. we have not had very many problems up until recently. not having a house to call home is affecting my children in ways that are very wrong. in the end all of this is going to destroy my family and myself. i have not sought a counseling for depression and anxiety because the counselor will report any and all sessions including content to the police. what am i to do!! i have thought of leaving this country but my kids need their father around. or they are going to end up in jail when they are older. my kids are 14 yrs. girl, 11, 8, 6 year old boys. will find out soon i guess.

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¨I am NOT a Victim, She Shouts, As He´s Taken Away.

By Tonia <www.love-is-not-a-crime.com> Posted on 14.03.2009 Link to this story: [0066]

Another Painful Case of Extreme Injustice (in Illinois) My son lost his case on Monday - he is now a registered sex offender. There are no articles in the newspaper on this, but this is my first "draft" of the story I will be updating on my website. It truly breaks my heart to see what is happening to teenagers these days. I just bet if we were rich it would have never come to this. Thank you for all the support you've given me throughout this terrible ordeal. My next step - having the Romeo and Juliet law incorporated in Illinois. From there - who knows, this is just the beginning. She sits in the first row of the court room with tears running down her face as she watches her boyfriend being convicted of a sexual crime. His crime – being with her. She screams inside her head, "I AM NOT A VICTIM" as he lowers his head in shame for having to plead guilty for something he has not done. He is taken away in handcuffs - his life about to forever change. Two years ago, he was 19 and she was 16. They had already been together for almost a year. Photos of her topless were found in his possession and he was arrested for child pornography and sexual misconduct with a minor. She, being only 16 at the time, could not legally consent. The State of Illinois says you must be 17 years old to consent to sex and anything younger than that is illegal. Because of that law, he was forced to take a felony charge of "forceable" sexual misconduct (the second charge dropped) with 2 ½ years probation and 10 years on the sex offender registry. If he did not take the plea, he may never see her again. Although she is now an adult, in hopes of seeing her again in 6 months, he agrees to take the plea so that they may eventually have a life together. He was told he could not win at trial because he broke the law and even if he did win, the State’s Attorney was going to bring in an ex-girlfriend from 3 years ago to testify that she was raped by him (the ex-girlfriend was dumped for the new girlfriend and has a lot of anger). Now that he took the plea, the so-called rape charge will never be brought up. Funny how they are willing to convict on photographs (which was what the father said he was so angry about) and let a rape go forever uncharged. The father admitted that he liked "the boy" and did not hate him. He also said if there was no contact for 6 months, he would testify on their behalf so they could be together again. I guess it doesn’t matter that his daughter WILL be with a convicted sex offender and if they have children, his grandchildren with have a father who is a registered sex offender. If there was a chance to win this case, there would have never been a plea. If there was a way that they could have stayed together, he would have fought this to the end. After 3 months in jail and no chance of winning the case, he lowered his head and plead guilty. Tonia www.love-is-not-a-crime.com

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Set Up To Fail: The Horrors Facing S.O.s

By anonymous (Maggy) <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 13.03.2009 Link to this story: [0065]

Please refer comments to Tale No. 0065 and send to the above email. I´ll send the comments to the mother who wrote this about her son´s ongoing ordeals as a registered ¨sex offender.¨ Alex. --------------------- SET UP TO FAIL: The Horrors Facing ¨Sex Offenders¨ I have been thinking very heavily on the laws, and how unjust they truly are. My son has been back in prison awaiting trial on a probation violation since 7/2008, the violation is being an addict. Which By law and science is a medical desease. Since he could not get a place in any of the forty + recovery houses I wrote to last year, I thought I would share some of my thoughts. Oh by the way these houses are in fact state funded. I do believe his lawyers office is working on suing the state. If not some one should. Any ways with all these new laws, The Jessica Law, The Adam Walsh law, the registry, the posting of pictures, the newspapers, the zone laws, which makes it impossible for a dad to pick up his child, the laws as to where you can and can't live. The law by which if you leave town over night, you have to register. The laws that do not stop people from harrassing you, or stop employers from hiring you, or the laws that DO not protect the children, and loved ones of ex-offenders, ect. THE POST FACTO LAWS that have not been adhered to. All these sitituations have made the offender disabled, don't you think? They can not receive housing, they can not live in substisized housing, can't find jobs with out the police CHECKING IN, which in turn makes employers uncomfortable. Know what I think? I think since we can not change the laws right away, why can't they be put on disability? Makes sense to me. The laws have made this group of people unable to live a normal life, and that is what disability is for. People who can not work because of their disabilities. Since they have something people think they are GOING TO GET, it must be contagious. I think we should fight for their right to be considered Disabled and collect SSDI. Then see what the law makers think of THAT. I am sure some way it can be done. I am just not sure how. Has anyone actually tried? I just know that these group of citizens have been treated unfairly, and unjustly. A lot can not work, because of their disability. So why not? Too bad I have to work to support my son and his family, otherwise I would be looking into the possibilities. Hmmm think I will anyways. My son went to court on 3/11/09. He was assaualted by the local Police on 7/13/09. I went looking for him, and found him on a street corner. There was a comotion (disorderly conduct). I was told my son was going to be held for protective custody. Well they maced or pepper sprayed him and beat him. I dropped him at south shore hospital and he had a concussion, and a perforated ear drum. He poked an officer in the chest with his index finger. He had called me that night at the police station, and all I heard was fear, "Ma they are going to kill me" Is what he said. I called the police department and the sargent told me, he was being held on $1500 cash bail. I told him I thought my son needed medical attention, and was told "if we thouhgt he needed medical attention he would ger it. I was dismissed with a hang up. We took it to court, and were going to have a jury trial but he was offered a plea. Plead guilty and the case would just be filed. All this for the simple fact of him being an offender. Since he has been out he has been on probation since 12/23/2003. He has had so many stipulations on his probation, that it was a set up for failur. The Judge from the District Court has been really decent to my son. He will be in front of him on April 2, 2009 for violation of probation. We have tried for a revise/revoke. It has been a mess. For simply having a dirty urine he has already spent nine months this time in jail. Before for a dirty urine he spent seven months. We all know it is not about probation or a dirty urine. The only one he hurts is himself. Has not had any charges except breaking probation due to a urine test. Anyways he took the plea, and a witness that saw him beaten, and myself feel the system is really broken and needs fixing. These officers lied, blatanly lied. My son wants out, but we probably should have fought it. Didn't want anymore issues before court in april. The bottom line is that the press and society group all these guys into groups of murderous pediphiles. They have no idea of the differences between an offender and a psychopathic personality. Society and the laws do NOT know the ramifications of these laws. God help the future of our children. It scares the hell out of me to ever think what will be considered a sex offense next. Maggy

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The Conversion of a Parole Agent

By Marge <thesnappy1@gmail.com> Posted on 12.03.2009 Link to this story: [0064]

Comments should refer to Tale NO. 0064 and be sent to Margie above, with a copy to alexm60@fastmail.fm ----- Alex´s note: This is part of an ongoing tale of Margie´s friend Mike and their saga with parole agents! Eventually, we hope it become a best-selling book! Margie and Mike are heroes for sure. ------ Agent Jim stopped by the house yesterday as it's his last week as Mike's parole agent. He wanted to wish Mike the best of luck with the flooring business and told him it was a pleasure to be his agent over the past year. As we were talking, I asked him what he was going to be doing in his new role. He said to me: 'Margie, I think you're the greatest! Mike can't fail as long as he knows you. You've brought to my attention some interesting facts. But, I'm getting out of the Sex Offender Unit because of the Adam Walsh Act. I just cannot do this as I don't believe that people who have been off the registry for years will be forced back on it. Eventually, the whole situation with sex offenders will become out of control. I also don't like the tier levels. I think the only people that can provide fact based levels are professionals and not what the State feels. I'll still be affiliated with the IDOC but not in this capacity.' With that, I wished him the very best and told him if he was ever in the neighborhood to stop by. See? Sometimes it's good to spar with these agents. You make them think and this guy did just that!

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Living in Terror: A Nightmare Forever

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 26.02.2009 Link to this story: [0063]

Please refer to Tale No. 0063 and send to me. This person did NOT include his email address. PLEASE INCLUDE EMAIL ADDRESSES WHEN YOU SUBMIT A BLOG OR TALE, so we can send you the comments. Alex SEE COMMENT AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS TALE, from another person living the nightmare. ---------------------- I am a registered sex offender. In 1995 I agreed to a plea bargain of 10 years deferred adjudication probation in exchange for a guilty plea. In the end my sentence included 10 years probation, sex offender counseling, a $10,000 dollar fine, 60 days of work release jail time, 400 hours of community service and of course, sex offender registration. But the consequences did not stop there. I was evicted from my apartment and once my case was ‘finalized’ my wife filed for divorce. As a condition of the probation I had to report to a probation officer once a month and attend sex offender classes twice a week. The classes took place during normal working hours and I was missing so much time at work that I was fired from my job. I also had to take a polygraph at least once a year at a cost of $350 per test. About 5 years into the probation we got a new sex offender councilor who offered evening classes at a cost of $40 per session. Do the math, two sessions a week for 52 weeks at $40 a session. It was expensive but it was the only way I could attend all those classes and keep a job. There’s more, so much more. It was a difficult time and in spite of all the harassment and restrictions I did everything in my power to be a model probationer. Eventually I satisfied every requirement of my probation and in March of 2005 I was dismissed from community supervision. However, I am still required to register on an annual basis for life. Having my name on the sex offender website has made it difficult for me to rebuild my life. I find it especially hard to find and keep friends. Most people abandon me the moment they discover my past. A few will give me the courtesy of conversation but close friendships are almost impossible. Intimate relationships are even more difficult to form. For years I tried to find a lady who would overlook my past and have a relationship with me. It’s difficult because if I tell them about my past up front they won’t even give me a chance to get to know them. If I get to know them first and reveal my past after we’ve been dating for awhile they feel betrayed and end the relationship. I finally gave up and decided to live alone for the rest of my life. There just doesn’t seem to be any other option for me. Finding and keeping a job is a nightmare. I am educated and highly skilled and my skills are in demand. I have to explain my past on every job application I submit and as soon as I say the words sex offender my application is thrown into the trash. A few companies will consider an applicant with a felony if the crime is not recent but sex offenders are held to a different standard. For example, I recently applied for a job with an employer in Oregon. The job application asked if I had any felonies within the past seven years and I replied no, which is the truth since my case is 14 years old. I am well within the guidelines the company uses to determine eligibility and so I submitted the application. I went thru the interviewing process and the company extended an offer of employment. A few days later I received an official job offer letter indicating salary, start date, and benefits. I signed the documents, sent them back to the company, and began making preparations for a move to Oregon. Meanwhile, they conducted a background investigation and of course my case showed up. Shortly thereafter I received a phone call from the company stating that they are withdrawing their offer of employment. I explained that the case is 14 years old but they still insisted on withdrawing their offer because of ‘the nature of the offense’ as they put it. I was being disqualified solely on the basis that I am a sex offender. If my case had involved any crime other than a sex crime their offer of employment would not have been withdrawn. I could understand their concern if the position involved interaction with minors but it doesn't. It's a computer programming job in a corporate environment where there is absolutely no contact with anyone other than adults. I’ve been unemployed off and on for the past fourteen years. I find it impossible to obtain a permanent position in my field because almost all employers in my field conduct background investigations. I’ve managed to find temporary contract work from time to time to sustain me but there are often long periods of unemployment in between jobs. It is a never ending nightmare. Before I end this letter I’d like to say a word about finding a place to live. The short version is this: I contacted 37 apartment complexes in the Portland area before submitting an application and all of them said they had empty apartments. But when it came to submitting an application several of them said they do not accept applications from anybody with a felony in their background no matter how many years have elapsed since the conviction took place. Some of them would accept a felony conviction if it was more than seven years old (magic number 7), but even they would not rent to me when they found out that the felony was for a sex offense. Of the 37 landlords I contacted only 1 of them would rent to me. It was a run down looking apartment in an area that didn’t look safe. But at least I did manage to find a place. I hear that some sex offenders are living in their cars. I am determined to live the rest of my life without ever breaking the law again and all I want is a chance to rebuild my life and put the past behind me. To that end I am doing all I can do to hold a job and be an honest citizen. But the sex offender registration laws make it impossible for me to ever put the past behind me. I am reminded every time I fill out a job application or look for a new place to live. I am reminded on my birthday each year when I am forced by law to report to the nearest law enforcement office for fingerprinting and to update my personal information. I am reminded every time a policeman knocks on my door to see if I am living where I said that I was living on the registration form. I am reminded every time one of my neighbors conducts an internet search and obtains my photo, address, and details about my past. I am reminded every time I encounter a broadcast regarding the latest round of new restrictions for sex offenders that are being discussed by law makers. I am reminded every time I hear my coworkers discussing sex offenders because that usually means somebody found out about me and it is only a matter of time before someone complains and I will once again be discharged. I live in terror and isolation, alienated and ostracized with no hope of a reprieve. It is a nightmare that never ends. -------------------- Comment from anonymous: I read your story.. I know what your saying about the never ending nightmare..Ive been lucky so far ,well, until I got laid off..now what ,who knows but hopefully we will have our day , because we have already paid for our mistakes. As far as im concerned for me it was 18 years ago,yet every year something new to knock me down another peg it just p's me off especially that I now have a family, there was no such thing as a registry when i got out, if I knew that was going to happen i would not have had my son.....anyway there´s a lot to discuss no doubt but will not take up anymore of your time. good luck! Bruce.

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Hoodwinked by the System

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 22.02.2009 Link to this story: [0062]

Refer comments to tale no. 0062. and send to alex who will send them to the person who posted this. ----------------------- I am a friend of a retired military, Vietnam veteran. During the 90's he was wrongfully accused of rape, and spent near to 3 years in prison before the "victim" came forward and confessed that she had lied about her allegations. During his trial he was "helped" by another individual in the military who was found comitting adultry and sent to prison himself. After he was exonerated of the rape charge, he went to visit the other individual at his home in Florida. While he was visiting, two young daughters of the other man found a vibrating massager (the large kind) in his van and asked what it was. He explained what it was and demonstrated. The wife was not happy at this and took both children to a councelor for evaluation. Nothing was found at that point in time and he went on for the next 8 years living, working, travelling (locally, out of state & abroad multiple times) and abiding all laws in the same state. In August 2008, he was arrested in California stemming from a 2000 charge against him for 2 counts of lewd & lasvicious behavior with a minor under 12. He was further accused of being a fugitive living in Mexico. The charge was from the wife. She and the Grandmother of the children had taken his personal information from his previous military rape charge and given it to the police. The police had also been given his personal information such as social security, address of his lawyers etc. but never even looked for him (per depositions). He has been living in Florida, has registered to vote, received his license in Florida, renewed his passport, bought a house, filed taxes EVERYTHING for years which could have been found by authorities easily. He has been languishing in prison since his arrest. The prosecutor has used underhanded tactics including using confidential phone calls with his attorneys as state evidence. A motion to dismiss the case (based on a similar case which went all the way to supreme court) was denied by the judge which gives his lawyers a very good chance to appeal. The state attorney has flat out mentioned that he is nervous of going to appellete. State Attorney has offered a deal of him pleading guilty to one count of lewed behaviour and registering and parole for 3 years. I am a former victim. I do not believe he is being given justice. The girl in question, and her sister have both testified that nothing has happened. They have constantly used the previous false allegation of rape against him even though he was cleared of that charge. He is facing a decision of whether to appeal and if denied appeal, then maybe spending his life in jail. Or, he can take the plea and be scarred for the rest of his life and have no life. I have been taking care of his financial and personal matters for him. I need help and support. I am looking for individuals, councelors, attorneys, anyone... who can help or offer advice and / or support. I know there are others out there who have been "hoodwinked' by the system. I need to know their stories & experience. Please help.

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THE ULTIMATE PRICE: Sanity!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.02.2009 Link to this story: [0061]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0061 and be sent to me. I will send them to the mother who posted this, and who has posted before about her son and his struggle with sanity because of the sex offender laws. This mother is finding that ALL the American health, mental health, criminal justice and many other systems are either corrupt or broken, or both! alex ----------------- As most of you know my son had a breakdown in Feb. He spent two weeks in the state mental health hospital. He was released, prematurely and two days later he was worse than when this nightmare started. Once again 911 was called and he was taken back to the hospital. He has been diagnosed as bipolar; all involved that the stress of being an SO has brought this on. It's four weeks tomorrow since the first hospitalization and I can happily say that he is starting to respond to meds. I'm finding that our mental health system is just as bad as our SO laws. The docs, social worker and case manager are starting to plan for his release next week. They want him to be moved to a residential center for three weeks to make sure he is on the right road. NOW I"M ANGRY........................he can't go because he is an SO and the facility is next to a school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! These laws rob so much from SO's; I'm talking the teenagers, consensual sex and the falsely accused. But my son has paid the ultimate price............................his sanity. What the hell has happened to mankind????

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Beware of Alfred Pleas!

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.02.2009 Link to this story: [0060]

Refer in comments to Tale No. 0060, and send to me at the above address. I'll send them to the brave woman (an rsol signatory) who wrote this. Alex ------------------------------------------------------- I was an investigative protective services social worker for four years when I was younger and have been a therapist for over twenty years. I would never have believed that my oldest son who is mentally ill would go through what he did because a child lied about him abusing her. She recanted a year ago. And why did she do this? Because she was jealous of the relationship my son had with her older sister. This child lived in an extremely dysfunctional family and in a neighborhood where lying to the police was common. My son was naive and took an alford plea because of very poor legal representation. He was never told he needed to register. His case is under appeal. But the prosecutors in these cases handled them in an extremely roughshod manner. They are far from being individualized according to dangerousness of the defendant. My son's life has been ruined by this. He will never be the same. He trusted people too much before but now he trusts no one. This girl also was encouraged to report this lie by a grandmother and a neighborhood gossip who disliked my son. They didn't "like his looks" and that was how the media reacted as well. Please reform these laws which undermine justice for the innocent and appropriate justice for those who are guilty but not dangerous. (i.e. men who have sex with underage prostitutes with no harm, no coercion)

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I'm Used to It: Hounded All My Life

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.02.2009 Link to this story: [0059]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0059 and be sent to me. Unfortunately, this person did not send an email address so we can send him comments. PLEASE REMEMBER TO INCLUDE AT LEAST YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS WHEN YOU COMMENT! ================================================================== Sex offenders are victims of a modern day witch hunt. Special laws are created and tailored to destroy anyone labeled a sex offender. One can only wonder, where is our Civil Liberties Union. Instead of defending the rights of Americans who have become victims of this witch hunt they choose to spend their time defending terrorists. Shouldn't our rights be defended before those of a frreigner who wants to do nothing more than kill all Americans? In 1981 I was arrested for a violent sex crime and ultimately spent over 14 years in prison and am now classified as a violent sex offender. I will add that no life was lost, for those that might wonder. I was railroaded and spent years fighting my case. After years of filing motions and petitions it taught me that the judicial system will go out of its way and sidestep the law to rule against you if you are right. At present I am 52 years old. I have never been in trouble with the law in my entire life except for this one time. After over 14 years in prison and two years on parole I figured all this stuff would soon be behind me and I could once again move on with my life. Was I ever wrong. I have been hounded most of my life now and have somewhat gotten used to it. I still can get frustrated though when I think about it too much. Those of you just starting down this road have absolutely no idea of the hell you are going to face. I feel for everyone tagged as a sex offender because as it stands now, regardless of the situation, they will never be able to live a normal life. Unless laws change, you will forever live the life of an outcast. What I have seen over the years on this issue is truly sad.

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11 Year Old "Sex Offender" handcuffed.

By annonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 06.02.2009 Link to this story: [0058]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0058 and be sent to me. I will send them to the mother of this boy, who is now 12. Alex' Comment: When will this madness stop? ------------------------------------------------------------------- I live in Wisconsin. I have three children and my oldest is 12. Their father, lives in the state of Texas so I sent all three of my children to visit their father, his girlfriend and her three children for the summer. Now keep in mind that my oldest son is not that man's child but he has been there for him since he was 3 months old. At the time my son was only 11 years old. My son is a very caring boy and would never hurt anyone. He is a very good student who has never been in trouble with anyone or anything...Ever!!! The boy's father and his girlfriend lived in separate apartments at the time I sent them to Texas but shortly after they moved in together, into a two bedroom apartment with six children.... The girlfriend sent my oldest son to one bedroom for punishment and while he was in there one of her daughters, who was 7 years old and my other son who was 6 went in to grab some toys or to play. The little girl was wearing shorts with a hole over the private part and she was dared to take off her underwear. She did it and then they started wrestling and she ended up sitting on my oldest son's chest and he ended up touching the inside of her leg close to her privates...where the hole was. Needless to say, she told her mother that my son touched her private and her mother called the police. My 11 year old son was taken to Juvenile Detention... in handcuffs!!! I was so furious to find this out, when I was far away in Wisconsin. My husband and I left as soon as we found out. They would not let me take him home and I had to come back two weeks later to get him. After court, he was NOT convicted of a sexual crime in the state of Texas, but when Wisconsin got a hold of his offense it was the original offense of 1st Degree Sexual Assault of a Child. Even though he was NOT convicted of a sexual crime, Wisconsin is requiring him to register as a sex offender until 2025. How is this fair to my son, he is only 12!!??? He made one bad choice out of natural curiosity and now they want him to pay for the rest of his life. Where do we draw the line between sexual in nature and normal child development?

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"Sex Offender" Still Preaching!

By Fred V. Ruston <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 02.02.2009 Link to this story: [0057]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0057 and be sent to me at my email address above. I'll forward them to Rev. Ruston. ---------------------------------------------------------------- I have been a Business Man in Albuquerque for 20 years. I served time, and am living a clean and sober life today with a wonderful wife of 40 years, who has forgiven and inspired me to live Godly. God has given me the privilege of preaching approximately once a month. I remain, a servant of man because of God's forgiving love. Fred V. Ruston, Albuquerque, New Mexico

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Deaf Man Did Not Understand Laws

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.01.2009 Link to this story: [0056]

Refer in comments to tale no. 0056 and send to Alex above. I´ll send them to the mother who wrote in about her son. There is SO much pain out there! ----------------- My 30 year old son has pleaded guily of distribution of child porn. He is now waiting sentencing. I am heart broken. My son is deaf and had no idea how serious his crime was and how his life is now ruined. He can no longer with his own children.

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Elderly man punished after 26 years

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.01.2009 Link to this story: [0055]

Send comments to alex at the above email address and I´ll send them to the man who wrote this. Refer to Tale No. 0055. ------------------------------------------------------ In 1986 i was convicted of 2nd degree sexual assault .The one & only criminal offense I´ve ever had in my 74 years of life . Every thing I´ve read here by Mr Shannon is sooo very,very true ! Even today after 26 years (from the time of the alleged offense), my sentence continues on a daily basis . I´ve had no support as the family has taken a back seat to how i must live with the new laws & restrictions which I´m subject to as a offender . I only wish I would have known about this hot line years ago. Isolated and suffering in Mississippi

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Young Sex Offenders Lose Sanity Because of Laws

By posted by Sue and Margie <thesnappy1@gmail.com> Posted on 18.01.2009 Link to this story: [0054]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0054 and be sent to Margie at the above email address - she will send it on to Sue, who writes the second part of this tale, about her son PJ. Our prayers should be with all the PJ´s who are out there because of these terrible laws (Alex) ------------------------ From Margie I haven't heard of any instances of the mania that PJ is suffering (described by PJ´s mother below). However, the emotional roller coaster is sometimes too much (for families and friends of sex offenders). There are times when even I feel like cracking but something tells me I must fight harder! What I don't like is the parole agent tries to do something nice only to have the supervisor take it away. It's what I call 'dangling the carrot.' Sometimes I think it's too see how far they can push an S.O. to see how much pressure they can handle. Comment from Sue, PJ´s Mother As all of your are aware I have been fighting to save my son, PJ since he had gone into a severe depression last year. We thought he had snapped out of it last summer, but then bizarre behavior this fall after he was arrested near a school had us believing he was doing street drugs. Since Christmas he has been in a sever psychotic state which only led us to believe that he was doing street dugs. Last Friday it was so severe we called 911 for help and when everyone arrived we were told that since he was not talking of harming himself or anyone else that there was nothing they could do. The paranoia, delusions, anger and constant rambling increased and on Tuesday we were once again forced to call 911. PJ is 5'4 and weighs 112 (a loss of 17 lbs in two months). It took 4 cops to hold him down. Long story short; it's not street drugs he is doing but has developed a mania and is now in a State hospital. We pray and hope that they can bring him out of this psychosis. He was in the ER for 24 hours until they could stabilize him somewhat. He had to be restrained. All of the professionals that we talked to says that this mania has developed from the sex offender status. His mind is not able to cope with it. I guess I actually have some joy in this whole mess, if that's what you want to call it. On Friday night when we called 911 we had 2 cops and 4 paramedics there. They were all shocked in how PJ was and the one cop said the iceburg of this what happened in 2003. He said PJ never should have been charged, he's not an SO and that if he was on duty that night this never would have happened. Pisses me off at the same time as he and 80% of the dept didn't stand up for him, but chose to stand up for their fellow officer. But, the best elation came at the hospital Tuesday night. There were many cops from our town in and out of the ER to see PJ. One of the cops came up to me and asked me to tell him what happened five/six years ago. I asked him if he wanted the truth or did he want to believe what he's heard. He said he wanted the truth. I told him the story and told him the cops told us then they didn't want to come to the house in 2003 and arrest PJ because they didn't want us embarrassed ; that was a lie they wanted him by himself because they knew he was ADHD and they'd have a confession. I told the cop that if he kills himself or his mind doesn't come back that they and my niece are responsible for what happens. The cop asked me if we've gone to the states attorney with this and I told him what difference does it make, no one wanted to hear the truth then, why would they want to hear it now. Everyone involved that day got a notch in their belt. Now, for my satisfaction............................................the cop walked away after I blasted him and my husband said, "Baby, do you know who that was" and I said just another cop and he said "no, that was the second cop that arrested PJ that day". YIPPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, at least I got them to hear the REAL truth. I hope they are having sleepless nights for what they have done. But have you heard of anyone else literally loosing their mind because of the stress of this label. Please all say prayers that PJ's mind might someday come back. Thanks to my SO families!

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Country Boy Made Mistakes - Ruined Forever!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.01.2009 Link to this story: [0053]

Comments about this Tale should reference Tale No. 0053 and be sent to Alex Marbury at the above email address - they will be sent to the young man who wrote his story. ------------------------------------------------- My story, well its complicated. when I was 18-19 I was a very permiscuis young man. I have never lied about that and I made a couple bad choices. I slept with my 15 year old girlfriend. I did know her age. It was just a bad choice. But I thought hell, I love her, - a misdemeanor would be worth it. What I didn´t know is they were setting up an internet sting. They came looking for me, and told me they were just visiting my area, and all and asked what there was to do here. I made a sexual comment. She told me, ¨I´m only 15 though,¨ and I said, ¨Well I´m outta here.¨ Then - wow -they came to my door, and I´m a felon! What´s worse is I have to register for 10 years. Well then, I thought I can do this I´ll be free of it in 10 years - ok. Well for the next 5 years every time I told a girl of my situation, they said they didn´t care, or at least they didn´t care till they got angry with me. Ive been investigated at least 3 times just because someone whispered my name in the wrong direction. And been cleared 3 times. Now I´m going through it all again. An of-age girl, whom I made out with - well just kissed - said I tried to go further. She said that she told me no. Then she said I stopped and took her home. So for doing what she asked me to do, they are going to send me to prison. I did nothing wrong and I´m going to prison? But not for this, no! Anyone can see that what´s alleged here isn´t worth prison. The biggest wrong is they can bring up your past to use against you at trial in a sex crime case and it doesn´t have to be that you were convicted of anything: you could have just been talked to or accused and acquited and all those people get to plead their case again. No registered offender in any state has an opportunity to defend themselves in any case. Whether rightfully accused or wrongfully. This has destroyed my family. The man I was when I was 18-19 wasn´t a good man. I was a country boy in the city and I made bad choices. But after that, I came home. My parents were ashamed at first but when they saw me transform into the man I am now, they are more proud then ever and they know this wasn´t in me, but they also know it doesn´t matter. It´s stacked from the begining. This needs to end! It takes me months just to find a suitable home. And now I have to give up the only one I´ve found that is suitable. I don´t know what else to say. But people, beware. Registry isnt bad, it is a good tool to keep track of violent offenders. But many on it aren´t violent, and yet their lives are ruined by it. If I ever have kids I would want to know if a Violent rapist lived next door to my kids. But the last thing I wanna know is if there is someone that pees in public next to me. I hope everyone reads this and understands that I am not ashamed of my bad choices. But troubled that now when I make good ones, I´m still in trouble. Help put a stop to this madness. And help my family.

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Sex Offenders Not Treated Like Human Beings

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.01.2009 Link to this story: [0052]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0052 and be sent to Alex Marbury at the above email address - they will be passed along to the person who wrote this. ------------------------ S.O.S NOT TREATED LIKE HUMAN BEINGS (from a ¨sex offender¨ in California) I want to state that I am NOT a sex offender, but I have committed a sex offense. The term "sex offender" implies continued behaviors. I am, by \"legal\" terms, a sex offender, but admitting that hinders any chances of me being treated like a human being. I am now living in an RV on a piece of land with no running water or sewage, electricity and I keep getting death threats where I live. I am in the process of getting recordings of the threats and vandalism. Cops in this town say I don't have to live there. What they don't understand is that I am on parole, and parole forces me to look elsewhere for a place to live.. nowhere near schools, parks, daycare centers and other places where children regularly congregate. What this means, is virtually no place is available for me. It's only being enforced on parolees in California. Additionally, if I register as a transient, I cannot be physically located at one premises for more than 2 hours a time - So how do I get more than 2 hours of sleep at a time? This is a rule for sex offender parole transients in California. Think I'm crazy? I'm not. With just $200 "gate money" leaving prison, people are forced to resort to going back to prison just to have a legal place to stay for more than 2 hours at a time. I am extremely lucky I a couple of law enforcement officials who know my story and stuck their necks out for me, otherwise I'd be in prison for the laws that just passed in California.

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A ¨CREATED CRIME¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.12.2008 Link to this story: [0051]

Comments should be sent to Alex at the above address and i´ll send them to the anonymous contributor. Refer to Tale No. 0051. ------------------- My son was arrested last May because of a Police Sting out of Florida. His picture was put on the local media in Oklahoma as a sex offender before he was even charged with a crime. What happened to presumed innocent until proven guilty? I don't think that applies in this country anymore. After being taken to Florida, the so-called Public Defender assigned to his case told his wife that he was guilty and would probably spend 8 to 10 years in Prison. I assume the Public Defender was going to do nothing to help him which forced us to obtain an attorney and spend all the savings we had to do so in order to help our son. His attorned called this a "Created Crime", created by the police. It's as if there is not enough crime in this country so the police create new crimes, I guess we really do live in a Police State, not a free country. He is now facing 2 years in Prison in Florida. He never touched anyone inappropriately, has never been in any trouble with the law his whole life and now faces being branded as a Sex Offender for the rest of his life because he made a stupid mistake. No other person involved, except for a cop, whose job it is to go online and entrap men into committing a crime. The cops encourage this and lie, but I guess that is ok, since they are the so-called law. My son has a wife and 2 kids that are being destroyed by this. He lost his job, when he was arrested and their health insurance was lost with it. Without his income, they may lose their home. They are the real victims of this created crime and it\'s just not right. Please tell us what we can do to help our son and what can be done to stop this kind of thing happening to other families. I have no respect for the police or the Justice System anymore. After all, Florida is the state where a young female school teacher actually had sex with an underage boy and never went to prison. My son is spending 2 years in their prison system and he never even touched anyone, does that sound like Justice?

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Confused, Beaten Down. Don´t trust police!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.12.2008 Link to this story: [0050]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0050 and be sent to Alex at the above email address. NOTE: This shows the truth of the warning - don´t trust police! Never invite them into your home without a warrant. Never talk to them without a lawyer present about ANYTHING. Never ¨admit¨ to anything! No matter how innocent you believe you are! Also,See Brent´s comment below this one. ----------------------------- I, too, am the Mother of an adult son who was convicted of having(very old) child pornography on his computer. The FBI had no conclusive proof of this, just a hint. None the less, they went to "visit" my son, and being the honest person he is, he admitted them to his home and spoke with them. (They did not have a warrant, because they didn't have proof; but coerced my son into a signed confession of possesion and confiscated two computers, then came back 2 1/2 years later to arrest him.) My son is 1 year into a 97 month sentence for 2 counts of possession. His 97 months may as well be a life sentence,although he does have the support of his two sisters, his father and myself along with a few really good friends who know he is NOT a sex offender, even though the laws passed by our "congress" say he is. I haven\'t been able to bring myself to tell our friends and family (he lived in another state) although most know something is wrong. I have been diagnosed with depression and am on medication and have lost over 50 pounds. Yes, the families of the convicted go through the sentence in other ways. I have learned not to trust the police, the FBI and any other branch of government, they are devious and embelish their accusations (all within the "law"). I realized this when I witnessed a U S Attroney and the public defender talking and laughing in the court room before my son's plea. That frightened me tremendously and we decided then and there to get a private attorney, but as I said previously, the judge had already made his decision on a sentence before any of us spoke on behalf of my son. I am really hoping this web site is legitimate and not a trap. How can I be sure you are not trying to work against people such as my son? After all, the internet was the vehicle my son used and now he is in prison. The judge who sentenced my son, clearly, had no mercy. He was biased against anyone who viewed child pornography, and was livid my son had so many good letters written by friends and sent to him through the attorney. Those of us in the court room realized the judge had his mind made up before my son went before him. I am confused and beaten down. I want to help but don't know how. ---------------- Comment from Brent To the mother of an accused Sex Offender, I just read your story on RSOL. There is a site that you will find many others in your situation. It is: http://dailystrength.org/ You will find there a group called: Families of Sex Offenders the address is: http://dailystrength.org/groups/families-of-sex-offenders This group is just what the title states. A group of people that found themselves in the same place as you. Many are falsely accused or trapped as your son was. Please give this group a shot. I think that you will find many people there with good ideas, open hearts and understanding. Brent, Advocate for reforming sex offender laws.

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Patriotism evidently doesn´t matter if you´re an S.O.

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.12.2008 Link to this story: [0048]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0048 and be sent to Alex at the above email address and I´ll send them on to the patriotic father who sent this in. See the comment at the bottom of this tale. --------------------------- My son (same name...I am "Jr" he is "III")has been convicted and served prison time after being entrapped by Law Enforcement. He had been 8 years in the Army and served this country in both Iraq and S. Korea (hence the "patriot" moniker). I served in the Air Force in the early 70s...considered myself a patriotic veteran - no longer however! I will not even fly the flag anymore. At my age, to lose one's fundamental "belief system" is devastating. COMMENT Please do not give up on your country. You and your son have been very patriotic and served your country. Just because the laws are so very unfair and stupid please don't blame the intire country. I thank you for you and your sons service. I too am a vet of the Vietnam era. I also think that we have much work to do in getting this country back on track. Don't give up the fight please.

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What a neighbor thought she saw

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 12.12.2008 Link to this story: [0047]

NOTE: As with all claims of wrongly accused or convicted offenders, RSOL cannot confirm whether this is true or not. We do believe there are many, many false convictions, and it is important to hear the side of the convicted person, which is often not possible in court. Comments about this should refer to Tale No. 0047 and be sent to Alex at the above email address. ---------------- What a Neighbor Thought She Saw... My husband was wrongly covicted of a sexual offence because of what a neighbor across the street thought she saw. There was a little 6 year old girl who was one of the children from across the street who would come to play with him when they lived here. One day the child came over and was stepping on his hand. He was trying to remove her from his hand and the neighbor thought she saw him lift up the little girl's dress. He went to jail and a court appointed lawyer asked him to plead the Alfred plea to avoid trial. As a result he was accused as a violent sex offender. (And yet, this situation I am explaining was non-violent.) This incident happened in 1996. He has had a record ever since then, gone to probation; counseling for this and also anger counselling. He followed all of the rules, including to mail finger prints in every 90 days, etc. This has prohibited him from getting a job. He likes landscaping. I support your cause and hope you can get somewhere. If you can give me some advice please let me know. I would like for him to get his record cleared if not reduced because it was so long ago and not violent by any means.

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Couple want family - PO asks why?

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 12.12.2008 Link to this story: [0046]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0046 and be sent to Alex at the above email address. They will be forwarded to the person who wrote this. Couple Want Family - PO asks them why? I am the fiance of a sex offender. He was sentenced to 10 years to life probation of the highest level. I haven't been able to see him since he was released in August, but have been able to speak to him on the phone and every conversaton we have involves how his therapist and P.O. are mistreating him. For example he has been out for 3 months and has had none of his safety plans approved for general movement like taking the bus or just walking, for computer use to find a job at the Workforce Dept. His P.O. told him one week to just call and tell her what his plans are at the beginning of everyday. He does, and the next week she asks him why he didn't call and ask permission during which time in the week she never called him back. We talk about our wedding and the potential to have a family and in his therapy groups they question why he would have such conversations with his fiancee. I thought the whoe point was for him to eventually lead a normal life. He is not at risk to reoffend he is remorseful and just wants help so that eventualy we can be together, and they are punishing the family that supports him. He went to register at the courthouse and got in trouble for going alone and now has to write a reason why he was walking into the courthouse alone. He P.O. told him he could register by himself then said she never said it. The actions of the P.O. and therapist are contradictory and confusing to an S.O. trying to do the right thing. I'm not condoning his crime but I am condemning the actions of the public officials making it impossible for S.O. to become a part of society again. Thank you for listening.

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Another ¨Bargain¨ Destroys a Life

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.12.2008 Link to this story: [0045]

Comments should refer to ¨tale no. 0045¨ and be sent to Alex Marbury at the above address. NOTE: This person gave us no email. Normally, we don´t put these up. But this is so poignant and touches many issues, again warning people about ¨plea bargains,¨ and the knee jerk reaction of some defense attorneys to suggest them. ------------------ So who am I? I am an a very average person, born and raised in a middle class family, graduated from high school and entered the Air Force...served 4 years with Honorable Discharge, released then joined U.S. Army, served 4 years Honorably then discharged...no problems other than driving offenses...after no children. I married again and I bought a home computer. I used to look everywhere, amazed by the information the internet had to offer. One day my computer locked up and I could do nothing to resolve the problem. I took my computer in to a repair shop to resolve the problem. Later the same week I had a knock at my door and the local sheriff's department said they had a warrant to search our family's home. Nothing was found but they said my computer had \"child pornography" on it. I contacted a lawyer who said he would represent me but insisted on $8,000. up front. Well I paid that amount and then one day later their office told me to report to the court, I did and when I reported they told me right then and there that I would have to enter a plea. The lawyer told me that if I decided to enter a plea of "not guilty" it would not be good at all because of the "nature of the crime" and I should enter a plea of guilty to accept a plea bargain. I would be considered guilty because of "the nature of the crime" if I said not guilty and appeared before a court and jury. I did thinking I could just serve my sentence and get it behind me...How wrong I was, as each law continuously changed before state legislature so did my life and the repercussions for my family. Now even though my sentence was for 12 years for a misdemeanor (12 pictures, and absolutely no contact or harm to any child...but never any chance of putting this nightmare behind me.) Even as a Christian, you cannot depend on churches or friends for any truth because you are completely abandoned by ALL friends and churches... they all deny you and desert you. I have prayed and prayed to God for a miracle to restore our lives (my life and that of my family) but it just keeps in a spiral downward for us all. How could Christians do this to each other? It has already happened and there is no compassion or forgiveness ever. All for pictures on my home computer and a 12 year sentence of "SEXUAL EXPLOITATION OF A MINOR" -- and I never even touched or harmed any child ever. I had to leave the U.S. because of the laws that would never forgive me or always would prevent my family and me from living anything close to a normal life ever again. I learned my lesson. Unfortunately the country I loved and served for 20 years can never forgive. Even after I have completed my sentence, I cannot find anyone to hire me for any job to support my family now.

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Angry and Alone

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 30.11.2008 Link to this story: [0044]

Comments should refer to Tale No. 0044, and be sent to Alex at the above email address. I´ll forward them to the person who wrote this story. ---------------------------------------- My husband of 32 years was also caught in a sting operation and is awaiting sentencing for getting on an airplane. Nothing more really. He has mental issues and was enticed by a sting operation in another state to get on that plane. He was arrested before he ever got off the plane. He was encouraged to plead because he was told that he couldn't get a fair trial given the "evidence" against him which consisted only of chat logs and wiretaps. It seems that he's fueling the political ambitions of some US Attorney in the state in which he was caught. Who's sicker here? This has ruined our family in every way, financially, emotionally, etc. He will be about 70 when he gets out of jail and who knows where he will be able to live or if he will ever have a job again (he was a small business owner before his arrest). I feel so angry and alone!

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A mistake costs a lifetime of punishment.

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.11.2008 Link to this story: [0043]

This is in response to Blog No. 0046, from wivesofsexoffenders.com, a group in Maryland who offer mutual support among wives. Responses to this tale, should refer to Tale No. 0043, and I sent to me at the above email address. I will pass along the comments. ------------------------ I think your idea is a great one.I am a wife of a SO and i happen to think that he is the greatest as well.He had consensual sex with a 14 year old when he was 17 but they waited and charged him for it when he turned 18. they were both in school at the time.I think they need to classify their categories a little better. i think of an SO as a rapist or a man who (abuses) children not as a child who has just become a man and is still in high school who has some fun with a freshman or sophomore. if that´s the case then a lot of us are SO's not charged. we have a boy and girl and 1 on the way. He has a hard time finding work and doing the things a 28 yr old should be doing. SO i know what you are going thru definitely. God bless! some people need to put the shoe on the other foot and not be so judgemental. we all make mistakes, but are we all punished for them for a lifetime?

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Another Living Nightmare....About to Explode!

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.11.2008 Link to this story: [0042]

Note - This is in reply to Tale 0041. These stories are all over the US. It will only stop when we change these laws! Comments should refer to Tale 0042 and be sent to Alex at the above email address. ----- This story is typical of many and is similar to mine as well. Jail time, probation, fines and counseling, or as they call it, "treatment", were all what I expected for my crime, but losing my rights to live, work and play freely in my country of origin after I have successfully completed my sentence was not what I expected. To become a lifetime suspect in all sex crimes no matter how, who, what, when and where is to me the sign of a very paranoid and sick society. I'm appalled when I hear our politicians chastise other countries for human rights violations against their citizens, while the U.S. currently engages in depriving their citizens of basic housing. In their endeavor for security they are unwittingly building an army of outcasts, hardened in their prisons and then released upon their streets with little or no chance of redemption. With the decline of the economy, crime will inevitably increase, and with it more laws and more felons will be produced without a future to redeem themselves. A vicious cycle that will explode sooner or later.

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Texas S.O.Conditions a ¨living nightmare¨

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 12.11.2008 Link to this story: [0041]

Comments to this tale refer to Tale No. 0041, and send to Alex Marbury at the above email, and I will forward them to the person making the entry. --------------------------------- From the mother of a young ¨sex offender¨ in Texas: My son is a registered sex offender in the state of Texas. He is also required to take mandatory lie detector tests (and pay for them) approximately every 3 months! I can empathize and sympathize with the stories that are posted on the RSOL site. My son had consentual sex with a 15 year old. At the time he was 21, had 50% ownership in a family fast food business, his own home & vehicle, and was attending Jr. College. The parents of the young lady were quite happy with their relationship until the father found out my son had an Iranian father! He pled guilty at the advice of his attorney and received 10 years probation and a life time on the Registry. He got out of our business due to probation restrictions on hiring policies for the store, sold his home only to find out he could not get find nor get approved for a new home due to 1,000 ft. restrictions to schools, day cares, etc... He is now living at home (we live in the country) at age 26. It took him over a year to find a job that would hire him with his "record", attends sexual offender classes once a week, probation meetings every 2 weeks, must register with police departments where he works & lives. If he was still attending college he would have to register on campus as well. He must have approval by his probation officer and his counselor in his sexual offender class to go anywhere over night or out of the county. This must be a thoroughly documented "schedule" listing the car he will be traveling in, license plate #, who he will be with, times & dates, and all activities he will participate in before they will consider giving permission. Some of the items he must pay are as follows: court fines & costs lie detector tests $125.00 urine tests monthly sex offender class $30 week probation fees sexual victims fund fees and lawyers fees to name a few He cannot use the internet, have anything other than basic cable channels (must have a printed copy of our cable bill showing all channels and any purchased movies), cannot attend any function where there are children (including family functions), cannot visit friends if children are present, cannot go to any business where alcohol is served, cannot belong to a gym that has a daycare, and on and on.... Because there is no distiction in cases, he is lumped in with violent offenders, predators of young children, etc... both on the registry and in classes he attends. He cried after attending his 1st sexual offenders class to learn/hear of the offenses that others in his class spoke about. In order to "advance" in these classes, he must admit to being a sexual pervert, must "confess" to any perverted thoughts, acts, or deeds. Must use the "appropriate language" when speaking of his "victim", his "crime", his "perverted act". In other words, he is brainwashed! This has been a living nightmare not only for him but all of his family as well. Unless the laws are changed, I can only see hundreds or thousands more families affected by these unfair practices and in my opinion, abuses.

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<We Fell in Love at the Wrong Time

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.11.2008 Link to this story: [0040]

For comments, send to me at the above email address, and refer to Tale No. 0040. ----- From the Wife of a sex offender - over ME! Me and my husband met 10 yrs ago.. now we have been married 8 years, and we have 3 kids together. He has to register as a sex offender over me! I was 6 yrs different in age from him. He served 2 yrs in prison then my mom and dad signed papers for us to get married.. We are happly married. We just met at the wrong time in life.. I just dont know why we have to suffer like this because we fell in love at the wrong time....

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19 Year Old Virgin labled S.O.

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.11.2008 Link to this story: [0039]

Please refer to Tale No. 0039 when you send comments to Alex Marbury at the above email address. ------------------ My son has been labeled "sex offender" wrongfully. He engaged in heavy petting at the age of 19, with a 15 year old. There was nothing violent about it. Her parents found out and called police and my son was arrested. The day my son was sentenced to 10 years deffered adjudication probation and to register for life as a "sex offender", he was a 19 year old virgin. His limitations are almost unbelievable and his life has been basically ruined. He was always a happy person and now he is on antidepresents and becomes very angry about the simplest of things. I want my son back, but first and foremost, I want my son to have his life back! anonymous in Texas

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Hateful, Terrorizing Neighbors!

By anonymous <> Posted on 24.10.2008 Link to this story: [0038]

To respond to this `tale` refer to tale No. 0038, and send comment to alexm60@fastmail.fm ----- I have been married to my husband for more than 8 years now, and had two children with him as well. He is my soulmate, my best friend, and so much more. When I met him, he was ashamed of his label society had given him. He even tried to hide it from me, which I totally understand why. He had been rejected, ridiculed, hurt, threatened and mistreated over something he did when he was 19 years old. He didn't rape anyone, or molest anyone. He touched the clothed breast of his 14 yr old female partner, and as many teen boys have made this mistake .. he failed to verify her age, being mislead to believe she was of consenting age. Nothing beyond that point ever took place, because he had thought to ask her age then, but it was too late as he had already touched her in a sexual manner. When he sent her home, refusing to go further sexually - she was hurt and angry. From then on he was to be a "low risk sex offender" via "indecency with a child by contact" for the REST OF HIS LIFE! We have since had to pull our children from school, and home school them, and been forced into living in an RV because we have to move away from hateful, terrorizing neighbors and communities simply because they see his name on a public list and out come the pitch forks and torches. We fear not only for our lives but our children's lives, because all it takes is one vigilante to bring about their own form of `justice` and murder us all in the name of "good deed done". How much further will society go with the public humiliation and degradation? I fear to find out. However, I will never turn my back on my husband. He's not a `sex offender` in my eyes, his mother's eyes, or my children's eyes. And WE are the ones exposed to him daily. So if we say he's safe, who are society and the legal system to say any differently?

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The `Falsely Accused`: Does anyone care?

By anonymous <mineonly54@aol.com> Posted on 14.10.2008 Link to this story: [0037]

RSOL does not certify that accusations are false, but in the current system, the accused is never heard, only the `victim` or her family. There have been many proven `false accusations,` so we will err on the side of letting the `sex offender` and his family tell their side of the story! Respond to this with reference to Tale No. 0037, and send to the above email address with a copy to alexm60@fastmail.fm ------ WILL SOMEBODY HELP, WILL ANYONE LISTEN, DOES ANYONE CARE???? In the eyes of the law, my son is a registered sex offender in Illinois. This is the furthest thing from the truth, a truth nobody has wanted to hear. Paul at the age of 18 was very close to his 2nd cousin, a girl who was 12. Paul is ADHD and learning disabled (All documented; report dated just weeks before his arrest show his comprehension level at the 4th grade, 7th month. This was an evaluation for special education paid for by the state to determine goals for life after high school). The cousins were together everyday due to her mom being a caregiver for my mother. On Memorial weekend, 2003, the girl`s family went on a camping trip which included Paul. Her Mom noticed them sitting close and wanted to know what was going on between the two of them. Both children denied anything was going on and yet she insisted that the children were lying. Upon returning home from camping on Sunday, the girl`s mother grounded her to her room, with no books, TV or games. She was not allowed out of the room except to use the bathroom until she told the “truth”. Regardless of what either child said, her mother refused to let her out of her room until the truth was told. Her mom went so far as to take her to the emergency room on Tuesday to see if she had been having sex. Finally on Thursday the girl told her Mom that Paul had touched her and was allowed out of her room for telling the “truth”. She couldn’t say exactly when this happened, only that it happened twice; once in February and once in March at my house. I know for a fact that it couldn’t have happened in March, because she was grounded the entire month for hooking up with a 23 year old on the internet, lying about her age, saying she was 18 and having him call my house so that they could set up a location to meet. The girl’s parents went to the police to file a complaint and until Paul’s arrest, she continually called him and told him to just tell the police he did it and everything would be over with. On Sunday, June 15th, Paul was stopped by the neighborhood police while driving one of his other cousins home. My husband and I were at the police station within minutes of the police bringing him there. They refused to let me see him since he was 18. I knew because of his low comprehension that he would not understand what was going on. Paul was kept there, booked and arraigned the next morning because he “confessed”. He told the police “Whatever she said I did, I did”. After Paul was arraigned and we brought him home we talked at great length about what happened. When I asked him why he didn’t ask for a lawyer when the police asked him he told me that he was never asked if he wanted an attorney. I told Paul that they had to have asked him and he said “no, they didn’t”! I said, Paul, did they say “you have the right to remain silent, you have the right to an attorney” and he said “yes”. I pointed out to him that that was the way of them asking if he wanted an attorney. He started to sob and told me he didn’t know that’s what it meant. He also told me that the police officer told him to just say he did it and he’d be out of there and home in to time at all. I know my son did not understand what was happening; even the police knew he had a disability. The very first thing on the police report is that Paul is ADHD. Someone should have intervened and explained to him. Upon reading Paul’s “confession” I knew that a large part of it had been dictated to him. As the months went by and we went back and forth to court, nobody wanted to listen or hear the truth. No matter the motions our lawyer filed, nobody wanted to listen. At one point, the girl`s mother (related through my sister, the grandmother) that if we gave them $2500 they would see what they could do about dropping the charges. This was brought to the attention of the state’s attorney and again nobody cared. This was all for money. Paul at this time was 5’ 2” and weighed 105. We knew we risked prison time for him if we went to trial and lost because of his “confession”; so when the state’s attorney offered a plea bargain in June of 2004 of 2 years probation we took it knowing he would never survive in prison being as small is he was, having low comprehension, and the maturity of a 12 year old. God, I am so sorry that we didn’t fight then. For 3-1/2 years we have been in a nightmare and it has now come to a head. Paul has had much difficulty in gaining employment, not only because of his “sex offender” status, but due to his disabilities. He finally gained employment, delivering pizzas and he was the happiest I had seen him since this nightmare started. When his boss found out he was an offender and couldn’t deliver to schools he was fired from his job and has not been able to gain employment since. I am now watching my son slowly die emotionally because of this label. He is appalled that this label has been put on him, knowing he would never touch or hurt anyone in his life and that nobody wants to hear the truth. He’s been accused of “touching” this girl, and to think that he is now labeled with others who have viscously attacked children. I, and my family have lost ALL faith in our system. Where is justice? When this all started I had faith and believed in our system, that the truth would prevail, that others would see he didn’t understand when he “confessed” because the girl and the police told him to just admit he did it. Now I see that it’s actor against actor, state’s attorney against defense lawyer; the best actor wins. Is there anyone out there who cares enough to help bring justice to this young man? Does anyone care enough to help fight a wrong? If so please email me at mineonly54@aol.com with the subject heading of Paul.

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Not Just a Soap Opera

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.10.2008 Link to this story: [0036]

Please refer comments to tale no. 0036. ------- My brother was falsely accused and convicted of molesting his two oldest daughters. This all happened after he remarried, and his ex-wife called my mother and said if I can't have him no one will. You wouldn't think this kind of thing actually goes on, only in Soap Operas. Anyway she got their two oldest teenage daughters to testify against him. He was convicted and spent 20 years in prison for something he didn't do. He wouldn't admit he was guilty, so they wouldn't let him out on parole. He maxed out, but now has to register. This is so not fair, after putting 20 years in for something he didn't do, to have to have the rest of his life ruined.

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Beware of Plea `Bargains`!

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 10.10.2008 Link to this story: [0035]

Once again, we urge `sex offenders` to beware of false plea `bargains.` Comments to this tale should be reference to Tale No. 35, and sent to me, alexm60@fastmail.fm NOTE: This has been edited to protect the identity of the person, but if you comment, we will send your comments to him. ------------------------- I am a former (teacher) who was recently convicted of indecent liberties with a minor (17 years old, just months from turning 18). My wife and I took this young woman into our home during her senior year at the school where I taught after she was kicked out of her older sister`s home. My wife and I were unaware the reason she was kicked out was because she was having sex with her 38 year old brother in law. Unfortunately, I made a very poor choice. Thankfully we never had sex. I am now classifed as a violent sex offender for having a consentual relationship (though not actual sex) with this girl. She didn't even want charges brought but because I was a teacher, the state pressed the case. I recieved very biased media coverage(many lies) and was strong-armed into taking a plea deal of 6 months out of fear of getting 5 years from a jury trial. Before this, I knew nothing of the unfairness of the sex offender laws and the sex offender registry. I CAN NOT BELIEVE I HAVE TO REGISTER FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE FOR WHAT HAPPEND BETWEEN US. If I had know about the lifetime registry, I might have taken my chances with a trial. I have many supportive friends and family in the area and my church, who because of my case are interested in seeing these unfair laws reformed.

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Victory for David in Tennessee!

By Dave Dyess <time4change08@yahoo.com> Posted on 07.10.2008 Link to this story: [0034]

Comments about this tale should reference tale No. 0034, and be sent to Dave directly. Congratulations, David (first received Sept. 30, 2008) ----- I just wanted to send you a quick note to thank you for all of your prayers, support, encouragement, and above all else your friendship. It worked !!!!!! As of yesterday, I am officially removed from the TN Sex Offender Registry and no longer under any registration requirements. The feeling of the weight of the registry being lifted off of my shoulders after twenty three years is undescribable but it has given me a new determination to fight for the rights of all registrants so that all of them and their families affected by these laws can one day feel the same overwhelming joy that I am feeling right now. I am still unfortunately listed on the Florida registry which in turn lists me on the National registry but that is a battle for another time and place. For right now I will settle for our TN victory and focus on changing the laws for everyones benefit. Thanks again for your friendship and support. Your friend in the battle. David -------

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The horrors of prison for `sex offenders`

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 07.10.2008 Link to this story: [0033]

Send comments about this with reference to tale no. 0033. Please remember, tales and blogs posted are NOT the views of RSOL or its admin team, and the truth of these cannot be validated. We obviously try to post those we have most confidence are not untrue, or from a hostile source. We try to post a wide variety of experiences of persons accused, awaiting trial, in prison and on the registry. Please respond to alexm60@fastmail.fm ----------------- HORROR STORY OF `SEX OFFENDERS` IN PRISON This is from an inmate from a young man in the SW, whose crime was that he was found guilty of consenusal sex with a 16 year old waitress he met as a truck driver on the road: This is what has happened to me in prison since I turned myself in in 1995 because they were looking for me. I spent 18 months in jail because of the press and TV coverage. I was taken to court and given l6 years with 5 years probation. From 1995 until now I have been attacked four times that are on record. There was one other time. One time I was attacked by a sergeant and 2 officers. They left no marks on my body but I had 2 broken ribs. Medical reports said I fell against a wall. I was put in isolation for 2 years. In 1999 I finally made it to prison from jail and put into the population. When some of the inmates found out my charges, I was attacked the first time. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days. I had broken ribs and all of my teeth knocked out. In 2002 i was in a sex offender unit. I got into 2 fights, In 2003 I was put into the hospital again. I had been pushed down a flight of stairs that had 48 steel steps. I had to be put into a wheel chair. I was attacked again in 2005 and I was locked down because I could barely walk. Now I have to walk with a cane. I have had one heart attack in the prison. These are some of the things that have happened in prison. There are others I don't want to talk about. I hope this can help someone.

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Sex Chat Room Sting

By anonymous <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 28.09.2008 Link to this story: [0032]

To respond to this Tale, refer to Tale entry #0032 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm ---------------------------- I am seeking justice for my boyfriend who has been severly punished and has his life ruined because the Federal government said he intended to harm a child. There was no child. He was contacted by a Federal agent in a sex chat room and enticed to meet (just across a state line in another state). He is serving 11 years as a sex offender even though he never talked to, touched or harmed a child. He conversed with an adult who wanted to meet him. And he has lost everything just because he talked in a sex chat room and went to meet what he thought was a consenting adult

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More than a quarter of a century

By anonymous <> Posted on 21.09.2008 Link to this story: [0031]

To comment about this tale, refer to tale 0031, and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm --------------- 26 YEARS AGO IN THE STATE OF WI I WAS CONVICTED OF A SEX OFFENSE. There were no such convictions prior to my offense or since. What this newly required sex offense-registration rule has done to myself, my family & friends can only be classified as devastating!!Never in my 74 yrs have I seen such destruction towards a human being from soceity & law enforcement because of this registration law. The sentence goes on & on & on daily. No way, in "GOD'S" world should such extended punishment for a 1st offender be allowed to happen! I am NOT pedophile nor am I a threat to society! I merely lost my sense of reasoning 26 yrs ago.

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The Harassed Life of the Solitary Parolee

By anonymous <> Posted on 19.09.2008 Link to this story: [0030]

This "tale" comes from the US Southwest, from an RSOL affiliated state contact who does excellent support work. To comment, refer to "tale" No. 0030 and send to alexm60@fastmail.fm ---------------- I had a call at 11:00 last night from a scared parolee. Let me tell you about "Renaldo". He was arrested at about the age of 16 for sexually abusing a six-year-old. He spent 10 years in prison where I visited him. He had become a model prisoner, has commendations for leading anger management groups. He was released June 23rd and began the solitary role of released sex offender. He lives alone, works for his dad, who cannot visit him after 6PM. This was recently changed to a 7:00 curfew. He has to attend sex offender meetings for an hour and a half once a week, a two hour bus trip from his home. He wears an ankle bracelet and can be monitored or called any time. He is not to be in the presence of minors, even his own godchildren. He has no computer, no health benefits, but if sick is told to get a note from his doctor. However he has no doctor. He works for his father all day but can't live with him since the father had a conviction 30 years ago. He would like to go to school but knows he would have to tell everyone his charges. Last evening he went to a fishing area of town with an adult friend and they were 6 minutes late arriving home due to traffic. He called his parole officer immediately upon arriving and was told to be at the office at 8:00 this morning. This usually means being arrested. I told him to call me this morning. He just did and said he was given a lecture and told not to let it happen again. So goes the harassing life of the solitary parolee.

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´Victims´ & ´Abusers´ Need Compassion

By anonymous <> Posted on 12.09.2008 Link to this story: [0029]

This person did not send even an email, but his story cries out to be heard. To comment, refer to Tale Entry 0029, and email to alexm60@fastmail.fm -------- I was a fortunate one in the SO Treatment program. Although I probably would have "failed" the treatment had I stayed in one particular program, I "passed" in another town. I would not state, "I am a child molester." It was a horrible act I committed in my past that I will never be able to forgive myself for, but it does NOT define who I am. After five years of Group Therapy, I really believe there will be 'no more victims'. I'm now in therapy dealing with PTSD caused by my being raped and molested as a child. It is so sad that 'victims' who have created more 'victims' are only branded and cast out to live the Hell of loneliness, abandonment, fear and mistrust they have been in all their lives. Not everyone, but some of us, have been screaming out all our lives to be heard, noticed, loved, cared for. Unfortunately, with the warped thinking (that goes along with current ¨sex offender¨ laws), we have not been able to ask for what we need till now. Hopefully, 'now' is not too late for us.... Society can do a LOT to stop the victimization by LISTENING, being COMPASSIONATE, and understanding. We're not asking to babysit! We're asking that people realize when others hurt, with never having the opportuntiy to heal, they can hurt others. Stop the hurting and the hurting can stop.

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Be careful going nude at home!

By anonymous <> Posted on 06.09.2008 Link to this story: [0028]

To comment on this tale, please refer to Tale #0028, and send the comment to alexm60@fastmail.fm ---------------------------------------------- I was living and working in Las Vegas, I had a night time job working as an engineer. My wife and I had a nice home with a large 6' solid walled in back yard, which was common for the neighborhood since the back end of all the properties bordered a large wash. I would work in the hot shop all night and get off at 8:00 AM, then head for home and a good cool shower. During the summer months it was not unusual for me to come out of the shower and remain in the buff around the house for some time after. The morning the entire problem started I had finished my shower and my wife was preparing my breakfast, so I filled a dog dish with food, and took it onto my back yard patio for my Doberman which stayed in the yard. That morning, I looked up and saw two little girls standing on the wall of my neighboring back yard, where they could easily see over the wall into my yard. I went back inside my house and thought nothing more of it, but went to bed for my days rest. The afternoon of the following day I was awakened from my sleep by Police Officers who had come to arrest me. It was at this time that I found out what had transpired. One of the little girls had been telling the other kids in school what she had seen, and then one of her teachers heard about it and called the Police. The Police not only interviewed the girl, they led her with suggestive questions. I was to learn later that the little girl I will call (X) had a very poor home life, her mother was a known alcoholic and drug addict living with a boy friend, and had little or no time for her. Thus with all of the attention (X) found herself an 8 year old star of the show, and queen for a day, more than ready and willing to please her attentive audience. Now for the other girl that was with (X) on the wall, I will call her (Y) The Police questioned her also, but she told a wholly different, and true account of what happened. So now they had to create a whole new time line to make their charges fit. So the encounter was now to have taken place 2 or 3 weeks before the arrest. It should be noted here that (Y) turned out to be the child of illegal aliens from Mexico, and when all of the Police questioning started, she and her parents vanished off the face of the earth. Next for a little lesson in factual law, in the State of Nevada you or your Attorney do not have any right to question your accuser when they are a minor. The parents can testify as to anything they claim the minor has said to them, and it is admissible by Nevada law. So much for your right to confront your accuser in a Court of law, and hearsay evidence. I guess that most of you have guessed by now where the alcoholic drug addict mother is coming from, with her it is all about a lifetime of support for her habits when the law suits are settled. Almost any adult with any past experience with children, could have spent five minutes with (X) and brought out the entire truth. But it became evident during the hearings that everyone from the prosecuting attorney, right on down to the councilors, were doing their best to guard against this ever taking place. Now I will cover a little of the evidence, both (X) & (Y) were taken to the Hospital the same day from their school to be examined, neither showed any sign of sexual activity. So (X) mother suggest that (X) was assaulted digitly by anal penetration since the test then could not prove otherwise. I was promised by the County attorney that if I could pass a polygraph test, they would dismiss the charges, however after I was given the polygraph test and passed with no problem, when it did not turn out as they had hoped for, then they simply proclaimed it would be inadmissable in Court. So next they had me tested by a Court appointed psychiatrist, who’s report stated that it was his opinion that I had never committed any such act, and that I did not fit the profile. In the end my bank account being drained by a huge bail bond, and attorney fees over a years time, I was without funds to go any further. So my private Attorney dropped my case and left me with a ¨Public Pretender¨, my wife disposed of what little we had left to save our credit, and protect us against being sued. Now my Public Pretender, let me know that under the Nevada laws, if we went to trial we could not question (X) and (X) could say whatever she wanted without any cross-examination. And that (X) mother could take the stand and testify as to anything (X) supposedly said in her presence. The public pretender made it very clear that we had no chance of winning if we went to trial, and that if I lost I would be facing the possibility of two 20 years to life sentences. Or, I could take an Alford Plea, which says that I am not admitting any guilt to the charges, but am unable to defend myself against them. With this I got 3-5 years in 1996 for doing no more than stepping nude into by back yard. This is the American criminal justice system, and how the long arm of the law feeds itself. Now since I would not admit to any guilt in my case, I was made to complete my total sentence without parole. As soon as I was released from prison, I came to the State of Utah where I have lived nine years trouble free, then one afternoon a year ago a woman Sheriffs Deputy came to my house and arrested me for failure to register. I am now facing a mandatory felony charge of ninety days, and up to five more years in the Utah State prison for failing to register. I have since discovered that the Nevada Department of Public Safety Board of Pardons and Paroles/Probation, has classified me as a lever three offender. Requiring me to register for life, furthermore, in the State of Utah, out-of-state offenders are required to comply with all of the SO laws of both States. Thus every six months I am required to renew my drivers license, and re-register with the local Sheriffs Office, all of this at a cost of $135.00 each time. As an ordained minister I should not have to mention what this has done to my ministry. It could no longer be considered to be existent.

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Help needed in Georgia!

By anonymous <> Posted on 04.09.2008 Link to this story: [0027]

If you want to respond to this ¨tale¨ please refer to 0027 and send the email to me at alexm60@fastmail.fm. My fiance is a sex offender. I have known him for a year and we are now engaged. We have just attempted to move in together in a small town in Georgia. The location was approved and he cut ties to move here with me. We took the paper work from his former probation officer to the new one and were told that the location was not approved after all. He had no where to go back to and no place to call home. It is like a witch hunt here right now-- the school bus drivers are on the look out for him and all the neighbors are calling my landlord. His name is on the new lease, but today the landlords told us they don't want him back here on the property. I have looked everywhere that I can think of for a support group for family members of sex offenders but there seem to be none. What a need there is! We are really going through some things here and we could use someone to talk to about it. I know if you or someone could help us, we will be willing to help someone else in the future. Let me know what I can do to help with the reform and who might help us through this. thanks in advance.

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Another False Plea Bargain Goes Bad

By anonymous <> Posted on 25.08.2008 Link to this story: [0026]

Here is yet another story about an ill-informed plea bargain. To comment, refer to Tales 0026, to alexm60@fastmail.fm ------------------ Who is the real Victim here? To all that care, In 1992 The (state)Department of Law Enforcement, The US Postal Service as well as the (local) County Sheriff's Office and the (local) Police Department raided my home and took posession of 3 video tapes that were hand delivered to me 20 minutes earlier that morning. They claimed in a search warrant that I was a child pornographer. They threatened me with a 10 year sentence in prison if I didn't talk. They handcuffed me (and took me) to jail, immediately dropped the Disributor and Videographer warrants and held me for Possession of Materials depicting the Performance of a Minor with a bail of $1000.00. My high profile Attorney called it the worst case of Entrapment in the State's history, he talked me out of a Jury Trial, had me plea no contest and Adjudication was Withheld without Guilt. Conviction without Guilt, 8 years supervised Probabtion, Therapy and no nudity... YES, No Nudity! So in 1996, I was required to Register for Life. I still don't know what the heck were on those tapes! I had ordered Videos from a well known adult catalog of legal materials. ....I have been publicly scorned, thrown out of public places, threats of violence against me, loss of emplyment, my local PD comes over and checks me out and if I'm not home, they call me... I'm in total compliance with all registrations and they have pics of my house, car and me on different LEA Websites. And for what? 3 videos. Manufactured videos, to boot, mailed to me. I just got turned down for Expungement as the wording, "Performance of a Minor or Child," denies me any hope. I'm searching for a good Civil Rights, Expungement or Sex Offender Lawyer. I have been in release since 2001, I have no prior or current record other than this. I have written letters to everyone about my loss of friends, loss of employment and the fact that the term Sex Offender has taken over my life. My career as a Filmmaker is basically over. (Thats how (the authorities) got the idea to pursue Child Pornographer charges) I have a big Documentary Film on the Festival circuits right now, but when anyone types my name into a search engine, my Sex Offender flyer comes up first, in between all my accomplishments. I need help badly, legal and otherwise. I have to ask, Who really is the Victim here

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¨Sex Offender´s¨ ordeal goes on and on

By anonymous <> Posted on 24.08.2008 Link to this story: [0025]

One more story from ¨down south¨ of the horror that just keeps on going, long after a young man comes out of prison, and as he tries to obey the rules, but can´t find housing! To respond, refer to Tale Entry 0025 and reply to me, alexm60@fastmail.fm. ----------------- In the year 2000, while my son was living with a friend of his, the friend went to a local mall and brought home 2 girls who said their ages were 18. My son did not have intercourse with the girl and both of the girls spent the night with my son and his friend. The men did not have anything else to do with the girls, who got upset and told their parents, who filed charges in May 2001. While awaiting to go before the judge for a plea agreement, they processed my son for a 2nd Child Molestation charges. My son lived with a girl and her mother earlier. The mother knew of the relationship and my son knew that she was 13 yrs old (my son was 19 yrs old). Long after the relationship ended, she wound up pregnant (not by my son). The father, who was not at home, inquired who all she had been with and she named everyone. (Point: the father of the baby is also an adult) The prosecuting attorney had the hearing continued, so that the pregnant minor/victim did not appear in front of the judge until after she gave birth. My son is now considered a sex predator, after spending time in prison. He did the time and was out on probation, and his PO harrassed him continually and visited him at this residence weekly, but in his file he had an incorrect address and they revoked his probation for failure to maintain a residence. He was found guilty and he appealed. The Appellate Court ruled in his favor and he was released. They picked him up 2 months later and again revoked his probation due to the fact that he could not find housing. Now they tell him, he has to have a verifiable address before he is released, or he will not be released. How in the world can they continue to incarcerate a person after the person has served his sentence??? I feel that they need to take a step back and really look at what is a child molester, and what about young girls who lie about their age to be with the older boys. And where were the parents of these two 13 yr old girls? What type of parent takes their children and drops them off at the mall for the day to hang out? Perhaps the parents need to protect them a lot more!

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Another Plea, Not a Bargain!

By anonymous <> Posted on 20.08.2008 Link to this story: [0024]

Still more evidence that plea bargaining is not all it´s cracked up to be! It IS possible to change such a plea ¨bargain¨ and to challenge a sentence, but it´s usually more difficult than simply going to trial and challenging the case in the first place. Contact alex marbury (alexm60@fastmail.fm) to comment, and refer to Tale Entry 0024. ----------------------------------------------------- A young family member was recently given what he and his family believe was a very harsh sentence. His attorney advised him to plead guilty in a sex offender case. He allegedly used the internet to view child pornography and he allegedly had in his possession CDs with child pornography. To my knowledge he never tried to approach in person any minor or had any personal relationship with a minor. After his plea he had to wait under house arrest almost one year to be sentenced. Even though he never committed a prior crime and he never had personal contact of any kind with a minor, he was given a 78-month sentence. But, after he completes his sentence he has to be under supervision for a number of years and he will have so many restrictions that it is hard to imagine once he comes out how he can possibly have a normal life. He made a terrible mistake. We all understand this, but his punishment seems too extreme. Could you kindly let us know if even though he pleaded guilty and gave up his right to appeal (in exchange for a lighter sentence according to his attorney) can he do something to lessen his sentence? Does he have any recourse? Can he take any action? We truly believe the judge was unjust and biased.

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Woman teacher unjustly accused

By anonymous <> Posted on 15.08.2008 Link to this story: [0023]

The woman sending this in is from the midwest. Yes, there ARE women ¨sex offenders,¨ including those falsely accused. Please note her MAJOR MISTAKE in not having legal counsel from the start!Also, in her case, a plea was also a major mistake! Respond with comments to alex marbury, alexm60@fastmail.fm. Be sure to refer specifically to the subject heading of this tale. --------------------- I was a Special Education teacher for about 23 years, teaching all kinds of students from Mentally Challenged to Learning Disabled. I was (I think) well respected because I related to my students and treated them like people. Yes, I even gave hugs to both guys and gals!!! I was accused and convicted of touching a 16 year old male special education student and flashing my breasts, supposedly in the downstairs locker room area where they have cameras. When asked on what date(s) this happened, the police said victims don't have to provide specific dates. When asked about what the video cameras showed, they told me they weren't working. When brought to the police station, I didn't ask for a lawyer because I didn't believe anything would come out of it. I was arrested for 2nd degree child molestation, forced to resign my job and was a WRECK for 4 months. I had serious thoughts of suicide but because I had a daughter and husband, did not follow thru. My lawyer told me the prosecuting attorney would charge me with a felony if I went to trial because it would "disrupt" the victim's schooling and sports. I believe now it was because the victim would have refused to testify. My lawyer said to plead guilty to child molestation(a misdemeanor). I did believing he was telling me the right thing to do, not knowing what that meant in my state .......LIFETIME REGISTRATION. I was on probation of 2 yrs, went to work at commercial sales, was a model worker (the highest commission seller in my department)and a model citizen. A local newspaper decided to do a story on where sex offenders work. Guess where they got their info? You got it....the Sex Offender Registry. When hired, employees were not given a Background Check. But after newspaper called and ALERTED them, they suspended me and two other good workers who were also sex offenders. We were then FIRED because we failed to pass the Background Check. I have really been struggling to find a decent job, one that doesn't demand a background check. I have been collecting food stamps,unemployment, and go to the food bank. The stress has been so bad that even though my husband supported me through it all, we have divorced after 27 yrs. of marriage. I am looking into moving to a state that does not have LIFETIME REGISTRATION.Can anybody give me info on that? I would like a warm climate. God Bless those who are supporting us!!!!

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¨Scalps¨ collected by political ¨predators.¨

By anonymous <> Posted on 14.08.2008 Link to this story: [0022]

A very painful account from a mother who is outraged! Send comments to me, alex marbury, alexm60@fastmail.fm As a freshman away at college, my son of 19 was arrested by a cybernet sting conducted by the State Attorney General's office together with the County Sheriff (now serving a prison term - on a different matter, alex. note). After participating in Yahoo Teen Chat (no longer supported by Yahoo due to abuse by law enforcement officials) my son was contacted days later by one of the AG's task force who misrepresented themselves as a 14 year old girl. The initial transcripts provided by Yahoo and filed with the court confirmed that the AG's office had initiated contact, but after this "error" was discovered, a "corrected" transcript was provided and accepted by the court. Entrapment by law enforcement officers is legally nearly impossible to prove, so my son accepted a plea bargain and was given five years probation for an offense against a fictitious girl conjured up by law enforcement officials who initiated internet contact with my son and entrapped him into meeting during which he was arrested at gunpoint and thrown down on the pavement. My son's photo was aired on local television stations Immediately the State AG proudly displayed his photo and personal information as an arrested predator. Here is yet another political "scalp" for an ambitious political predator who recently appeared on Bill O' Reilly's "The Factor". THIS IS JUSTICE AND THE AMERICAN WAY?

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"On Registry For fooling around at Twenty in 1985

By anonymous <> Posted on 11.08.2008 Link to this story: [0021]

One more similar comment - this from New Hampshire. I was 20 in 1985. Met a girl at a party and we fooled around. No sex! Turns out she was under age. Spent time in the county jail. Ten years later I was married with 2 kids. Was forced onto Sex offender registry in NH. In 07 I was put on the public web page, 23 years after the fact. I never went looking for a young girl. Now at age 43 I am considered an offender against children and a threat to children. My life is falling apart. I am fighting, but what law makers are listening? While they do there things (john edwards, clinton, on and on) and pass judgment on me/us.

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¨Sex offender¨ abused in prison

By anonymous <> Posted on 08.08.2008 Link to this story: [0020]

Also from New Mexico: We have a man in the penitentiary of Santa Fe who has been pushed down a flight of stairs(in the prison), walks with a cane, has no family and wonders what on earth will happen to him when he is released about a year from now. I think the treatment he has gotten is deplorable

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Everybody harmed - ¨victim,¨ ¨offender,¨parent.

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.08.2008 Link to this story: [0019]

ONE OF THE WORST TALES FROM THE REGISTRY A foster parent and long time teacher in New Jersey tells a horrific story of abuse by those who supposedly protect children - and of the harm caused to all the children involved, as well as to the foster parents. IF YOU WANT TO RESPOND TO THIS WOMAN, PLEASE EMAIL ME, ALEX MARBURY --------------------------- I have been an elementary teacher for 33 years. I am a foster and adoptive parent including one who was a victim, one who is a convicted offender, and one who is facing charges The day before Mother\'s Day, 2004, my 6-year-old foster child told us that another foster child in the house had just "humped" him. He told us matter-of-factly, not distressed in the least. He had been bribed and allowed to play the older boy's video games while the incident took place. The offender was an extremely immature 18-year-old whose birth father had been incarcerated for sexually abusing another son. It was a delemma deciding what to do. It being a Saturday, I could not contact my (youth services) caseworker. I wasn't sure what truth lay in the claim since that child was not always truthful. Also I knew that any decision I made could have a lasting impact on both children involved. By the next day, however, after prodding the child more, I decided not to wait until Monday and instead called a youth services hotline. The conversation was contentious. The hotline worker seemed insensitive to the family delemma and spent more time quizzing me as to why I had waited a day to call. I found out only much later that that worker filed a neglect claim against me. The investigative unit substantiated the claim, using such bogus reasoning that I had left the children unsupervised (because I was in the yard putting up a swing set while they were in the house). In their brief they said I should have been more watchful of the older child because of his sexual abuse history, misleading the court and my lawyer into thinking that his history was as a perpertator rather than a possible victim. I believed they pursued me because the claim was instigated by the youth worker. My own caseworkers remained supportive, defying a recommendation that my house be closed and obtaining a waiver so that I could adopt the 3 foster children who remained with me, including the victim. The finding of neglect (which would have cost me my job as a teacher) was later reversed on appeal, though I had to surrender my foster parenting license. Just recently that prevented me from caring for children of another former foster child. As for the offender - that same day - Mother's Day - the police came to the house, interviewed him (I told him to just tell the truth), and arrested him. He has been incarcerated from that day to the present, now half-way through a 10-year sentence! Youth services, for all their claim of mission to protect their children, provide no legal assistance for children in trouble. Now another one of my former foster children is being prosecuted for an incident that may have occurred when he was 15. It is based on a claim by a female friend of the family who was 11 or 12 at the time of the incident. He has been depressed lately as he sees his life unraveling. He was to begin college in September, but now thinks he may lose his federal grant. He thinks most professions are now closed to him, including the ones he wanted to pursue. He worries he will lose his job as a security guard. He does not know how he will pay me back money he borrowed for his lawyer. Today I went on line with what I thought was an improbable task of trying to find a support group for sex offenders. I was surprised to find a site which gave voice to so many of my complaints. Thanks.

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A mother´s cry - this is so foreign to us!

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 08.08.2008 Link to this story: [0018]

This letter was written from one mother to another about her son´s agony. The pain is so great for so many people! (Alex) ---------------------------------- There are days when I don't even know where to start with all of this, then there are others where I seem to find a good deal of information. Many sex offenders must take a test in our stat called a plesmograph, (which is supposed to measure sexual arousal to stimulae, when attached to a penis). My young son and the others here face the possibility of having to take his test at any time, along with polygraphs. The results of a plesmograph are useless as researchers have found that many "normal" people would react physically when viewing erotic material as well, so what is the point? My son pled on in April, and though he is required to attend "sex offender classes" and pay $35 for them once a week, there have been no treatment providers. The ones they had before, both quit because of the way these guys are treated. So, instead, they give them a fill-in-the-blank form -- and my apologies here -- "How many times did you masturbate this week?" "How may deviant sexual fantasies have you had? Explain." The form is handed to the probation officer, and that's the extent of the class. My first reaction when I accidentally happened upon my son´s form was that (this process is just) forcing them to think about this all the time! Initially, when my son left some of these blank, they threatenedto send him to prison because he's "in denial." ! One of the others pulled him aside after class and told him he'd better start making something up to appease the powers that be. So, if one is working on concocting a story about a deviant sexual fantasy, I suppose that's closely akin to actually having one. It's all absurd.... I do know of another man here -- 29 years old or so -- who had a consensual relationship, no intercourse, when he was 15 and the girl was 13. He became a juvenile offender and had to drop out of high school in order to get a job and pay for the sex offender classes. For some reason, and I believe this was a legal error, when he became an adult, the charge was reclassified as an adult offense, and though he attended sex offender classes here for five years, he never received a certificate of completion. He is fighting to be able to see his daughter, who is now 8 or 9, I believe, but he cannot. So if we do the math, $35/week x 52 weeks x5 years = $9100, give or take, all for naught. When I spoke to the the probation officer, I was discouraged about finding my son a living situation, so I'm stumped right now. (Note -prisoners must find a living situation that is approved before they can get out, even when they are entitled to, based on their sentence - and of course, sex offenders have a very hard time finding housing anyway.) We'll see what we can figure out. He's certainly floundering here, and I still don't believe he'll ever make it through the five years still ahead of him, if he doesn't get out somehow. I really don't think he'll make it one year. You see these guys in and out of jail constantly until, finally, they send them on to prison. That's another thing that irks me -- when someone is arrested here -- not convicted, just arrested, innocent until proven guilty -- their picture, DOB, and all their charges are online on a jail roster for all to see. My son was in for six months with 16 charges sitting there, the most horrible one can get aside from murder, and though he pled only to two class C felonies and did that even after passing the polygraphs just so he could come home, some people who saw him online now harass him. He actually got "jumped," I guess I'll say, outside a friend's house last night, but was able to hold his own and get away. The guys actually told him they were going to rape him! I would consider my family to be upstanding in this community, at least middle class, maybe a bit on the upper side, with a good reputation and family history here dating back to the early 1900s. I don't think my son´s ever been in a fight before. This kind of thing is so foreign and frightening to all of us

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Counsellors make life miserable for so´s

By Anonymous in Illinois <> Posted on 05.08.2008 Link to this story: [0017]

I do not see the need for a website so that the 'public' knows where a sex offender lives. Why? Do we know where murderers and burglars live? No, we don't. My best friend has been paroled to me and it's been no picnic. He has been verbally abused by his one agent who constantly called him 'Jerry' for 'Jerry's kids'. They are set up to fail once released as (the state) wants them all locked up. My friend can't even talk to his children because they are minors. It's ridiculous. I would imagine family support would be helpful, not harmful. And what the state calls counseling? They should be ashamed of themselves. They're not here to help anyone. Their goal is to make life absolutely miserable in the hopes that you will re-offend.

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20 year old faces vicious cyle-no housing, no school

By Anonymous <> Posted on 02.08.2008 Link to this story: [0016]

This sad, but not unusual, story comes from the Western US. It seems to us that ¨plea bargains¨ are often the problem, but so are ¨mandatory sentences,¨ which take all discretion out of the hands of the judges. Alex ------------------ my 20-year-old son sat in jail for six months with 39 charges pending initially, then dropped almost immediately to 16 and stayed posted online, with his picture, for the entire six months, enough time for the entire community to see it and for some ignorant people to speculate about what a "horrible sex offender" he must be. Of course, his circumstances were ridiculous, and passing polygraphs -- more than one -- and providing all sorts of irrefutible evidence supporting his innocence was of little or no help aside from the fact that his 39/16 charges ended up as 2 C felonies (because these were two friends who thought this was "fun," and that they "make a good team." ) They offered absolutely no evidence except for the allegation. They could not get times, dates, circumstances or anything right -- the police reports and discovery were a mess on their side, so much so that when I read all 300+ pages of discovery, I was excited, because anyone with half a brain could see right through what this was. But, the attorney, probably rightly so, advised my son to take the offered five-year probationary plea in order to avoid our state´s HORRIBLE mandatory sentencing should something have gone awry at trial. He's now a felon who has to register, no end in sight. He's attempting to transfer probation to another county so he can go to school. Though he´s registered at school (they haven't asked about criminal history but the PO will likely visit the dean), we're struggling with finding housing. He must have housing in place and either a job or be enrolled in school BEFORE the PO here will begin the transfer process, which takes 45 days, hardly enough time before school starts the third week in September. He must get out of this small town. His PO just recently set an 8:00 p.m. curfew and told him the two friends he was hanging out with are now off limits because they associate with girls not yet 18. Seems like they're trying their best to trap him.

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So many harsh conditions for a fine young man

By anonymous <> Posted on 19.07.2008 Link to this story: [0015]

From an RSOL participant..... My son is now released during the week, but has to go to jail from Friday's at 6:00 p.m. to Monday's at 6:00 a.m. He was put on high risk because of not living with a girl for two years or longer and his age. He had just turned 23. He was also charged with two counts, because of being honest and telling every where he touched her and every aspect of their encounter. He cannot be around any family members or anyone else´s children under the age of 18. He is having to sell his home, that he worked so hard for because it is too close to a school. He did not get any time taken off his sentence for the 100 days he spent in jail and I have never heard of that, but I was told that (our) county does not take time served off before trial date. Some of the young men are being held for six months in (this) County before they are even being charged. They have six months to charge them and these politicians are taking advantage of that! He has to do one year of weekends and he pays $574.00 in fines and fees not including any polygraph test or alcohol or drug test on him, which he must also pay for. He also has three to five meetings a week he is required to attend.....

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Disfigured Youth Persecuted

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 14.07.2008 Link to this story: [0014]

YOUTH WITH DISFIGURED FACE UNFAIRLY TREATED An anguished mother sent this sad tale....if you respond, be sure to indicate that it was tale #14 so I can forward your email to her. Thanks. Alex. --------------------------- I want my son to have hope. He is still incarcerated at (our) County Prison. He is serving an 12 month less 1 day sentence for consensual sex with a minor. He was 19 at the time,she was 14. My son suffered from hemifacial paralysis when he was 18 months old. After 14 facial surgeries to reconstruct his eye, mouth and cheek, he suffered most of his childhood from low self esteem and never thought any girl would find him attractive. The surgeries improved his appearance and restored symmetry to his face. I thought he was very handsome, but he never saw anything but the scars. He and this girl found each other attractive and they had consensual sex. He felt so guilty, he turned himself in to police. The girl and her mother did not want to press charges, but the state did. Now he faces the public humiliation on the registry. He did take a plea bargain that sentenced him to less than one year in prison, with a year of parole afterward. We are still very green and do not have all of the information we need. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to finally express my son's story. (We will call him ¨Jerry¨ to preserve anonymity.)

Name Comment Shelley This caught my attention due to the ages mentioned and the fact that the State would not let this go. Prior to our situation, the DA was a friend of ours, which makes this such a mystery. We believe he bent over backwards to prove there was no favoritism to us, so here we are! My son passed polygraphs (more than one) regarding allegations of a vindictive 14-year-old (he was 19) who was then and is currently dating a 20-year-old purported drug dealer and talking online about sleeping with him, etc. That aside, even though my son passed the polygraphs addressing specifically her allegations word for word, he had to turn around and enter a plea of guilty so he could come home. He had been in jail for six months pending trial, but when the offer came from the Prosecutor for a five-year probationary sentence, he signed it! He was frightened, missed his family, and only wanted to come home. He is now a felony sex offender, cannot find a job anywhere in our small town (13,000), and his life seems ruined, but we do not despair. I am not promoting my agenda, but we have faith that God will direct us and show us the reason for all of this some day. Please let your son know of the countless others like him who are experiencing the same feelings about registration, but tell him as well that so many of us are working to effect some change in these laws and perhaps we will experience some victory soon. [ Contact us ]

Adult student fails class, blames prof. as rso

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 11.07.2008 Link to this story: [0013]

This painful ¨tale¨ is sent by a university teaching assistant, whose students found his name on the registry Although the statute I was convicted under (Wisconsin, convicted in 1995) will read as though I forcibly assaulted a child, in reality, I had sex with a 15 year old who told me she was 19. That's all I did. Now, I have to register every four months in Kansas (in person, at the police station, where I am frisked), and every year for the rest of my life in Wisconsin. I had hopes of getting through this, completing my PhD and becoming a professor. But last semester, A girl who failed the class I was teaching complained about me because she saw my name printed in the local newspaper, and stated that she was afraid to come talk to me. Can you believe that? I appreciate what you are trying to do, because my life is for the most part ruined because of the unnecessary stigma that has been assigned.

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Plea to save life, loses it!

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.07.2008 Link to this story: [0012]

This entry sent from a registered sex offender, is an important warning: Beware of so-called plea bargains, often put forth by defense lawyers, not understanding the long impact and humiliation of the sex offender registries - which are often retroactive, affecting people who pled years ago, thinking it was over. IT´S NOT OVER in America, folks. Again, BEWARE OF PLEA BARGAINS! Alex ¨Almost a decade ago, I took a plea deal in a corrupt town. I took a plea deal to save my life, but now I find I am losing it. I recently lost both my jobs, my house and am in debt. I cannot live in my old house; still available to me but the law prevents me from living there. I am homeless in a few days with no money, no food, no job, few friends who cannot provide me a place to sleep because of the laws. Parole (agents) cannot help me. All because I took a plea deal nearly a decade ago to save my life.¨

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Teens sharing cell phone pix dangerous

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 03.07.2008 Link to this story: [0011]

TEEN ATHLETE FACES HUMILIATION AND WORSE FOR CELL PHONE VIDEO TO FRIEND (This has been sent to RSOL by the boy´s father - if you want to let him know your support, send me an email and I´ll forward it!) Two teen atheletes shared 10 second videos on cellphones - For that, one now faces having to leave home, go to jail, and be placed on the internet sex offender registry for at least 10 years.... My son is in the backyard right now, sitting around a campfire with some friends. The thought of him being restricted from our house sickens me.... My son has been charged with \"Telephonic Dissemination of Obscene Material to a Minor\". He was an 18 year old high school senior when the charges were filed. The charges stem from a ten second cell phone video that was sent to another male high school senior who was 17 at the time (he sent the video on to others). Unfortunately, this type of behavior among high school students has become too common. My son was a well known athlete in town, and law enforcement has decided to make an example out of him in an attempt to curb such behavior. The local media coverage, propagated by local law enforcement, was incredible. The story was the lead story on all three local television stations, morning, noon, and night, for two days straight. It was devastating, and we literally put my son on a suicide watch. Now, the county attorney has proposed a deal where my son pleads guilty to the aforementioned charge, and receives a deferred judgment. My son has never had as much as a speeding ticket, and has been a good citizen. In discussions with our attorney and the judge, the county attorney has indicated that my son is not really a sex offender and the judge has indicated that he would be inclined to go along with a deferred judgment. Here\'s where the Iowa sex offender laws come into play. Although my son would have no criminal record, he would be forced to register as a sex offender for the next ten years. The county attorney thought that my son would come off of the sex offender list once he had completed the terms of the deferred judgment. He is wrong. This is a boy who has grown up in a day care (which my wife runs), who umpires youth baseball and softball, and who is very well liked in our very small hometown. He will be forced to move out of our house, and will not be allowed to visit. His college plans will be in serious jeopardy, and he will be branded and lumped in with truly dangerous criminals. Basically, his life will be destroyed, although no one in law enforcement believes that he is a threat at all. I do not believe that the intent of this law was to punish high school kids that exchange inappropriate cell phone material, but rather to protect young children from adult criminals. However, the Iowa sex offender laws are such that there is zero flexibility or room for common sense. My son’s court date is coming up. Given the extreme impact that the plea would have on his life, we have decided to try and fight the case in court. Until my son’s ordeal, I too was naïve to the injustices being caused by these ridiculous and wide ranging laws. They do not necessarily target the truly repulsive and dangerous criminals, and will result in many good people’s lives being ruined. I have two younger children, one girl and one boy. Hence, protecting children from dangerous people is a concern that I share with all parents. However, these laws are being used for entirely different reasons, with devastating consequences.

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Battered Woman put on registry

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@yahoo.com> Posted on 19.06.2008 Link to this story: [0010]

FROM A WOMAN IN FLORIDA Two days ago, my dearest friend in the world was forced to register as a sex offender. She is a single mother struggling to overcome a violently abusive relationship. Last year, she found comfort in the friendship of a young woman who helped her understand her abuse and begin the process of reaching out for professional help. One evening during the course of their brief friendship, they had sex. The encounter was entirely consensual; just two women sharing their feelings for each other in a very loving manner. Tragically, both this young woman and my friend were completely unaware of the fact that the state of Florida considered this sex act a criminal one. My friend was 35 years old and the young woman just a few months shy of her 18th birthday. Both believed the age of consent to be 16 and neither realized their age gap changed everything in the eyes of the law. In a fit of jealousy and rage, her abuser reported the relationship and my friend was promptly arrested. In the months since her arrest, my friend has been supported by the young woman and her parents; they wrote letters to the prosecution insisting they did not wish to pursue the case and did not feel my friend deserved any punishment whatsoever. The state persisted. The state prosecutor ordered my friend to submit herself to a psychosexual evaluation by a professional evaluator of the state's choosing. The results of that evaluation stated the evaluator felt my friend was sexually and psychologically healthy, had no sexual deviancies or tendencies toward children, did not pose a risk to society and did not need any sort of therapy or intervention. My friend had never had even so much as a speeding ticket, much less been in any sort of serious trouble with the law. She has no history of abuse in her own childhood, no mental health issues and no criminal record whatsoever. Immediately liked by everyone she meets, she has always been a good daughter, a loving friend, a principled employee and a highly regarded member of society. She has succeeded in her profession and has always spent her leisure time doing what she felt was most important; volunteering as a child abuse advocate, rescuing animals and spending time with her child. She is an adoring and compassionate mother with an amazing little boy. Despite all of this, the state of Florida forced her to register as a sex offender. It seems everything good she has ever done in her life is now undone. And the worst part is that, in addition to the obvious, sex offender designation is potentially going to destroy my friend's life in another, far more sinister way. She will never be able to safely avoid her abuser; a horrendous person who has, for too many years, assaulted, beaten, threatened and abused her and her child in ways I find too horrible to convey. My friend had just started the process of abuse recovery with the help of several battered women's shelter services. She enlisted in a program to help women and children hide from their abuser and had started the process of obtaining therapy for her and her child to heal from years of cruel abuse. Just a few weeks ago, she successfully obtained an injunction for protection from domestic violence for herself and her child. Her abuser's response to the restraining order? "You can't hide. You'll be on the sex offender list, I will always find you." And the state's response to that threat? Nothing. So, where there were none, the state of Florida created two victims. A battered woman and her little kid; forever at the mercy of their abuser because registered sex offenders are not afforded the privacy and protection necessary to shield them from imminent danger. They can always be found - by anyone - for any reason. What's worse, we have recently been informed that registered sex offenders are not allowed in battered women's shelters and are not eligible for the services offered by domestic violence organizations meant to protect women & children. Since she was designated a sex offender, the same people who, just days ago, were warning us that my friend and her child's life were in danger are now turning their backs. The very same people who offered her safety and shelter are now telling her she is on her own. Tonight and perhaps forever, she and her child are in danger because their abuser can (and I am certain will) find them through the registry. No one who can help us seems to care.

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Texas Teen facing long sentence

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.06.2008 Link to this story: [009]

Jean Ponzanelli was in court yesterday. His attorney asked the judge to reset his hearing on the writ. The attorney is asking the court to allow Jean to withrdraw his plea based on the immigration issue. The judge said he would reset the hearing for 7/2/08 as he doesn't see the writ happening. The judge also scheduled the revocation hearing for the same day. > So, looks like the judge will recommend the appellate court to deny the writ and will revoke Jean's probation and sentence him to prison on 7/2/08. Jean is looking at a 10 year prison term. > I just want someone to tell me this is really not happening in this great country of ours. The bottom line is that we are sending a kid to prison for having sex with another kid. The court will argue that he is being sent to prison for violating probation. I would argue the kid should not have been on probation in the first place since the kid should never have been arrested. Jean's probation was like purgatory. Now they are sending him to hell. > My heart truly breaks. jan

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It doesn't make sense!

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 24.05.2008 Link to this story: [007]

This terrible tale is sent anonymously from the "liberal" state of Wisconsin! Wisconsinites, unite and change these dreadful laws! IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE In late 1997 I was convicted of second degree sexual assault of a child. I was 19 years old when the consensual "offense" occured. I served 6 months jail and 3 1/2 years probation for the crime. Now 10 years later I find myself back on probation for something completely unrelated (domestic disorderly for arguing with girlfriend) and I am forced to comply with sex offender probation rules and restrictions once again because I was formerly on sex offender probation. It just doesn't make sense. I have worn this scarlet letter for ten years already. When I was sentenced I was only required to register for 15 years then they changed it to lifetime registrant. How can they legally keep changing these rules and restrictions? Why should this affect me and my family 10 years after I've been sentenced and served my time? Most recently I was notified that I am to immediatly evacuate my residence because I live to close to a "park". If by park they mean a section of grass with a sidewalk running through it and a couple benches then I guess I do. I guess they don't take into consideration that I live just as close to the police station next to the park. I have lived here for a month and have signed a one year lease.My probation officer suggested that I try to work it out with my landlord. Yeah I'm sure my landlord is going to be real understanding that the nice guy with a family that he rents to is a registered sex offender and might have to bail on the lease. I have also had to take antidepressants since shortly after the asault conviction. I still to this day have a constant fear being in public and wondering "who knows?". At least a convicted murderer gets the luxury of knowing when their sentence will end.

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Teenager Ponzanelli in Texas

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 18.05.2008 Link to this story: [006]

This entry is sent in about the teenager in Texas, Jean Ponzanelli, who is mentioned in a media item on rsol this week, too. The mother of a young woman who is Jean´s highschool friend sends futher information about this typically terrible tale. Jean himself had lived almost all his life in Texas and didn´t really understand that he was not a ¨citizen,¨ just a ¨legal alien.¨ His lawyer didn´t know that either when he suggested the ¨plea bargain.¨ Now, Jean is trying to withdraw the plea, because no matter how it goes otherwise, he will be deported. This battle seems hopeless at times and I've only been in the fight for 3 months. I believe getting these stories out there and opening the eyes of the public is the only way to bring about a change in these laws. Jean Ponzanelli is so creative. He draws, plays guitar, drums, he writes music, he is extremely gifted. He is also an avid skateboarder. Skateboarding was at one time the most important thing to him. He recently told me that for the first time in his life he cares for something more than skateboarding. He cares for his life that is at stake. He is in Williamson County jail for now. He is being treated for depression and insomnia. I can not imagine what these boys (mostly) go through. Thanks again, Round Rock, Texas

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RSOs Can´t flip hamburgers in Ga

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 17.05.2008 Link to this story: [005]

the laws need to be changed! In Georgia, people are condemned to a life of nothing. you cant even get a job flipping a hambureger for gods sakes. what do you do, your life is condemned anyway? my husband´s case is not what the laws say. a judge in our county made sure of that. there were 8 cases in that county in that year and everyone of them were guilty even if they didnt do it. some of them were guilty of the crime, (some not guilty) and they got not what they deserved but what the judge said they did. you cant judge; you cant fight what he says, not even to the supreme court, and justice is supposed to work for everyone. you tell me - what about the people that are small and cant afford to fight. thank you for the address of the Georgia chapter. i will never give up. god help me!

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Children, victims of father´s perceived crimes

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.05.2008 Link to this story: [004]

This ¨Tale¨ is chosen because the wife´s description of her husband and herself are both honest and compelling. They show how very good people have their lives ruined - and nobody is protected, everybody loses, including the children, and including society! The names and the state have been omitted to keep the anonymity of the persons involved. a.m. From the wife of a sex offender ¨out west.¨ I have chosen to sign because I have watch the change in laws slowly destroy my husband. I don’t clam his innocent or his guilt as that was decided years ago when he took the plea agreement. I have found that claming his innocence, which I believe in, only makes my statement seem biased and defensive. His innocence or guilt doesn’t really matter anyways. The person he is matters! His criminal history only has two marks - The 13 year old conviction that made him a Sex Offender (lewdness w/ a minor under 14, His accuser was 13) and a 9 year old conviction for failure to register. The failure to register was simply a forgotten thing and he spent a 3 day weekend in jail to which the judge after hearing his side took his guilty plea and gave him time served. Thank God for small favors and a touch of understanding. But back to the man he is. ¨Gordon¨ (name changed) is one of the strong people I know; his soul, his heart, and his mind have survived so much and he has not lost his love of life, the ability to laugh at himself, or his ability to love and honor his friends and family. He has a grandeur of manner, and magnanimity of personality. He is spontaneously creative, outgoing, warm hearted and plain spoken; as well as ambitious, courageous, strong willed, independent, and self-confident. In his relations with others he is open, sincere, genuine and trusting. He is a wonderful father to our living children. He is also a father who is grieving; grieving for his beloved children who were born into heaven, grieving for the plans that will never take place. He morns the lives that will never be lived and the sons that he will never know. Sometimes he can be one of the most unpleasant human beings imaginable, displaying autocratic pride, and an excessive temper; becoming self-centered, boastful, pompous, and overbearing. But that is part of his Leoness. Besides I can be ten times worse than him, as I am sure everyone else can too. He was a tier 2 in our state by 6 points. These ¨points¨I believe are unfair because on the form you get 6 points for both refusing counseling or not needing it. He never refused it, just didn’t need it. Next year we would have been allowed to ask for a review of his rating and hearing to possibly reduce it. A new law has passed and as of July 1st 2008 he will be considered a tier 3 and we have no way to ask for that review hearing. He is also now under a life time commitment to register publicy. It has been hard enough for him to find work, now we feel it will be impossible. Who he is doesn’t matter. Almost 15 years and no reoffence or anything but a simple mistake with registration. He works, pays taxes, and for the first time in years (10 years) got to vote in 2004. He loves his children but avoids the close relationship with our daughter he has with our son. For the first 3 months of her life ha was scared to even hold her, when someone started to use CPS to harass him it got worse. He has never given her a bath and doesn’t like to help her get dressed. He doesn’t like going to the park even as we live in a small town and he fear what someone might think or say about him with his children. So I fully agree with the statement and wish my husband could sign it as well. I hope the laws change because I feel the unfairness that is pushed on my family shouldn’t be suffered by anyone, let alone the children like mine who are becoming victims of the perceived crimes of their father.

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Innocent Man Exonerated!

By Alex Marbury <alexm60@fastmail.fm> Posted on 16.05.2008 Link to this story: [003]

A Tale of Eventual Justice, sent in by an RSOL participant from Oregon! Without money, forget justice! Never take a plea bargain if you are innocent! They are NEVER bargains! Wrongfully accused and indicted and ultimately had charges dropped. A vindictive ex partner in business planted cd\'s that contained CP on them in a loaner car I used for two days. I was indicted by a politically motivated prosecutor (who is now a judge) and my life ruined as a result. Being accused makes you guilty and being exonerated means you had a good attorney who \"got you off\" I went from making 16,500 a month to 5,000 a month, I lost the life that I had spent a lifetime working towards. The financial stress it created caused me to lose my wife who had stood by me for the 3 1/2 years it took to finally get this case to trial. The charges were dropped by the new prosecutor who took the case after the first one had been elected judge. She said they had no evidence and no witnesses making getting a conviction extrmely problematic. Before they dropped the charges but after they knew that I wasn't guilty they tried to get me to plead to something ...anything ...no jail time no fine as long as whatever I plead to forced me to become a registered sex offender- socieities biggest pariah! (Thank goodness this person refused!) This will be the hardest fight we will ever face. It is almost impossible to get a politician to appear to be soft on crime and especially soft on sex crimes ...and especially ones involving minors.

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Summer Camp Fling a Nightmare For Teen

By The Parents <> Posted on 15.04.2008 Link to this story: [002]

Try to imagine, you're 17, a junior in high school on summer vacation. You're unusually tall and still a bit awkward with girls. At a local resort you meet a girl vacationing with her parents, she is beautiful and she actually likes you. After a few days she invites you to her cabin while her parents are away. With heart pounding nervousness, you're both kissing and touching each other. A phone rings, you're interrupted and this ends the encounter. Seems so innocent, maybe a preview to an after school special. Now imagine, two days later you are arrested for a violent rape. You tell the police everything you know about the beautiful girl you'd met, you tell them about the kissing, the touching and you swear to God that you never had intercourse. You're given a Public Defender who tells you the rape tests support the girls claim and that he has worked his magic and convinced the DA to entertain a plea of "lewd and lascivious acts" , it's "less than rape" and he also worked a miracle to keep it in Juvenile Court. Yes, this Public Defender saved your life and you should be forever in his debt, right? The plea is accepted and he is formally charged with PC 280 (a), Lewd and lascivious acts with a child under 14". Yes, in court we all learned this beautiful girl, fully developed and far more mature he, is only 13. The touching and kissing is a felony, child molestation, a registerable offence, a life long sentence. Mandatory minimums sends this young boy to the California Youth Authority for a three year term. He is to attend a sex offender treatment program and he is to be housed with all the other sex offenders. During his first two weeks he is beaten severely, given the nick name "Chester" by the cruel and extremely corrupt guards. He is bunked next to a 19 year old who has been in the system for most of his life. His latest crime was the rape and vicious beating of a three year old. This boy entered the CYA a normal red blooded teenager, a varsity basketball and football player, some minor scrapes with local police, but nothing serious. He is now an angry 25 year old man, full of hate and resentment. He is a registered child molester and is required to report in every time he moves and 10 days before his birthday each year. His birthday is early January, which makes the holidays particularly bad. If pulled over by any law enforcement he is required to show his RSO card, this leads to ridicule by the officer and the complete devastation of any friend he may have with him. This is a true story and if you don't think it could happen to you or your son, you need to open your eyes and look at the thousands of young boys in California who are living the same nightmare. I am of the belief that nothing will be done to change the over zealous sex offender laws in California until this happens to a Senators son, maybe Arnolds son. There is not one politician who will to step up and point out that the current SO Laws are destroying the lives of thousands of young boys. Behind closed doors they all sympathies with my son's story and wish me luck in my endeavor to change the law, but not one of them will help write a bill to just tweak the current legislation, to add in some common sense. It's political suicide to show compassion for a RSO, or to be seen as soft on crime. Postscript: I thought you'd be interested in the circumstances that lead to the accusation of rape. The girl was terrified of the punishment in store for her so she said "I didn't invite him, he just came over and started kissing me". That snowballed into a violent rape story. She was rushed to the hospital, given a rape exam and released. We had asked to look at the results of the rape test, but the miraculas Public Defender told us that because it was a Juvenile case we were not "privy" to those records. After nearly a year in CYA he was examined by a Dr. Data to determine what type of SO treatment program was needed to meet the court requirement. Dr. Data believed our son and he requested the entire court folder, including rape test results. As it turned out, the girl was a virgin, she had not been raped and in fact while being interviewed by a nurse she admitted the contact had been consensual. Dr. Data wrote a letter to the Youthful Defender Parole Board and requested that our son be released based on the lies the DA and the Public Defender had been guilty of. This was denied because it was a plea and because he had admitted to kissing and touching her.....A FELONY. Dr. Data did succeed in removing him from any sex offender treatment program and allowing him to be moved to a non sex offender unit. This did not stop the abuse and the nick name "Chester". The registration requirement would stay as well. During our son's three years in CYA the girl gave birth to a child (maybe two) fathered by a boy the same age as our son. He was never charged.

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Son to Governor Crist: Please Let My Father Out Of Jail!

By Christopher William P. <unknown> Posted on 20.02.2008 Link to this story: [001]

A letter sent by the 15 year old son of a registered sex offender to the Governor of Florida: Dear Governor Crist: I'd like to tell you a story; a story of a family composed of two sons, 9 and 5, and a mother, with a potentially fatal heart condition. For three long years, on every Saturday, this family visited Bill Pratt, a sex offender, in jail for an hour. It was a long trek to the jail, and almost every time we went, we were harassed by the guards. "Your not allowed to wear chachi pants," or "Stamp with your left hand not your right!" said the guards, as we were shoved in the the small, tight, and loud maximum security room, with armed guards at every few meters. Every week we would drive an hour there and an hour back in the cold New Jersey night, and if we were minutes late, then too bad, the guards didn't care; they didn't care that we were two innocent kids and a single mom, working two jobs who had more then enough stress for five people combined. But they didn't care, and treated us so. Finally, after those long, strenuous years of legalized harassment and hours of crying in dark corners, his day had come, my dad was being let free. By that time, we had already moved to Florida. He jumped into his car, and drove down to Florida. Now it's expected that we lived happily every after as a good happy family, right? Well it has kind of turned out a bit differently then expected. Over the years after my father´s emancipation, I as an individual, as well as my mother, and especially my brother, because everyone knows kids can be real bastards, have faced ridicule, outcast, and have been denied friends and opportunities because my dad's a sex offender. Our entire family, me included, has had multiple mental breakdowns, where we have had serious problems such as overeating, heart related chest pains, and failing every subject in school along with being late every day. Along with that, my mother's stress is still through the roof, what with having to still work two jobs and overtime just to keep us out of debt, and the fact that my dad can't keep a job for more then a few months. All he can find work at is construction companies paying little above the minimum wage because he is a sex offender. Keep in mind that this man has a masters degree in business, and was one of the top managers at Lockeed Martin at the time. I am now 15, enduring worsening hardship with each passing year. I thought by now, as with all other ex-felon families, that all of this would be behind us and I could enjoy life as a normal teenager. But, my father was arrested while going to work because the police thought that he had not registered a temporary address. He was in fact registered at our home, but the police wouldn't listen. So to keep him out of jail for even more undeserved years in that overcrowded hellhole, my mother had to use the families last $2000 to bail him out of jail and we are still paying for the attorney, to keep him out of prison. And now, when things were starting to look up, what happens? 5 days before Christmas, he is arrested again while going to work, because of a suspiciously deliberate administrative screw up by the state of New Jersey and they are threatening to extradite him back to New Jersey, when they new all along my father was legally registered as a resident of Florida (for the past 3-1/2 years). This means many things for my family. My mother will - almost guaranteed - die because of her heart condition, my brother will fail 6th grade, and we will probably never see my father again. He will miss my mother´s passing away, my brothers´ and my first girlfriends, our highschool graduation, our college graduation, and maybe even our marriages. I'm sure the father's of our Constitution (yes, I am an honor student, learning about this not-so great country) could not have envisioned the laws of today. Yet, please, uphold what they set forth, and understand that my mother, brother and I have lost our civil rights to privacy, because of the out of control sex offender laws. Governor, please do not allow my brother, mother and I to continue as collateral victims to a crime of my father's that was long ago and which he already paid for. We want and need him back in our life. Please, we have suffered so much already and you are the only one who can help us!! Please let my father out of jail- he didn't do anything, but go to work. We can't bear being without him again. He is all we have- we have no other family (no grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.) and have passed too many holidays alone. Thank you for your time and I hope, clemency, for my father. We need him back!! Christopher William P. (for privacy sake- if there is such a thing in my life?)

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